Monday Morning Mindset Shift

Going into my last week of contest prep, I saw every single workout as "only 3 more" - I have to give 100%. I literally only have 3 more chances to make this workout count. I only have 20 meals to make this count. I only have 15 cardio sessions to make it count. Etcetera What if we treated life as though we didn't know how many we had left.  Every meal with our family, could potenti...

I was listening to an epic podcast with Joe Rogan where he talked about 3 ideas 1) Not enough of us have jobs that make us fulfilled. 2) Not enough of us have hobbies that make us happy. 3) Life is finite. We need to enjoy it while we can. Come hang in my Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/teamjaim91 Or connect with me on Instagram: instagram.com/jaim91 If you're interested in more mindset a...

Skilledatlife.com said it best, "Many grownups do not have a set daily routine and ‘wing’ their day. They have no idea what they are going to do when they wake up each morning because they have not thought about creating a schedule to adhere to.  As a result, many people feel like they are stressed, anxious, overwhelmed and falling short of their goals and true potential.  The answer lies in...

So you’re at point A and you want to get to point B?  1) Break the big changes down into chunks as small as possible (so small you cant fail) 2) Implement the small changes a few at a time; stack your wins  3) Make it a goal not to miss twice 4) Be patient and compassionate with yourself, find a sustainable pace 5) Reflect and appreciate yourself for the work you’re doing. Notice the small stuff,...

The work separates the winners from the losers in life. Build a habit around what is is you want to accomplish. The action itself may not actually get you where you want to go but doing the action over and over again will certainly help point you in the right direction.  For example, say you want to lose weight.; walking is great, but theres obviously more to weight loss then just doing steps. How...

 You’ll become happy when you stop reacting and start controlling your emotions. Don’t allow your emotions to control you. don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence. If you don’t control your emotions, you’ll be consumed by them. When you control your thoughts and emotions, you control everything. The people who are the most successful are the ones happiest with their lives.  Self c...

Today’s shift is this,  build your house on rock. not sand.  There’s a parable in the bible about two men; one whose house was founded on rock, and other other whose house was built on sand. When the rain and storms came, guess whose house washed away? what this parable is implying, is that if you don’t have a solid foundation… If you don’t have a set of principles that you live by, if you don’t h...

Today’s shift is this, how to create balance in your life. The first thing we have to do is define balance. I think many people associate the word ‘balance’ to mean that everything has to be equal, even or perfect. I know that life is rarely, if ever, any of these things! Essentially, balance doesn’t mean things are even - it DOES mean you have a pulse on everything though.  So how do we achieve b...

Why do I call this podcast the "mindset shift" ? I have so many clients who end up really nailing their macros and movement, but I don’t end up changing their minds… and I have a lot of clients who end up shifting their paradigms, but don’t always see the physical progress in the first few months. And both these camps come to me and say “Am I failing, coach?” because they see what they’r...

If you've ever read Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich, you'll recall that he addresses humanity's 6 basic fears.  These are things we’re scared of that we keep in our mind that prevent us from becoming successful. "fears are nothing more than states of mind," and that "one's state of mind is subject to control and direction." In other words, you can a...

If you've ever read Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich, you'll recall that he addresses humanity's 6 basic fears. These are things we’re scared of that we keep in our mind that prevent us from becoming successful. "fears are nothing more than states of mind," and that "one's state of mind is subject to control and direction." In other words, you can av...

I haven't been as present on my podcast as I'd like. I have all the excuses / reasons / explanations in the world, but that doesn't mean it's ok. I can't shirk my responsibilities or showing up just because some things aren't going as planned on the emotional side of things. I want to help you guys show up by giving you 3 ways that have helped me during one of the mos...

In times of uncertainty, we experience fear. And the irony is that our response to fear often perpetuates it.  It’s our resistance to facing fear that magnifies the feeling. Fear on a practical level is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. To me, even though they use the word emotion, they’ve rooted it in logic. You a...

Today’s shift is this, you have the power to speak into existence, to convince yourself, that you can have everything you want. Step 1) You need a written statement of definite purpose , and written goals that are very specific, phrased in the positive, and measurable. "I am going to impact the lives of 10,000 women through online personal training in the next 10 years." Step 2) When you...

Today’s shift is this, in order to build self esteem, you need the 3 C’s: Credibility, confidence, competence. Bedrod Keulian introduced the concept, and I wanted to dive deeper. People are constantly asking, wondering, and researching how to build their confidence.  We start with the first C - credibility. You have to build credibility with yourself, and the way to do that is by keeping the promi...

Anxiety occurs when your thoughts, worries, and fears are literally everywhere but where you are right now. Your thoughts are geared towards unrealized dangers instead of  savoring each moment, and make it joyful and peaceful. Staying present is hard. Most of the time, our minds are reflecting on the past, or focusing on those unrealized dangers or threats of the future. But as HoloCaust survivor...

Today’s shift is this, stop giving your self esteem away to people who don’t matter. I’m obsessed with a famous quote by Thomas Cooley that goes like this. “I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am ” Self concept is an idea of the self constructed from the beliefs one holds about oneself and the responses of others. Self-concept is an individual'...

Today’s shift is this, when you have fewer expectations, you have fewer disappointments. I still have expectations of people, professionally and personally, and to be honest, both still tend to let me down. But here’s my saving grace: if the behavior is repeated into a pattern, it’s on me to pay attention. I can own my reaction. I get to choose to feel empowered versus feeling like a victim.  When...

Today’s shift is this, your ‘forever’ relationship has to be a mix of 3 things.  The key to a happy marriage is that your person is a TRIFECTA of 1️⃣ Your lover. You have to be sexually attracted to them. 2️⃣ Your best friend. 3️⃣ Your wife/husband. The physical attraction has to be there, the emotional sensitivity and understanding is a must, and you have to want to do boring ADLs (activities of...

Today’s shift is this, the reason you don’t have it yet is because you don’t understand it.  See, the reason everyone (except engineers and brilliant prodigies) fails trigonometry and algebra is because we don't see a use for it when we’re older. We don’t ‘get’ why we need it or when we’re ever going to use it again. It’s hard to process the information coming at you, because you can’t pictur...

Today’s shift is this, start talking to yourself like you would talk to someone to love. There are two implications to this saying. The first is about giving yourself patience, grace, and kindness. We are so harsh to ourselves. So quick to judge ourselves. So quick to call ourselves names we would never DARE call our parents or best friends. We berate ourselves for small, incidental errors, and mo...

Today's mindset shift is this: RAISE YOUR STANDARDS. What standards do you hold yourself by? And what standards do you have to work on? Come hang in my Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/teamjaim91 Or connect with me on Instagram: instagram.com/jaim91 If you're interested in more mindset and health hacks for overwhelmed women, find me on Instagram @jaimefilerfitness, or head to https://...

Today’s shift is this, failure is the best thing that will ever happen to you. I read in a book a few years ago that failure frees the mind for a fresh start. Failure is the dead end of the habit path; and it forces us to choose another way. It makes you test yourself to show you another way. Failure forces you to break habits. As adults, we don’t see failure the same way we did as children. Child...

Today’s shift is this, just stop it. Stop the behavior. Stop the negative rhetoric. Stop the self deprecating narrative that you tell yourself. How many of us go through life being scared of… public embarrassment, not getting our dream job, never meeting our soul mate, taking chances on something or someone? But we don’t actually want to go through life like this, right? That sounds frightening… c...

Today’s shift is this, pivoting your mind to let things go. Before we understand the steps to letting go, we have to understand why we hold on: Some people have trouble letting go of their pain or other unpleasant emotions about their past because they think those feelings are part of their identity. In some ways, you may not know who you are without your pain. This makes it impossible to let go....