Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship

It is so much easier to tell people what we don't like or don't want but it is more difficult and takes more effort to ask people for what we want. To ask for what we want takes more effort,  we have to first identify what it is we even want, and then figure out how to explain that to others. The problem with always talking about what we don't like is that it doesn't get us any closer to what it i...

Is your relationship in danger of failing? Researcher John Gottman is known for his ability to predict the end of a relationship with over 90% accuracy. He was able to identify specific negative communication patterns that predict divorce, which he names  The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. 1. Criticism, 2. Contempt, 3. Defensiveness, and 4. Stonewalling. In this podcast we will explain what these 4...

When you're in conflict what do you do when your conversation goes sideways? PAUSE! In this podcast we discuss how to take a pause and step back and allow your emotions to calm down in the midst of difficult conversations and conflict.  No really your brain can't handle it, you need this tool! We discuss the biology of anger and how it affects your brain and why it can make it so difficult for you...

Often we get into unhealthy cycles that are difficult to change.  Are you always chasing your spouse to talk about problems? Or maybe you are the one that is always running away from talking about problems from your spouse? In this podcast we will walk you through the Pursuer Distancer Relationship and how to change it!   **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group Yo...

The holidays can be a rough time for many people, for different reasons.  In today's podcast we discuss 10 tips that will help you to survive, and thrive as we enter into the holiday season.    **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intende...

What we think and what we say has a great influence on the world around you. In this podcast we will discuss 3 different studies that talk about the effect that our beliefs and even our statements have on outcomes.    The first study we talk about is the Blue Eyed vs. Brown Eyed Study. In this experiment a teacher tells her students that the blue eyed students were found to be more intelligent and...

We are not trying to hurt your feelings I promise! But we are willing to hurt them to tell you the truth. Your kids should not be the most important relationship in your life. Your spouse should be. The most important thing you can do for your children is to have a solid marriage. By every metric kids perform better when there is a healthy couple in the house that is raising them. Please listen an...

Ok ok ok, so you have been listening and you realize that you need therapy and are ready to jump in...What now!?!?! "How do I wade through the mire and muck to find a therapist that can help me with what I am looking for?" Do not despair! In this episode we discuss a few types of therapy models, some questions to ask your prospective therapist, and we give you a few tips that will help you find th...

If you are struggling to communicate with your spouse and you feel like the difficult conversations frequently go sideways, this is the podcast for you! Listen in as we teach you a practical tool that can help you have conversations that help resolve conflicts rather than just sending you into another conflict cycle.  L = Listen U = Understand V = Validate When Your partner is talking, you will pr...

In this episode we continue with Part 2 of Stephanie Reed's powerful story.  After struggling with infertility, Stephanie unexpectedly lost her husband Steve in a tragic accident just months before giving birth to their daughter whom they had together waited and prayed for. Stephanie openly shares her experience with grief and loss and the healing that she has experienced.   Other Episodes You May...

In today's episode join us as we hear Part 1 of Stephanie Reed's powerful story.  After struggling with infertility, Stephanie unexpectedly lost her husband Steve in a tragic accident just months before giving birth to their daughter whom they had together waited and prayed for. Stephanie openly shares her experience with grief and loss and the healing that she has experienced.   Related Episodes...

Grief is often a painful and intimidating subject for people to address. The feelings that they bring up can be overwhelming and cause you to want to run and hide, or maybe even pretend that it's not there. In this episode we help you to better understand what the stages of grief are and to normalize your feelings and experiences. First, let's address that grief is not synonymous solely with death...

Boundaries! Many people struggle with knowing what are appropriate boundaries and when to implement them. If you struggle with boundaries, the idea of saying "no" to someone will probably make you cringe, however, if you would like to feel less stressed and less burn out, learning to say "no" more often is the exact prescription that you need.  In today's episode we introduce the basics of boundar...

Today is the final part of our EMDR series where we will share how EMDR helped Tim become Tim 2.0 and now even Tim 6.0. EMDR is one of the few things that sounds too good to be true, but isn't.  Listening to his story might help you understand how EMDR can help you improve and see significant growth in your daily life even based off of correcting "little t" traumas or disturbances. For more inform...

This is Part 2 of our 3 part EMDR series. In the last episode we introduced the basics of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Today we'll use a quick example of how EMDR helped our 7 year old daughter increase her confidence and improve her ability to handle difficult situations.   **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at...

In our previous episode we talked about trauma and how it can negatively affect you. In this episode we talk about how EMDR can help you resolve trauma. We will introduce you to EMDR which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. We talk about the fundamentals of this technique and how it can help you with things such as PTSD, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and negative thoug...

If you don't think trauma has affected your life, listen to this episode and see if it could be disrupting you more than you even realize. In today's episode we'll discuss what trauma is and how trauma affects our brain. We'll also talk about how "disturbing events", although it may not be clinically diagnosed as PTSD or not normally labeled as trauma, could be stored in our body and affecting you...

Recovering from an affair is an absolutely monumental task. This podcast includes some of the basics to understand when moving through an affair but so much more is required to fully recover. Stay, listen, and be encouraged. There is hope and light at the end of an affair.    Next Episode is on Trauma! If you have been through an affair you also have trauma.   Related Episodes You May Like: Ep. 6...

Steps to Protect your Marriage from an Affair   Let us help you avoid the pain and heartbreak of experiencing a relationship after an affair. In this podcast we are going to talk about how to safeguard your relationship from affairs by helping you understand the psychology behind affairs and practical rules and boundaries that you can use as well. In our next episode we will talk about how to Reco...

In this episode we use the analogy of a bank and deposits to describe how to keep a healthy relationships with positive actions toward each other. Watch your account levels and don't fall into the RED! Follow along and learn what makes deposits and what withdrawals from your spouses account.    **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group You can also email us at podca...

In this episode we will explain the Daily Dialogue and how to use this daily/weekly check-in. This is a communication tool that you can use to help you have a more open and connected relationship! We will give you the 3 Questions to ask in your relationship that will help you improve your communication and decrease future conflict.      **Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Fa...

In this episode we will be explaining how additional stressors have a compounding negative effect. If you are feeling overwhelmed and like you cant keep your head above water this episode is for you. The Emotional Richter Scale will help you to understand your emotions and also learn how to manage them by prioritizing or cutting things out of your life.     **Join us over at our Facebook Community...