My Intimacy Therapist

Episode Notes It's possible to be compatible with someone for dating, but not for marriage! In this episode, be challenged on whether your current partner (or the people you date) are great candidates for long-term relationship, or if your connection may only work in the dating experience! Next Steps Subscribe to the podcast to get updates on NEW EPISODES! If you appreciate what you hear, support...

Episode Notes "New year, new me" isn't real; well, not on autopilot. In this final episode of the year, we talk about the how of transitioning from one chapter to the next - whether it's based on a calendar year or simply your decision to make a change in your lifestyle, relationships, or goals. Next Steps SUBSCRIBE on your podcast platform! Support the podcast on Patreon Follow on Insta...

Episode Notes Let's be clear: intimacy is hard work. And if Intimacy were the superhero with the flowing cape, Shame would be the villain always trying to sabotage the moment. So if you want intimate relationships and want to know how to proactively address the shame that comes up, this episode is for you! Next Steps SUBSCRIBE to the podcast! You'll get automatic updates when a new episode is live...

Episode Notes "Comparison is the thief of joy"; have you heard that phrase before? It's so true. If you get caught up in comparison mindset, it's easy to find yourself spiraling lower and lower into a negative headspace. This meditation may be a bit challenging - after all, sometimes it's hard for us to believe good things for ourselves - but it will help reorient your thinking. Give it...

Episode Notes On this podcast, we talk about intimacy that is multifaceted: spiritual, emotional, and physical all combined. But what does it look like to share spiritual intimacy with a partner? I personally believe that spiritual intimacy can be uniquely created by each couple. That is, you and your partner get to intentionally decide what it means to share and grow in spirituality together. It...

Episode Notes Have you ever minimized your feelings about something? Maybe you feel hurt, afraid or anxious...but you choose to focus on all of the reasons why you shouldn't feel that way. Or why it isn't a big deal. Let's talk about balance between validating your experience while also not allowing you feelings to take hold of the steering wheel. Whether you're single, dating or in a relationship...

Episode Notes The "relationship plant" is my practical tip to help you meet the specific needs of your relationship and your soul! When you can be aware of what is most important to keep your relationship nourished and well, you'll be more likely to catch areas that are slipping before it becomes a crisis. This is for individuals, too! Keep your personal plant thriving, and you'll be abl...

Episode Notes "You decide who you want to be in relationship." -Manwell Reyes If we're being honest, we BS ourselves in relationships all the time. Do you really not see your toxic traits? Did you really not see those red flags in your partner when you were dating them? Truth is, both people play parts in relationship dysfunction. And if you are thinking, "I didn't do anything to de...

Episode Notes You know the experience of FOMO, being left out while everyone is celebrating their next big thing? You're single, and everyone is celebrating their new relationship or engagement. You're in a relationship, but attending everyone else's wedding. You are actively trying to become a parent, and feel disheartened when yet another friend posts a pregnancy announcement on social media. Fo...

Episode Notes **Please note: podcasts episodes are not a form of, or replacement for, therapeutic treatment. Please consult with a licensed therapist in order to receive direct therapeutic intervention for your specific story. Are you choosing relationships consciously, or on autopilot? When we choose relationships on autopilot (i.e. going with what feels right, what we're used to, what's familiar...

Episode Notes There are many ways to self-sabotage in a relationship, but triangulation is one of the most dangerous. Sometimes, our relationship (us + our partner) experiences too much stress or tension. There's an elephant in the room that we don't know how to discuss. A problem we don't know how to resolve. An issue that we repeatedly blow up about. But when we feel incapable of approaching the...

Episode Notes Dating as a single adult can be...a challenge, to say the least. It's hard to know what makes someone a valuable partner, or what makes someone a walking red flag. In this episode, relationship coach Shaun Galanos (also known as The Love Drive) joins us to talk about popular dating myths. We're sure you've heard some of these before... Remember: relationships are fluid and people are...

Episode Notes On your journey towards personal development, healing from trauma, or creating a long-lasting relationship, you're going to notice that you feel.... tired. You might even think that you haven't made any progress! This episode is your personal pick-me-up. You're doing the work. Keep going. Listen again and again if it helps you remember this. Next Steps: For homework, try making a lis...

Episode Notes If you are up to date on the Marvel Cinematic Universe, then you know that the Infinity Stones were a big deal over the past few years. This episode offers a unique twist on: how can you use the infinity stones to benefit your relationship? ACTION STEPS: Enjoyed this episode? Take a minute to leave A 5-STAR REVIEW on Apple Podcasts! Why? It helps this show appear higher in search res...

Episode Notes Starting a new dating relationship or entering the newlywed phase can be....surprising. After finding the person that you absolutely adore, you may feel shocked to find that opening up, letting down your walls, and getting close to your boo creates a lot of tension, anxiety, or confusion that you didn't previously feel. Maybe you've experienced Purity Culture and aren't sure how to c...

Episode Notes Sure, orgasms are widely bragged about in TV, songs, and maybe in your circle of close friends. But what if you haven't ever had an orgasm before? What if you're having trouble with your current partner? What if you don't know what an orgasm is, really? Here's your discreet episode to understand how mind, body and soul come together to create the orgasmic experience - and (plot twist...

Episode Notes I've always been in love with story as a format to better understand concepts... so here you go! Disclaimer: this is completely fictional and is not based on any real persons. However, this story is one that you may be able to relate to. Action Steps Get the Intimacy Mindset Makeover online course (with individual & couple activities!) Explore the blog on my website: https://www....

Episode Notes Being able to discuss your likes, dislikes, needs and desires around intimacy is very important to the health of your relationship. So this episode is full of questions to spark communication with your boo! DISCLAIMER: Make wise decisions. Podcasts episodes are not a form of clinical intervention, and they are not a substitute for therapy. Get in touch with a therapist in your area (...

Episode Notes Today, my primary focus as a licensed marriage and family therapist is in helping couples develop healthy communication and expectations around sexual intimacy. But trust me, I didn't start out being comfortable talking about sex with people. If you feel uncomfortable discussing intimacy with your partner, or even seeing yourself as a sexual person, sex therapy is a great option for...

Episode Notes If you have experienced a change in your body - or maybe you were simply born into a body - that causes you to feel insecure about your femininity, this episode is for you. Of course, what you see and hear each day can impact your view of self. And if you tend to compare yourself to others, that can only intensify the feelings of being "less than" or "not enough"...

Episode Notes If you are looking to build trust in a new dating relationship, or rebuild trust in a long-term relationship or marriage, this is the formula you need! Security = Consistency over time Next Steps For action-oriented guidance in your relationship, book a free 15-minute consultation with me! Let's talk about your needs and make it happen! Schedule here for dating coaching Schedule here...

Episode Notes "Follow your heart" seems like a popular mantra today. And, I get the allure... but what if you miss out on your deepest desires simply because your feelings held the steering wheel? Follow on Instagram: @ myintimacytherapist | @ sadejovanne Ready for your personal dating coach? Book a free consultation here

Episode Notes This is a mindfulness meditation meant to boost your confidence. Save this for later and listen when you need a pick-me-up! Remember to Subscribe to this podcast! Say "hello" on Instagram @ myintimacytherapist

Episode Notes Intimacy requires time to unfold. It needs to be discovered, explored. The problem is... true intimacy is incompatible with the instant gratification and mind-numbing nature of social media. You can't afford to let social media sabotage your intimate life, luv. This is a non-negotiable. Next Steps Are you having trouble getting to the "slow-down" of intimacy. I've got you....

Episode Notes As you know, I'm all about tying the sexual and spiritual together. Intimate, connected sex asks for a complete letting-go. That means no control, and a full state of release. This episode explores how our sense of control and desire to be "polished" in other areas of our life - our faith, for example - can negatively impact our ability to let go during intimacy. Come chat...