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In this episode of the Feel Better Podcast , I’m talking about one of the trickiest parts of modern life: how to decide what to let go of when your plate is just too full . If you’re overwhelmed, overcommitted, or stuck in that endless “should I give this up?” loop, this episode will really help. I’m sharing the exact questions and frameworks I use with my clients – and the ones I’ve had to painfu...

Affairs don’t always start with attraction — they often begin with emotional closeness that slowly crosses a boundary. In this Ask Charlotte episode, I'm answering listener questions about how to protect your relationship from emotional affairs, why betrayal can still hurt even when there hasn’t been physical intimacy, and what healthy friendship boundaries look like in marriage. You’ll hear:...

If you struggle to slow down, switch off, or stop feeling guilty when you rest — this episode is for you. So many of us are caught up in productivity culture , running on empty and living in a constant state of burnout and overwhelm . I want to help you change that. In this conversation, I’m breaking down why true rest can feel so hard — from the way our nervous system reacts to stillness, to the...

In this Ask Charlotte episode, I’m answering three listener questions that so many people wrestle with when it comes to faith, spirituality and church — and each one opens up an honest, compassionate conversation about what it means to believe (or not) in a changing world. I recognise this episode won't be for everyone, but for the people whose story it fits, I hope it's helpful. 🌱 Questi...

We’re told to “just forgive” — by our families, by religion, by self-help books — but almost nobody tells us how. In this episode, I share a different way to think about forgiveness: not as a moment of sainthood or a spiritual badge of honour, but as a deeply human, mental and emotional process. We’ll talk about why forgiveness is always optional, how to name and understand the barriers that keep...

So many couples find themselves in a sexless relationship — often without ever talking about it. It's estimated that this is reality for as many as 20-30% of couples. And, mismatched libido is the top physical intimacy issue that couples report. I've had lots of listener questions on this topic, so in today's episode I'm answering your questions. - Does a sexless relationship mean our relationship...

Comparison is something we all do — often without even realising it. Whether it’s about looks, parenting, achievements, or lifestyle, we constantly measure ourselves against others. But comparison doesn’t just steal our joy; it can fuel shame, perfectionism, and even take us off track from living in alignment with our own values. In this episode, I unpack: Why comparison is such a natural human in...

In this Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel Better Podcast, we’re diving into some questions I've been asked by listeners about parenting neurodivergent kids. ✨ I explore:1) What to do when you’ve tried everything and are still facing epic meltdowns. 2) How to support siblings who live in the shadow of their neurodivergent brother or sister. 3) Ways to protect your own mental health while paren...

Family estrangement is far more common than most people realise — and it’s one of the toughest things to navigate. In this episode, I talk about:Why estrangement is so complex and full of grief. The hard truth: nobody has a “right” to us, and we don’t automatically have a right to them. Boundaries vs. flexibility — why estrangement is always a grey area. How to handle triggers around birthdays, Ch...

In this episode of Ask Charlotte, I'm diving into your questions about mental health. I answer: 1) What is PMDD? 2) How do I parent while struggling with my mental health? Including how to talk to kids about what's happening. 3) How do I support my partner while they're struggling with their mental health? These are such important conversations, and I hope you’ll find something here th...

Parenting neurodivergent kids can be both incredibly challenging and deeply meaningful. In this episode of the Feel Better Podcast , I share openly from my own experience of raising children in a neurodiverse household. I talk about: Why the way you see neurodivergence matters — shifting from deficit to recognising gifts. The grief parents carry when life doesn’t look as expected, and how to proce...

In this episode of Ask Charlotte , part of the Feel Better Podcast , I continue the theme of building a healthier relationship with yourself by answering three powerful listener questions: How do I make peace with my weaknesses, faults, and failures? I share ways to bring compassion to your past, capture the lessons you’ve learned, and balance your strengths and weaknesses so you can move forward...

Want more connection in your relationship? Do these things. Feeling distant from your partner? You’re not alone. Disconnection is one of the most common challenges couples face—but the good news is, there are simple, practical ways to restore closeness. In this episode of the Feel Better Podcast , I share research-backed strategies and everyday habits that can bring you and your partner closer. Fr...

🌿 How do I speak to myself in a kinder way? 💭 How do I begin to heal from purity culture? ⏳ And what do I do with my precious time away from kids and my spouse? These are the three big (and very real) questions I’m answering in today’s Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel Better podcast — all sent in through my recent question box on your relationship with yourself 💛 Together we’ll explore: ✨ Ho...

💔 Working on your relationship can feel exhausting — like nothing’s working and everything is harder than it should be. But there is a way through. In today’s Feel Better podcast episode, I’m giving you a pep talk filled with practical ways to stay hopeful while your relationship is in the thick of change. You’ll learn how to: 💛 Spot the strengths you and your partner each bring to the table 💛...

Welcome to Ask Charlotte - the fortnightly series within the Feel Better Podcast, where I answer listener questions. In this episode, I answer three brave listener questions about love, betrayal, and staying connected in marriage. 💔 Question One: Can couples recover from betrayal? ❓ Question Two: How do you decide whether to stay or leave? 🥀 Question Three: What if I feel so emotionally detache...

Ep. 92 – How to Build a Life That Feels as Good as It Looks It’s easy to chase a life that looks successful — the job, the house, the highlight reel. But what if the outside doesn’t match how you feel on the inside? In this episode, Charlotte explores the success paradox — the gap between outward appearances and our internal wellbeing — and what actually creates lasting happiness. From the science...

Many parents express frustration with getting their child talking about their feelings. You ask how their day went. Their response: "fine". You try to ask questions about school, friends, how they feel about things, and it's like pulling teeth. Well, I'm here to help you up your game when it comes to getting your child talking! This episode has a bit of a focus around getting the...

Well, if you've been following along lately you'll know that my family and I have moved towns. My kids have moved schools. We're starting over in a new place where we know hardly anyone! It's exciting, but it's also a bit overwhelming and some days I hate it and wonder what we've done! It's been a big change. And people make big changes all the time - new jobs, going ba...

Are you in a relationship? Come and join me for this episode where I share seven key issues I see in couples who come to me for counselling. This episode will help you reflect on where you might want to bring some focus in your relationship. There's also a free download that goes with this episode, which is designed to support you and your partner to accurately identify and agree on 'What&...

Holding realistic expectations for ourselves is a very real challenge. Day jobs, side hustles, community commitments, social lives, families, and OURSELVES! It's a lot to juggle. In this episode I offer some advice on how to hold realistic expectations for yourself. Spoiler: this is something I struggle with and so I have a few work arounds for myself that I've refined over the years, that...

The mental load refers to the cognitive and emotional load of 'holding everything together' in our day to day lives - constantly thinking ahead, managing, planning, balancing needs. This concept names a reality of our lives. But, then what? If you want to move forward with re-balancing the mental load in your life, particularly if you're in a relationship, or you're a parent, then...

Something that often becomes apparent in my work with clients is that their relationship with their feelings is a problem. And behind this problematic relationship with their feelings is this - they don't perceive their feelings as GOOD. Feelings get in the way, they're overwhelming, they're a waste of time, or the person worries they might end up like their mother/father/sibling whose response to...

In some of my work with clients recently, I've recognise that the art and science of apology has been an area where many people are falling over. You're a human. You're going to make mistakes. Things are going to land for people in a way that creates an impact you never intended at times. You'll offend, hurt, and get people offside. So, how do we best put things right? In this episode I step you t...

I live in the same real world that you do! Life happens, challenges some along, and stress rises. In this episode, I step you through how I'm dealing with a current situation in my life - addressing the triggers, looking after myself, and bringing focus to my emotional wellbeing through it all.