Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast

When we are managing our spouse’s emotions it tends to be because we don’t want to deal with their emotional reactions and/or we think they should not experience negative emotions. However, trying to emotionally regulate our spouse is not the foundation for a great long term relationship.

In this episode we explore the angry phase in a Mormon faith transition. You may be surprised to learn that it’s not unusual for both spouses to have an angry phase. Here I give you some suggestions on how to handle your angry phase and your spouses angry phase.

Defensiveness is poison for your marriage. Here I discuss how to defend yourself without being defensive. I use real examples from a mixed faith marriage perspective.

The issues or sticky points in your marriage are often connected to deeper problems. In this podcast I give you a framework to apply to start to dig deeper and work on your marriage tough spots.

Here I answer a listener question regarding some messages they consider shameful that are taught at church and by their spouse.

In this episode I address issues around sex my clients have brought to coaching calls. I offer an exercise to help you begin to address any sex issues you may have in your marriage.

Intimacy is not just sex. Although sex can be part of intimacy. Here I explore the concept of intimacy and how a faith transition can bring up intimacy issues.

I have had clients stop teaching their kids and stop parenting in the way they want because they are afraid of alienating their spouse. Here I share some ideas on how to approach this so you can parent and partner in ways that work for you.

We often default to roles in our relationships. Here I talk about three common roles: parent, roommate and girlfriend (or boyfriend) and how they look in a mixed faith marriage.

In the episode I share some common but unhelpful approaches to a mixed faith marriage and then offer a radical approach for you to consider.

Conflict is part of any relationship. Here I give some concrete ideas on how to develop your conflict resolution skills and how it looks in a mixed faith marriage .

Here I break down four skills you need to be a good communicator. Communication is vital in any relationship and it is complex. Communication is really a combination of several tools and skill sets. Here I cover the four basic pieces needed to be a good communicator.

Complaining can erode away at your relationship. Here I talk about how to recognize if complaining is an issue in your marriage and give you a complaint audit process.

Here I revisit boundaries. This is a deep dive into the different types of boundaries and how to know what is a boundary violation for you so you know if you need a boundary.

Enmeshment, differentiation, individuation, boundaries and codependency have been a part of my Mormon mixed faith marriage. They may be part of yours too. Here I walk through these concepts and talk about how they may present in a mixed faith marriage.

Daniel and I sit down and talk frankly about our mixed faith marriage as we mark 5 years into my faith transition and 4 years of not attending church.

Listen to 15 yo Sage talk about her experience as a child in a mixed faith marriage. Sage was 10-11 when my faith transition started.

Codependency shows up a lot in a Mormon mixed faith marriage. I used to think it didn’t apply to me because I came from a great family. I was wrong. Here I give you my definition of codependency and tips on how to recognize if it is at play in your marriage.

It’s been four years since I stepped away from attending church. Here I share one HUGE lesson that helped me and I celebrate just how far we have come.

Here I teach the 20/80 rule. 20% of your time and budget should go to the fun and flashy things that support your marriage and 80% on the boring and basic things that support your marriage.

It can be super helpful to have some go to phrases in your back pocket to help with communication in your mixed faith marriage. Here I share my go to phrases and teach you how to make your own.

Beth is a fellow life coach who had a faith transition, mixed faith marriage and a divorce. Here we hear her story about how she managed these challenging life transitions with grace by using of coaching tools. 

Here I explore some of the messaging in the church that may be impacting your mixed faith marriage in negative ways.

Here I explore the question whether to allow the kids to stay home or go to church. Often this simple question can be answered by understanding your parenting goals.

Direct communication is one if the best ways to improve your communication and decrease resentment. Here I give you some ideas on how to communicate directly around getting the kids ready for church.