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Amy Luttrell lost her Dad suddenly at 32, with a newborn at home and a thriving wellness business to run. Eleven months later, her Stepfather died and her Mum nearly did too. She kept functioning. She kept showing up. And then her body said enough. In this episode, Amy gets completely honest about what it looks like when a high-achieving woman hits actual rock bottom - the shame of feeling broken...

Spiritual abuse is one of the most misunderstood forms of harm there is. And it might be exactly what you've been trying to name. In this episode, I'm getting into a topic I know many of you have been waiting for. After my episode on "when faith gets messy" became one of my most downloaded ever, I knew we needed to go deeper. So today we're talking about spiritual abuse: what...

Is your relationship feeling a little flat? Like you used to laugh more, go on proper dates, and actually enjoy each other's company, but somewhere along the way life just got in the way? In this episode of Ask Charlotte, I'm answering a listener question that I hear all the time: how do we have more fun in our relationship? I cover: Why fun doesn't just happen and what to do about it...

Some days you just hit the wall. The noise, the need, the relentlessness of it. You love your kids and you are completely done. This episode is for you. I'm joined by Zazi, a speech and language therapist, child development expert, MMA fighter, and mum who gets it. Zazi has built a community of parents who are done pretending they've got it all together, and she brings the kind of practica...

Do you feel off but can't explain why? Flat, disengaged, not quite yourself but you don't know where to start? In this episode of Ask Charlotte, I'm responding to a listener who's feeling flat and disconnected, and walking you through exactly where to begin when something just doesn't feel right. I break down a practical, no-fluff framework for understanding why you feel off an...

Do you look capable on the outside but feel held back by self-doubt on the inside? You're not alone, and you're not failing. You might just be living with a confidence gap. In this episode, I'm digging into one of the most common and costly patterns I see in high-functioning women: being far more capable than you believe yourself to be. Research shows women tend to underrate their comp...

In this bonus episode, clinical hypnotherapist Bec Marshall guides a short self-hypnosis exercise to help you reduce stress, ease anxiety, and settle into a calm, resourceful state. This exercise is a portable practice you can return to anytime you need to come back to yourself. For the full conversation on hypnotherapy, the subconscious mind, and how we can rewire stress patterns, listen to the f...

What if the heaviness you're carrying isn't a personality trait — it's your nervous system asking for something different? Clinical hypnotherapist Bec Marshall joins Charlotte to unpack hypnotherapy, the fawn response, functional freeze, and how high-functioning women can start feeling safe in their own bodies again. If you've been pushing through, performing capable, and quietly w...

If you’ve been wondering how to talk to your kids about war… you’re not alone. With global conflict dominating headlines, many parents are finding themselves having conversations they never expected to have. Conversations about safety, fear, and what’s happening in the world. In this episode, I walk you through how to talk to children about war in a way that keeps them feeling safe, informed, and...

You want to look after yourself better… but you hate routine. So every time you try to “get your life together,” it lasts about five days. Then you’re back to square one, telling yourself you’re the problem. You’re not. In this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m breaking down why the way we talk about consistency is actually setting a lot of people up to fail and what to do instead. We cover: Why you don’...

You don’t have a relationship problem. You have a pattern problem . And until you see it, nothing changes. In this Ask Charlotte episode, we’re unpacking the uncomfortable truth most couples avoid: it’s not just them… and it’s not just you either. It’s the dynamic you’re both creating. If you’ve been: Stuck in the same argument on repeat Noticing everything your partner does wrong Wondering how to...

You’re playing small. And if you’re honest… you already know it. In this episode of The Feel Better Podcast , I sit down with Georgia from George Design to talk about what it really takes to stop holding yourself back and start backing yourself. Georgia is the founder of George Design, working with businesses to clarify their brand, grow their visibility, and make smarter, braver decisions. You ca...

You’re the one who gets it done. The capable one. The reliable one. The strong one. But what if that version of youis quietly costing you more than you realise? In this episode, we’re unpacking hyper-independence the pattern that looks like strength… but is often driven by fear, control, and past experiences. If you: ​find it hard to ask for help ​feel like it’s easier to just do it yourself ​get...

You can love your kids deeply… and still feel like you’ve lost yourself. HannaH Findlay is a Mum who has inspired many others with the beauty she has found in pulling herself through some of the toughest parts of becoming a parent. We talk about what happens to your identity in motherhood. The version where your body changes. Your mental health takes a hit. Your interests disappear. And one day yo...

You want more connection. They don’t. And now you’re stuck in that quiet, painful in-between… where you’re in a relationship, but still feeling alone. In this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m unpacking one of the most common (and confronting) dynamics I see in counselling: when one partner wants emotional connection, depth, and intimacy… and the other just doesn’t meet them there. We’re talking about: w...

Many of us believe that being tough on ourselves is the way to change. We think that if we criticise ourselves enough, push harder, or feel bad enough about our behaviour, we’ll finally become the person we want to be. But in my experience as a counsellor, the opposite is true. In this episode of the Feel Better Podcast , I’m talking about self-criticism and why it actually makes lasting change ha...

I'm kind of sick of the doom and gloom chat's about perimenopause, so I decided I'd find someone I could ask this question of: "What is good about perimenopause?" Enter Amelia Stafford - an amazing women's health expert who knows her stuff when it comes to hormones and nutrition and the realities of making our health a priority in our busy lives. This is such a refreshing...

If you struggle with overthinking, this episode is for you. Maybe your brain replays conversations on a loop. Maybe you catastrophise about the future. Maybe decision-making feels exhausting because you’ve already run 47 scenarios in your head. Overthinking is incredibly common. Research suggests up to 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% are repetitive. That means most of us are swimming in t...

If you’re someone who keeps saying “I’m just bad at boundaries” or “I’m the kind of person who overworks” this episode is for you. In this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m answering a listener question about how to maintain work boundaries differently , especially when you’re high-functioning, committed, and genuinely care about doing a good job. We unpack why willpower isn’t the answer, and why the sto...

Hard conversations don’t ruin relationships. Avoiding them does. If you keep putting things off because you don’t want to rock the boat, this episode is for you. In How to Have Hard Conversations Faster (Without Damaging Your Relationship) , I unpack why even capable, high-functioning people struggle to raise difficult topics at home and how to do it in a way that actually builds connection. Insid...

Self-care is one of your goals this year. But when life gets busy, it’s the first thing you drop. In this episode, I answer a listener question about how to plan self-care in a way that actually holds up in a full, demanding year. If you already know this year is going to be busy with work pressure, family demands, deadlines or big goals, this episode will help you build self-care that supports yo...

High-performing people don’t need more motivation. They need safety. In this episode, I’m joined by coach Cara Calvin to talk identity shifts, nervous system patterns, and why so many capable people freeze in the gap between where they are and where they want to be. We cover: Why rest can feel unsafe (and what to do about it) Micro-actions that build momentum when you feel stuck Lack mindset and t...

School goes back soon across New Zealand. And for many parents, that brings a mix of relief and worry. Will this year be easier socially? Will old struggles show up again? Will my child cope when I’m not there? In this Ask Charlotte episode, I respond to a parent asking how to set their child up for a resilient start to the school year and unpack what resilience actually looks like for children. N...

So many couples tell me there’s nothing wrong in their relationship… but it feels flat, distant, or like they’re just co-managing life. The love is there — but the deep conversations aren’t. And, many people have just never been taught how to share on that deeper level - so it feels uncomfortable, awkward and even impossible. In this episode of the Feel Better Podcast, I’m talking about how to sha...

As parents, we’re only ever as settled as our least settled child – and kids’ mental health can feel like a minefield to navigate. In this Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel Better Podcast, I answer three listener questions about children’s wellbeing: separation anxiety, supporting kids through the illness or death of a loved one, and how to help kids actually relax (without everything turning into...