Men’s Sexual Mastery

If you've been struggling with erection quality and nothing you've tried has held, this episode reframes it all. Erectile challenges aren't a malfunction. They're your body's early warning system pointing to something physical, mental, or emotional that's asking for your attention. Ben and Ian explore the clinical link between erectile dysfunction as an earlier indicator for cardiovascular disease...

Let's get real: getting rejected in the bedroom can be one of the deepest triggers for many men. But the reality is - it can be a gift when we learn how to handle it. When she says no, she's giving you the most honest signal she has, and your ability to receive it cleanly is one of the most important skills you can develop in a long-term partnership. This episode is about what's actually happening...

At MSM, we believe that every sexual challenge a man faces contains a gift. Premature Ejaculation is no exception. In this episode, Ben and Hawks dive into the gift of being a highly sexually sensitive man - and how (with proper training) our capacity to contain and direct this sensitivity can become one of our greatest superpowers in the bedroom and in the world. Find us on Instagram @mens.sexual...

Most men with an overwhelming sex drive have spent years trying to suppress it, manage it, or feel ashamed of it. This episode makes the case that the drive itself isn't the problem. It's a sign of vitality, creative life force, and a system that's running strong. The issue isn't your overwhelming sex drive - it's how your sexual energy is being directed. Ben and Ian get into what it actually mean...

There's a reason this conversation gets avoided. Most men hear "prostate" and either think medical procedure or immediately shut down. What we're talking about in this episode is different. The pelvic floor is one of the most undertreated contributors to performance problems, low sexual energy, and compulsive patterns in men. When the tissue is locked up, it blocks blood flow and restricts the ene...

Most men dealing with premature ejaculation or wanting to last longer in bed have one thing in common: a lack of education in alternate ways of experiencing their sexual energy. They learned from porn that sex means constant movement, constant stimulation, and a rock-hard erection from start to finish. That model doesn't just shorten lovemaking. It cuts off access to everything that makes sex actu...

Sexual energy and spiritual energy are the same thing. Taoist medicine, the yogic lineages, and Ayurveda have said this for thousands of years, and men who go through the actual practices confirm it through direct lived experience. When you start treating your sexual energy as the most potent fuel available to you, something fundamental shifts in how you move through the world. The reason so many...

Most men trying to break free from porn are losing because they're using the wrong strategy. Resistance doesn't dissolve the pattern. It feeds it. Ben and Ian lay out a different approach: stop fighting it and start replacing it with something that actually outperforms it. This episode covers how to identify what chronic porn use is doing for you beneath the surface, what it means to replace the h...

Most men assume the path to a better sex life runs through more skill. Mischa Byruck, a men's integrity and accountability coach who's worked with hundreds of powerful leaders, argues the opposite. Accountability, not technique, is what actually reconnects a man to his intimacy. This conversation is the one the men's work world largely isn't having. Mischa breaks down the real difference between h...

Most men's development spaces will condemn the men involved in the CNN rape academy story and move on. This conversation didn't. In this episode Ean Wood (Founder of Rising Men) Dr. Aspen Percival (Naturopathic doctor and pelvic health specialist) and MSM co-founder Ian Hawks sat down together to get to the root of the shadow of unintegrated sexuality in men. How does a man become capable of this?...

If you've ever been left with that aching pressure after a session that didn't finish, you know blue balls isn't a myth. The discomfort is real. What's a myth is that ejaculation is the only exit, and that you're helpless to it. Ben and Ian break down what's actually happening in the body, why sympathetic nervous system lock is the real driver behind the discomfort, and what to do about it. The to...

Most men looking for a long-term partner are asking the wrong question. They're asking how to find her, when the real question is who they're being when she shows up. This episode is a direct look at that gap, why the hunt repels what you actually want, and what it takes to become the man worth calling in. Ian and Ben both share the real stories of meeting their partners. Ian in a period of deep c...

If you've started practicing semen retention and want to bring that containment into partnered sex, you've probably already hit a wall. Your partner doesn't understand it, or she resists it, and suddenly a practice that was transforming your life feels like a source of tension in your relationship. That resistance is more common than you think, and it's almost never coming from where you think it...

You make a move that she turns down and you get reactive. She brings a suggestion or refinement to your lovemaking and you take it personally. She finds enjoyment in her own pleasure and you make it mean you're not good enough. Intimate relationship is the one environment that cannot be gamed. The unconscious patterns you carry, the shame, the unworthiness, the need to control, stay buried until s...

Most men reaching for Viagra haven't been told the truth: erectile challenges are almost always a mind-body problem - not a hardware problem. In this episode, Ben and Ian break down the three root causes behind erectile dysfunction and the natural tools to address each one - no prescription required. You'll learn: - Why your breath is directly controlling your blood flow (and how to use it) - How...

Most men who attempt semen retention do not make it past the first week. Not because they are weak, but because nobody told them what was actually coming. In this episode, Ben Timby and Ian Hawks break down what they witnessed running a 21-day Semen Intention Challenge with hundreds of men inside the MSM community: the breakthroughs, the resets, the neuroscience, and the framework that separates t...

What if the thing holding you back in the bedroom isn't physical at all? In this episode, Ben sits down with James Nepenthe, a healer and teacher with nearly two decades of training across somatic therapy, attachment work, and contemplative practice - including over 500 days of silent retreat as a formerly ordained Buddhist monk. James pulls no punches as he opens up about his own journey through...

Why does sexual attraction fade in long-term relationships? Why do so many men struggle with premature ejaculation, porn addiction, erectile dysfunction, or a partner who no longer desires sex? In this episode of Men’s Sexual Mastery , Ben Timby and Ian Hawks break down one of the most common but rarely understood dynamics in relationships: the desire gap between men and women. Many high-performin...

Sexual transmutation is the process of harnessing, amplifying, and transforming our sexual energy into a fuel for our personal development, relationships, business, and creative pursuits. One of the core tools of sexual transmutation is a practice referred to as the Microcosmic Orbit. This ancient Taoist practice allows us to open up new neural pathways of subtle sensations that, when practiced co...

One of the most commonly overlooked areas in a man's relationship to his woman lies in his lack of awareness of her menstrual cycle. Many men may feel an unconscious aversion to getting intimate with their partners cycle, but the truth is it at the core of her ability to bring new life into the world. Understanding your woman's menstrual cycle isn't just for birth control - knowing how to adjust h...

Of all the sexual skills we can develop as men, oral sex stands as the single-most impactful in taking our love making to the next level. Studies show that oral sex is the primary pathway to orgasm for women. By mastering this art, we have the opportunity to unlock all new levels of pleasure, fulfillment, and connection with our partner that can serve as a main course, or as an appetizer to deeper...

Performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and erectile disfunction are some of the most common challenges facing men in the bedroom today. At the core of these patterns lies a performance anxiety that often times - if addressed and mitigated properly - can completely eliminate the issue. In this episode of the podcast, Ben and Hawks lay out a simple framework for moving through performance issue...

In this episode, Ben and Hawks pull back the curtain on non-ejaculatory orgasms for men: what they are, what they are not, and why so many men misunderstand them. They break down foundational principles that support this work, how it directly improves stamina and arousal control in bed, and why men who walk this path report deeper fulfillment - not just sexually, but across their entire lives. Whe...

With the benefits of semen retention gaining popularity in the wellness space, there's an aspect that's often overlooked. We call this the dark side of semen retention.  Many men beginning their journey of semen retention aren't aware of some of the risks of the repression of sexual energy. Sure, it can build a lot of energy, focus, drive, and optimize your system - but it can also atrophy your se...

Have you ever considered merging meditation and sex? Many people have never considered their sexuality as sacred - and even fewer have come across the tools to empower our personal development. Until now. Merging meditation and sex is what's at the core of this work. In this episode, Ben and Hawks dive into the steps to bring your meditative practice into the bedroom and allow it to supercharge yo...