Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Pamela Madsen, a U.S.-based sex educator specializing in hands-on somatic education, discusses eroticism as full-body passion rather than orgasm-focused performance. We explore how goal-oriented “purpose” messaging can turn sex into pressure around erections, penetration, and climax, while many women primarily want attention, eye contact, and presence. We distin...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, sexuality coach Brett Matthews shares how his own early struggles with shame, anxiety, and unworthiness around sex became the “wound” that led him into embodiment work and coaching. We discuss how many clients seek help at crisis points, how porn and disembodied self-pleasure can condition performance habits, and why foundational practices like body awareness, d...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam interviews Susan Bratton, author and publisher of 44 books and programs on heart-connected, pleasure-focused “orgasmic intimacy,” reframing sex beyond intercourse to full-body sensual touch, communication, oral pleasuring, yoni massage, and orgasmic intercourse that considers what the vagina wants. She argues sex can improve with age, supports healthspan and...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam interviews Ali Gilbert, a coach known as the “Queen of Men’s Health,” who works with high-performing men over 40 through an integrated model combining medical, training, nutrition, lifestyle, and recovery support to reduce decision fatigue. They discuss how men often follow fragmented advice from multiple experts, switch strategies too quickly, and struggle...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Caitlin V, a sex and relationship coach, YouTuber, HBO Max host, and author of "Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger," outlines her decade of work primarily with men experiencing performance anxiety. She emphasizes shifting from performance and comparison to an experiential focus on pleasure, communication, and treating sexual challenges as data. We also d...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Vanessa Cuccia, founder of Chakrubs and an interdisciplinary musician, shares how a period of healing from a toxic relationship, her work at an adult store, and exposure to crystals at a spiritual gathering sparked the idea of crystal pleasure tools for both pleasure and emotional support. Key Points: 04:30 Making Crystal Toys 11:54 Safety and Contraindications...

This episode of #mensexpleasure features marriage, relationship, and intimacy coach Monica Tanner, who shares her background, including her parents’ divorce at 12, 23 years of marriage, and her work helping couples build connection and intimacy while aiming to reduce divorce. We discuss common marriage breakdown areas—communication, sex, money, and parenting—and how sex issues can feel larger when...

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure, host Cam Fraser delves into the issues surrounding AI-generated deepfake abuse, featuring insights from guest Noelle Martin, a PhD candidate, lawyer, and global activist. Noelle sheds light on the harmful impacts of deepfake technology, particularly on women and girls, and discusses Australia's position and challenges in addressing online image-based abu...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Jeff Bennett, founder and CEO of Morari Medical, returns to answers questions about his personal and professional background, his passion for improving men's sexual health, and the evolution of his company. Jeff shares significant milestones, including receiving FDA clearance for their product, which aims to enhance sexual performance by delivering mild elec...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Lee Chambers discusses his diverse roles as a father, educator, psychologist, and author, while emphasizing his fascination with human behavior and interaction. He shares his journey of understanding masculinity, gender dynamics, and generational perspectives on these issues. Lee's experiences, including overcoming a severe health challenge and exploring per...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam is joined by his brother Callum to explore the story of Geddings David Osbon, an automotive shop worker from South Carolina who invented the penis pump. Key points: 01:33 Geddings' Early Life and Family 09:50 The Birth of the Penis Pump 17:52 Challenges and Acceptance 25:33 FDA Approval and Market Breakthrough 30:05 Family Legacy and Business Expansion 4...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, Isiah McKimmie, a couples counselor and sexologist with 15 years of experience, discusses strategies for helping individuals and couples build healthier relationships and improve their sex lives. Isiah emphasizes the importance of discussing difficult topics outside the bedroom in low-stakes situations to foster better communication inside the bedroom. She highl...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Jessica Soares, also known as the Erotic Muse or the Holy Hedonist, shares insights into her unique career as an erotic artist and experience designer. Jessica discusses her passion for fostering creativity and helping individuals live authentically. She delves into the nuances of creating erotic audio content aimed at arousal and its impact on both creator and...

In this episode, Mike Andryszewski shares his personal and professional journey in the realm of bodywork, sexuality, and spirituality. Mike discusses his background as a bodyworker and the various modalities he incorporates into his practice, including Thai massage, myofascial release, and craniosacral therapy. He emphasizes the importance of integrating mind-body connection and addressing deeper...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam intterviews Alex, a men's sex coach, about authenticity in male sexuality. Alex shares his personal journey and experiences with societal pressures that shaped his early sexual experiences, including performance anxiety and the influence of substance abuse. Cam and Alex discuss the transition towards a more genuine, shame-free sexual expression. They exp...

On this episode, Cam interviews returning guest Kiki Maree, a sexologist, who discusses her passion for helping individuals express and understand their sexuality more authentically. The conversation covers the significant impact of body image on sexual satisfaction and the importance of understanding the fluidity of sexuality throughout life stages. Kiki shares insights on normalizing changes in...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Nikki Justice—award-winning comedian, mother, and OnlyFans creator—about turning pain into punchlines and reclaiming power through comedy, courage, and self-expression. After a divorce during the pandemic, Nikki stumbled into stand-up, transforming her unconventional life and past struggles into bold, unapologetic storytelling. We explore the realit...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Annette Benedetti—Portland-based sex and intimacy coach, writer, and host of the acclaimed show Talk Sex With Annette—about reclaiming pleasure, power, and connection through curiosity and compassion. Ranked in the top 2.5% of podcasts globally, Annette’s work dives deep into taboo-breaking conversations around kink, trauma, and empowerment, informe...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Honey Brooks, a rural Australian mum, top OnlyFans creator, and bold voice redefining modern relationships—about navigating stigma, intimacy, and authenticity in the adult industry. From building a million-dollar business on her family farm to creating content with her husband, Honey shares her journey of creating content with her husband, including...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak again with Leah Carey—sex and relationship coach based in the US who specializes in supporting people recovering from high-control or narcissistic abuse backgrounds. This time, we explore how trauma impacts intimacy, consent, and sexual connection. She explains how constant stress and lack of autonomy in childhood wire the brain for hypervigilance and fe...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Lex Nyree, Melbourne-based sexologist, educator, and advocate for destigmatizing sexual health about the importance of open, shame-free conversations around STIs. With a background in youth and social work and currently completing her Master of Sexology, Lex brings a unique perspective to reducing stigma and normalizing topics often considered taboo...

In this episode of #mensexpleasure, I speak with Rob Kancler, men’s coach and facilitator drawing on Tantra, Taoism, and somatic practices about the developmental journey of male sexuality and intimacy. Rob shares how early experiences of isolation and confusion shape men’s long-term challenges with self-esteem, connection, and performance. We explore the role of the nervous system in intimacy, un...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I continue my conversation with Professor Alan McKee, who has spent decades studying pornography, pleasure, and sexual development. We dive into the legitimate problems with mainstream porn, including its narrow focus on penetration at the expense of female pleasure, its reinforcement of unrealistic beauty standards, and its lack of consent modeling. Alan and I...

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I interview Professor Alan McKee, who has spent nearly three decades researching pornography and healthy sexual development. We discuss the need to include heterosexual men in sexual health conversations, debunk common myths about pornography, and emphasise the importance of open communication and sex education for healthy sexual attitudes. We also touch on the...

This episode of #mensexpleasure is a compilation of shorter videos I've posted on my social media over the last year about sex education. I delve into this contentious issue, addressing and debunking the talking points propagated by conservative commentators such as Candace Owens, Matt Walsh, and Ben Shapiro. I summarise the historical context of sex education, clarify misconceptions, and prov...