NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

We just got home from hosting our first Naughty Gym weekend at X Club, and we are telling the whole story. In this episode, Scott, April, and Andy recap four days at one of the most impressive lifestyle clubs they have visited. They share what surprised them about X Club, why it felt welcoming for both first-timers and longtime lifestyle people, how the club separates partying from play, and why t...

Fear, jealousy, and insecurity are some of the most common struggles couples face in the lifestyle, swinging, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy. But what should you actually do when those feelings show up? In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott talk about the normal fears that come up in the lifestyle, including body comparison, fear of being replaced, anxiety around t...

How good are you really at reading people? Most of us like to believe we are above average at detecting lies, sensing energy, reading body language, picking up on vibes, and knowing what someone “really means.” But the research tells a very different story. In this episode, April and Scott unpack one of the most quietly destructive patterns in relationships: the confidence we place in our own inte...

Yes, we’re part of a new lifestyle resort project in Florida, and in this episode we bring on Jimmy Thorpe to talk about the vision, the opportunity, and what could become one of the most exciting lifestyle destinations in the United States. But the real story is bigger than the property. This conversation is about where non monogamy is headed. For a long time, a lot of lifestyle spaces have been...

In this episode, April, Scott, and therapist Catherine from Expansive Connection unpack the raw, surprising, and powerful reality of the very first Wild Love Theory retreat. They share what shocked them most, what couples struggled with, what breakthroughs happened in real time, and why the weekend felt deeper than any of them expected. From vulnerable men opening up, to hard conversations about f...

In this episode of the Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the biggest shifts in their relationship so far: removing boundaries, testing freedom in real life, and learning what trust actually looks like when it is no longer theoretical. They talk openly about a major miscommunication that turned into a powerful experiment in non-monogamy, what happened when April gave...

In this raw and deeply personal episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the hardest parts of open relationships and relational freedom: how couples actually revisit rules, boundaries, jealousy, and emotional capacity in real time. Using a powerful tool from their upcoming Wild Love Theory book and workbook, they walk through the exact process they use to id...

Before we jump into today’s conversation, we share a major announcement: after months of quiet work behind the scenes, we reveal that we’ve been involved with a group that is under contract to acquire what many consider one of the premier lifestyle resorts in Florida. Because of SEC rules, we have to be careful about what we say publicly, but we’re excited to share the project, the vision, and the...

This week on The Naughty Gym Show, April takes the wheel for a real-time life update that starts with a chaotic wine-night incident (yes—April fell down 13 of 15 stairs in plush slippers… and Scott’s first response was to laugh 🙃) and turns into one of your most honest conversations yet. From there, you unpack what’s been swirling behind the scenes: launching your Patreon (with tiers starting at...

What if the goal is not to erase jealousy, but to stop letting it drive the car? Dr. Marie Thouin joins April and Scott to define compersion in clear, grounded terms, and to explain why it can show up as an emotion, an attitude, or even simple supportive neutrality. They talk about the spectrum from “I can handle this” to genuine joy, the “second arrow” of self-inflicted suffering, and the conditi...

Jealousy isn’t always about fear of losing your partner. Sometimes it’s about losing yourself. In this episode, April and Scott share a real, recent story from their open-relationship journey that completely reframed what jealousy can mean—and it leads to a breakthrough concept they call “imposed burdens.” After Scott goes on a separate date (with April’s full consent and clear emotional parameter...

In this live event recording, sex educator Luna Matatas breaks down why kink can feel so electrifying by exploring the psychology of power, risk, and taboo and how “eroticism” is really the felt sense of being lit up in mind and body. She offers a practical way to translate fantasy into real life by focusing less on props and more on the feelings and “flavors” you want to create, building a clear...

April and Scott recap Be Better at Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism—day by day—covering the themes, the workshops, the connection circles, and the parties that made this year’s week feel like the best yet. From Rave Bingo and fundraising for the Hedo Foundation to the Glow Party, foam party chaos, and the Superheroes & Villains night where “Professor X” somehow became “Doctor Strange,” they share th...

This week’s second special episode is Scott’s opening keynote from Be Better At Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism II Resort: The Freedom Mandate: The Ethical Case for Relational Freedom. Scott unpacks Wild Love Theory’s seven-word thesis, “Maximum relational happiness requires maximum relational freedom,” and asks the question that can feel both inspiring and terrifying: If your partner’s happiness matte...

In this opening keynote from Naughty Gym's Be Better At Being Bad Takeover at Hedonism Resort, Coach April invites you into a deeply honest exploration of desire, identity, and self trust. Through personal stories and lived experience, she challenges the roles, labels, and expectations that shape what we think we should want and asks a more powerful question: what do you actually want? This talk i...

2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show , we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date —the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)...

April and Scott recap a wild (and unexpectedly meaningful) night out: a sexy Santa & Mrs. Claus gig at an LGBTQ-friendly Christmas party that turns into a real-time relationship test. By the end of the night, April, who historically hasn’t felt fully comfortable claiming that kind of freedom, finds herself laughing, connecting, and eventually agreeing to a dinner date with a newly divorced sin...

Welcome back to The Naughty Gym Show! In this episode, April and Scott catch you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes — from finishing their Wild Love Theory book to launching a stacked calendar of retreats for 2025 and beyond. They start with updates on Be Better at Being Bad at Hedonism II and their new “Fuck Melissa” fundraiser shirt supporting the Hedo Cares Foundation afte...

April and Scott are back from the Smoky Mountains and very well-rested… because they slept for 3 days. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April & Scott share details about their upcoming gig as sexy Mr. & Mrs. Claus at Sapphire Starlington’s Christmas party in Huntsville before diving into a day-by-day recap of their Naughty Holidaze retreat. You’ll hear how 14 adventurous couples (p...

Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples. In this episode (throuple-forward): • Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “ever...

Rejection happens in the lifestyle. What do you do with the sting. April and Scott sit down with pleasure educator Luna Matatas to unpack expectations, etiquette, and empathy when play does not line up for all four people. They dig into clear asks, enthusiastic consent, and how to set goals that are sexual, sensual, and social so the night still feels like a win. Luna shares her worst threesome, h...

What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when t...

In this playful and thought-provoking episode, Scott and April explore one of the most surprising dynamics in the lifestyle: choosing connection over sex. With their friends Dave and Andi, hosts of Tales of The Lastborns, they discuss topics as varied as “blue-ball moments” at full resort takeovers to the deeper reasons why some swingers deliberately opt for fewer play sessions, at least for a sea...

In this raw and hilarious episode, April and Scott sit down with their dear friend Roderick — filmmaker of Open: A Journey Through Love — to explore the intersections of neurodivergence and non-monogamy. From awkward flirting misfires to the surprising superpowers of direct communication, the three share personal stories about autism, sensory overwhelm, compersion, and why neurodivergent lovers mi...

What happens when Naughty Gym hands over the reins for the very first time? In this episode, Scott (“The Coyote Whisperer”) and April sit down with coaches Matt & Cara to unpack the very first PNW Naughty Gym meetup in Portland, Oregon. The day started at Sauvie Island’s clothing optional beach and ended with a packed Naughty Gym takeover at Club Pravada — one of Portland’s most iconic lifesty...