My Intimacy Therapist

Episode Notes Sometimes the hum of life becomes monotonous, routine, exhausting. You may be feeling a lack of luster in your relationship, or even fatigued from the everyday efforts of relationship maintenance. This episode contains a bit of validation and a potential action step for you. Next Steps Visit myintimacytherapist.com for free resources or to schedule a therapy consultation Enjoying the...

Episode Notes If you are single and are part of the Christian faith, this episode is made specially for you! Today's guest is the CEO and co-founder of If You Know You Know Dating - and if you've been in the dating pool for a hot minute, frustrated with the lack of folks who are looking for the same thing as you...then you have to check out this episode. And, of course - grab a ticket for the next...

Episode Notes We're back! Does that make this a "Season 2" of sorts? In this episode, we discuss a mindset shift to relieve the tension and anxiety that comes with worrying about what your partner is or isn't doing for you. It's a tricky one...but there are a lot of more helpful benefits that can come with "staying in your lane" versus hyperfocusing on what is out of your contr...

Episode Notes Themes: deconstruction, purity culture, sex in marriage, mental health, relationships, Christianity It's important to me to create an inviting space for challenging questions, open curiosity, and lots of nuance. And so, here is another real story that you may be able to relate to! Ayana Lage is a lifestyle blogger and freelance writer. She writes about motherhood, mental health, soci...

Episode Notes Themes: boundaries, expectations, control, trust, affair recovery Control is suffocating when you're trying to build trust and intimacy in a relationship. Learn the difference between communicating your boundaries and expectations from an open, collaborative stance versus from a controlling stance. Next Steps Follow me on Instagram @myintimacytherapist Want Dating Coaching? myintimac...

Episode Notes Themes: communication skills, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment If you don't know how to answer the question "what do you need?", or if you would consider yourself to not be a "needy" person, this episode is for you! Let's talk about how to communicate with our significant other in a way that brings us closer (intimacy) and give them chances to care for you....

Episode Notes **TRIGGER WARNING Themes: domestic violence, abusive relationship, toxic relationship, survivor of abuse, divorce, trauma, Christian divorce, healthy relationship Real Stories Relational trauma and abuse is a experience that so many individuals suffer through in isolation. Today's episode guest and I discuss her experience of an abusive relationship and how she found healing and hope...

Episode Notes Themes: therapy, counseling, first session, marriage counseling, individual therapy So you did it! You made the first step and you contacted a therapist to schedule your initial session. Now that the date is on the calendar, you may be feeling a lot of things... Relieved? Anxious? Hopeful? Terrified? Listen to this episode. Let's talk about it. Spoiler alert: you're gonna do great! N...

Episode Notes Themes: Communication issues, passive aggressiveness, conflict resolution, dating, past baggage We often see posts on social media and the internet warning you about your partner's red flags... but what about yours? It's time to look inside in order to get a head start on improving your relationship. I know that you simply want to be heard and understood by your partner, and this is...

Episode Notes Themes: codependent relationship, codependency, separation anxiety, anxious attachment, long-distance relationship, military spouse, infidelity/affairs This podcast episode is thanks to a listener request! Separation anxiety can originate in a lot of different ways - and can play out differently as well. Let's talk about how to better understand the origins in order to directly addre...

Episode Notes Themes: conflict resolution, communication skills, vulnerability, shame, emotional intimacy, men Men have been through some stuff. Between high expectations on who they should be, plus the inability to "open up" without being perceived as weak, it seems like there is no emotional safety zone for the guys out there. Except for their relationship. The special person they've c...

Episode Notes Themes: communication issues, conflict resolution, trust, broken trust, following through If your relationship is experiencing trust issues, it can feel like all of your efforts are being poured into a bottomless glass. Frustration is likely high, and the warm and fuzzy feelings are hard to get back. I have a suggestion that goes to the root of the problem: consistent self-discipline...

Episode Notes Themes: communication style, communication issues, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, communicating about sex Have you ever had a moment where someone - a partner, a friend, a therapist - asks you a question, and you completely draw a blank? "I don't know!" you immediately blurt out. This episode is all about how you can find the answer within so that you can dig deep...

Episode Notes Sex therapy is a subset of marriage and family therapy that focuses on improving sexual dysfunctions and intimacy issues. If you have never heard of it before and are curious about how it can help you, you'll want to tune into this episode! Examples of intimacy issues: partners have different sex drive/libido, inability to communicate about sex, vaginismus (sexual pain), anorgasmia (...

Episode Notes Themes: Conflict Resolution, Communication Skills, Dating, Marriage, Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Pursue-Withdraw In this episode, Shaun Galanos ( @thelovedrive ) and I get into a fight. (Don't worry, it's just a role play). Listen as an argument explodes with two conflicting styles of communication. Then, listen as we dissect what went wrong and try it again with our hel...

Episode Notes So often, our intimate lives run on autopilot: as long as the hormones and good emotions are flowing, we're all good! But what happens when the hormones take a day (or year) off? When life becomes a bit more routine? How do you keep an active and satisfying intimate life? It isn't about keeping up with sexual trends or waiting for your partner to initiate. It's about knowing what you...

Episode Notes If you were raised in Purity Culture and are not trying to figure out how to integrate spirituality and sexuality as an adult, this one is just for you! Use these prompts to help you cultivate values and a sexual ethic - and definitely pause the episode to give yourself as much time as you need! Journaling encouraged :) Next Steps Join the Dating Events email list!!! Work with me: 15...

Episode Notes You know what you want in a relationship, but you can't seem to find anyone to match your energy. Well...what if your energy is actually counterproductive to the relationship that you're trying to create? What if you are part of the problem? Next Steps 15-minute consultation for dating coaching Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Contribute via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sadej...

Episode Notes Are you the initiator or "driver" in your relationship - meaning nothing gets done without you? Or, maybe you are happy to receive and do what your partner needs, but you're often told that that isn't enough. Let's talk about this relationship dynamic and why being on polar opposites of the spectrum may be sabotaging happiness and intimacy in your relationship. See the epis...

Episode Notes If you are single and have experienced anxious attachment, toxic relationships, red flags, ghosting, situationships and all the like - this episode is for you! Our guest, Amber Grubenmann, is the creator of the highly-rated Women's Dating And Confidence Podcast. She works with women of all backgrounds in her group and 1:1 coaching programs helping them go from dating to exclusive- wi...

Episode Notes If you and your partner are stuck in communication issues, you can likely think of one thing that they continuously ask you to do... but you haven't done it yet. Or, you've tried, but they still seem unsatisfied. It's time to get real. Let's talk about how to make changes and meet our partner's needs. Resources Blog post: "How to Choose the Right Therapist" Intimacy...

Episode Notes Knowing why you and your partner are together can help you connected and on the same page in your relationship. What type of relationship do you want? In other words, think about what you consider to be important in a relationship. Next Steps Support the podcast! Donate via patreon.com/sadejovanne Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify! Go to the Podcast page in your app...

Episode Notes Disclaimer : Podcast episodes and relationship content are for educational purposes only and do not count as a substitute or form of therapeutic intervention or treatment. Consult with a psychotherapist or begin counseling in order to get specific guidance for your circumstances. This episode is for those who are currently in an affair or feel they are in a compromising situation. Wh...

Episode Notes If you have experienced searing pain, burning, or the "hitting a wall" feeling when you attempt intercourse, you've likely already done your research and learned of a term called vaginismus. In this episode, pelvic floor therapist Dr. Laura Meihofer and I give you the inside scoop! Dr. Laura Meihofer is an experienced pelvic floor Physical Therapist, athletic trainer and yo...

Episode Notes What happens when you are raised in Purity Culture - then become a parent? This episode explores common questions that parents have when trying to decide how to talk to their kids about sex and sexual development. Our special guest, Dr. Camden Morgante, is a psychologist in the state of Tennessee currently writing a book on the myths of Purity Culture. DISCLAIMER: Remember, this podc...