Monday Morning Mindset Shift

As someone who has built a business (and a marriage!) thanks to Instagram / social media, I am grateful for it, grateful to it, and know it has a place it in my life. I also know that it has almost ruined my mental health stability by sending me on a downward spiral on more than one occasion.  Thankfully, I teach people every day who to build themselves up, so I got lucky, but that doesn't me...

Before you listen to this podcast, watch this youtube video called the "selection attention test." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJG698U2Mvo The original, world-famous awareness test from Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris.  Check out our book and website for more information (www.theinvisiblegorilla.com). It's all about picking and choosing what you focus on, and how selective...

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.” ― Gandhi I truly believe that. In this episode, I try to show you how you can CHANGE your limiting beliefs by swapping them out with empowering ones.  Come hang in my Facebook group: facebook.com/grou...

Fear on a practical level is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. A "belief" is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists.   You are fearful because you believe XYZ. Not because fear actually exists... So what can we do about fear: 4) Stop Beating yourself up - If you call yourself name...

Fear on a practical level is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. A "belief" is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists.   You are fearful because you believe XYZ. Not because fear actually exists... So what can we do about fear: 1) Tackle it one head at a time. Fear is a monster with...

How to increase your largest check: 1) The individuals who are the best think differently and who received the largest checks are the ones who are continually linking themselves up with other unique ability friends, coworkers, mentors, podcasts, books, etc. 2)  The best that keep getting better have found a way to escape complexity and problems. They have moved into a results-based mindset where t...

Credit to Dan Sullivan for the concept in his book, "How the Best Get Better." He talked about how entrepreneurs can increase their revenue every year. First, they have to take stock of how much they made in the last 12 months. The issue is, people are  told to believe they're only as good (or only worth) as much as they are paid. So they end up keeping themselves at that level. Unt...

We like to think of the world in terms of black and white; happy is good, sad is bad. Where did this idea come from? “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” is a quote from William Shakespeare's tragedy, Hamlet . In a similar vein, according to entrepreneur Alex Hermozi, "What we have is a line of normal human existence, and points that occur above the line and be...

With a bit of practice the dopamine-inducing task can grow bigger, but the tasks should be small enough so they can be completed in one go. In time, the larger and harder the task is, the bigger the dopamine rush at the end. Regardless, it's all about the effort. The more effort that precedes the win the greater the effect on both testosterone and dopamine and as a consequence, the ability to...

I hear people with anxiety tell me all the time, “I just don’t have the bandwidth.” Implying they don’t have the energy, or the time.  But where did this LACK come from? How do we already start the day ‘behind’? If this sounds like you, pause. Breathe. Take a second. As you’re breathing, focus on the here and now. Stop focusing on the tasks of the week, and getting everything done all on one day....

Phones aren’t just detracting us from the present; they have a much more profound effect on our happiness.  When we’re on our phones and not being in the moment, or when we’re multi-tasking work and talking to a friend, we’re half-assing both things. This affects our future. How ? If you never help your kid with their homework, or never know what they're working on in school, can you be AS pr...

I wanted to give you guys something a little different this week. Instead of going solo and bringing you a 3-5min mindset shift, I wanted to put up a really useful podcast I did with my friend Amber Sobrio-Ritter, who runs the Divergent Fitness podcast and instagram site. ENJOY! "In this episode, Jaime Filer talks about how her work in the gym translated into every area of her life and how sh...

We use social media, likes and comments, compliments from others, our parents telling us they’re proud of us… We actively go out and search for honest understanding. Acknowledgement. Feelings. That’s the how. The WHY is because it’s human nature. As we’ve spoken about 100 times, one of the most essential human needs is to feel significant, and the way we do this is through validation. But validati...

We use social media, likes and comments, compliments from others, our parents telling us they’re proud of us… We actively go out and search for honest understanding. Acknowledgement. Feelings. That’s the how. The WHY is because it’s human nature. As we’ve spoken about 100 times, one of the most essential human needs is to feel significant, and the way we do this is through validation. But validati...

The 4 Keys to getting everything you want It’s bold. I know. And maybe even a little click-baity, lol. But here’s the thing, at the core of human nature, we all want to be happy. And sometimes, often, we have no frickin idea how to get there or even sometimes what it looks like. For some, happiness could be finding a partner. For some, it could be finding a rewarding career, or  a purpose or calli...

The only thing MORE important than what goals you're setting is HOW you're setting them. In this 3 part series on goal setting, we go over how to set realistic goals, and how to subsequently execute on the RIGHT ones. I was taught this by my business coach, friend, and mentor Mathew Park, and now I want to pass his wisdom on to you. 7) Negativity Check - Goals can be negative if they are...

The only thing MORE important than what goals you're setting is HOW you're setting them. In this 3 part series on goal setting, we go over how to set realistic goals, and how to subsequently execute on the RIGHT ones. I was taught this by my business coach, friend, and mentor Mathew Park, and now I want to pass his wisdom on to you. 4) Do a balance assessment - When you out too much emph...

The only thing MORE important than what goals you're setting is HOW you're setting them. In this 3 part series on goal setting, we go over how to set realistic goals, and how to subsequently execute on the RIGHT ones. I was taught this by my business coach, friend, and mentor Mathew Park, and now I want to pass his wisdom on to you. 1) Create your wish list - Write down everything you wa...

Courage consists of two parts. The first part is beginning, launching, or getting started — taking a chance in the face of failure and rejection where success is far from given. The second half of courage is persistence. Persistence is the unbreakable will to keep going and driving yourself no matter what. In order to have persistence and to BE persistent, you must also have discipline. Jocko Wili...

Continuous learning is essential to becoming successful AND becoming an authority in your field. Like breathing, becoming better and better at what you do must become a natural part of your life. Most successful people spend 60-90 minutes a day studying their field. Not WORKING. Big distinction here between working IN and Studying. Warren Buffet famously reads 500 pages a day - can't argue wi...

Concentration is the ability to focus on one thing at a time and focus on that task until it’s complete. It’s also extremely difficult to accomplish, especially in a world filled with constant emails, distractions, and notifications. Once you’ve determined the hardest, most valuable thing to accomplish, do that thing — no matter how unpleasant it seems. The most successful people in the world real...

80% of success comes from clarity — knowing who you are, what you stand for, and what you want to accomplish. Conversely, 80% of problems and business failures are due to a lack of clarity. Key 1: Decide exactly what you want. Key 2:  Write it down. Key 3: Set a deadline. Key 4: Make a list. Key 5: Organize your list. Key 6: Take action. Key 7: Do something every day. You can only successful if yo...

Today's podcast is based on ANOTHER podcast I listened to by Menno Henselmans and Dylan Guynn. I'll link it below, but in essence, they were saying: "Self-control is a single capacity that is used for all types of tasks- that is, you use the same resource to resist eating junk food that you use to concentrate on working. At least one other study has found that inducing a positive mo...

Here’s how I dealt with my feelings (feel free to save / share for Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Passover, etc. ) 1) Just sit - They’re not going to change. Your drunk aunt. Your homophobic step dad. Your “influencer” nephew. Your helicopter mom. These people are who they are. We can’t change them. They’re not going to change. So just sit. Daydream. Get into a state of awareness, and create...

Jack Canfield once said, "Successful people adhere to the “no exceptions rule” when it comes to their daily disciplines. Once you make a 100% commitment to something, there are no exceptions. It’s a done deal. Nonnegotiable. Case closed!" If you make the 100% commitment to exercise every day for 30 minutes, no matter what, then it is settled. You just do it. It doesn’t matter if you are...