Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast

This may not be an easy episode for some of you. However I hear regularly about women who struggle being mothers and feel so much shame around this struggle. This impacts the marriage . It has impacted mine. Here I talk about the real struggles some women face and how that can impact the marriage and offer some words of advice from my own experience.

Here I share about my newly revised free mini course. It’s been expanded and improved in so many ways. The mini course includes sections on (1) why you are withholding love (often the cause of pain and disconnection after a faith transition); (2) getting clear on what you can control (when trying to repair or address relationship issues we tend to focus on things that are out of our control and ge...

I didn’t sign up for this is a common response to a mixed faith marriage. In this podcast I give a little tough love to you if this is where you are at. I also talk about how you might be beating yourself up for being the one who changed the program in your marriage. Both positions can prove painful and unhelpful.

Religious discrimination is not an easy topic but it can have a real impact in your mixed faith marriage. Accepting the presence of discrimination and deciding how to manage it can be a game changer.

In this episode I talk about why connection in a marriage sometimes decreases after a faith transition. Often emotional bids are not met with a positive response. By being aware of how you are responding to emotional bids you can really start to address disconnection.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my Mormon mixed faith marriage. When we can own our mistakes we can learn from them. Here I talk through some of my mistakes and the lessons I’ve learned.

I consider a Mormon mixed faith marriage and parenting in a mixed faith marriage to be a long game. What I mean is that I am looking for impact and results over decades and not just today. When I make choices around my mixed faith marriage I like to analyze that decision from a long game perspective. I also explain why it’s so easy to just show up with a short term approach.

A LDS mixed faith marriage means the two partners have a conflict of opinion. Conflict is present. Learning to tolerate conflict is an important skill to develop in a mixed faith marriage. Here I talk about some reasons why we don’t develop it and the cost of underdeveloped conflict tolerance.

In this episode I share my answers to 2 questions recently presented to me. They are: (1) What advice do you have for active believing members and (2) What do you wish active believing members understood?

I’ve seen my clients in a mixed faith marriage struggle with the criticism and defensiveness cycle. In order to break a cycle it is important to understand it and take responsibility for it. This podcast starts you on that road and offers some questions to help you learn about your part in this cycle.

This week’s podcast discusses the difference between care and care taking. Often when we love someone deeply we want them to always be happy and never be hurt or disappointed. That’s a beautiful thing until we step past caring into caretaking which can open the door to control. In this episode I give several examples of what care and care taking looks like in a mixed faith marriage.

I have heard from my clients that they don’t know what to do when their spouse has a negative opinion of them.  What are they supposed to do if their spouse thinks they are a racist, looks like a drug addict because of their tattoos, or that they are untrustworthy due to their faith transition? I suggest one initial step and then a series of questions to help explore the next steps.

A mixed faith marriage can cause some to question marriage as an institution. It can open up questions about why you got married and why you stay married. In this podcast I discuss some of those questions that may look like: What do we have in common without the church? He only married me because I was a good mormon - does this mean he doesn’t want to be married anymore I ony married him because h...

A LDS mixed faith marriage often means the loss of certain dreams. There may be many lost dreams: the dream to be senior missionaries, to attend the temple together, and to raise kids in the church together. Here I talk about the loss of dreams through the lens of codependency. The loss of a dream will trigger the grief cycle. When you can allow the grief cycle and work through that process you ca...

I address a listener’s question about wanting to talk about certain issues in her marriage and wondering if she is wanting to be right versus happy or just suppressing herself. Here I explore how I would work on this in a coaching session.

In this podcast I discuss the the question - is a faith transition a choice? Ultimately, I think this question is not very helpful and suggest another way of approaching this question.

A faith transition can prompt one to want to try new things- coffee, alcohol, tank tops, etc. In this episode I talk about some emotions that come up when we try new things and one thing to try to help address the fear around trying new things.

Chris Rich is a fellow life coach and a good friend. In this podcast we talk frankly of our stories and experiences in a mixed faith marriage. We talk about tithing, garments, general conference, temple, and kids. 

If you have experienced a faith transition/crisis you have probably faced uncertainty. Here I talk about how to frame uncertainty so you can keep moving forward in your life.

In this episode I give four tips to help you actually make meaningful changes to your mixed faith marriage this coming year or at any time of the year.

I love having tools to use in my mixed faith marriage. They help me show up with more confidence and capability. Here I share some simple tools to help your mixed faith marriage. Choose one and master it. Then you can add another and another.

I interview my husband again in this episode. Here we talk about tithing, fasting, getting kids ready for church, tattoos, piercing, alcohol and more.

Sometimes we indulge in emotional cupcakes in our mixed faith marriage. These are the little hits of dopamine we get when we prove a point or land a jab or point out an inconsistency. Emotional cupcakes are all about being right over being happy.

Many wonder how to celebrate a religious holiday if you don’t believe in the same religion. In this podcast I teach you a tool to help look at the holidays in a way to help your mixed faith marriage.

When a marriage is based in roles a faith transition can be very disruptive to the marriage. When a marriage is based on relationship a faith transition is not so bumpy. Here I explain roles versus relationships so you can evaluate your marriage.