Make Your Damn Bed

It seems like there's nowhere to focus lately except on the crumbling of America’s foundation, but that disregards the fact that America’s foundation was never secure, safe, or fair + at some point, the bottom was going to fall out. It’s unfortunate, the manner in which it did, but it was only a matter of time.  And it makes sense that the bad guys got to it first, because the good guys would...

Often I tend to exacerbate my problems by incapacitating myself with shame. Sometimes it helps to combat this thinking with psychologically verified strategies, but most of the time it's easier to simply change my environment. Leaving the room I got overwhelmed in, is sometimes more effective a tool than trying to change my mindset in that room. Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdam...

Embrace the idea that life may lack inherent meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create your own. Define your own values, goals, and purpose in life, even if it's in the face of apparent meaninglessness. RESOURCE : https://philosophy.stackexchange.com/questions/64941/what-is-the-meaning-of-life-in-the-myth-of-sisyphus AND https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Myth_of_Sisyphus GET AN OCCASIONAL PE...

Don't get down on yourself if you're unable to "visualize" your future + your goals. Focus on finding the feelings that drive you.   RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management AND Pareto principle AND https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tickler_file   WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTE...

Utopia feels far away, post-scarcity feels less so. According to wikipedia: Post-scarcity  is a theoretical  economic  situation in which most goods can be produced in great abundance with minimal human labor needed, so that they become available to all very cheaply or even  freely . [1] [2] Post-scarcity does not mean that  scarcity  has been eliminated for all goods...

When things become familiar to us, we no longer acknowledge them. The drone of cicadas in the background becomes impossible to hear unless you’re really listening. The pile of papers on the table becomes impossible to see unless you’re reminded they need to move. Things that no longer pose a threat, become obsolete to our focus.  This is the same thing that happens with “the good stuff”. Ther...

girlboss feminism + choice feminism prioritize individual privilege to the collective, which inherently means it is anti-feminist. today we read some discourse on what genuine feminism should look like. The Sources: "Embrace Intersectional Feminism" https://thebutlercollegian.com/2024/10/embrace-intersectional-feminism/ Empowerment > Choice Feminism https://www.tijdschriftlover.nl/english/choic...

Choice freedom is the idea that any choice a woman makes is inherently feminist, but it's missing a LOT of context and ignores real consequences as a result. Today we're defining, tomorrow we're talking about how to avoid it. The Sources: Anita Sarkeesian: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOmIIAact4s&t=117s Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/zr92h6/what_exactly_is_choice_fem...

How would you spend your time if you had more of it (and didn't need to monetize it)? Other sources: Why capitalism is stunting science: https://communist.red/why-capitalism-is-stunting-science Reddit thread on hobbies/capitalism: https://www.reddit.com/r/LateStageCapitalism/comments/11fj1tj/hobbies_used_to_be_fun_weve_lost_our_way/ Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.c...

We've discussed in the past how "guilt" can be a sign of empathy and growth, but today we dig into the science + the practical ways to deal with debilitating guilt, when it goes too far. THE SOURCE: https://www.upworthy.com/guilt-is-sign-of-trustworthiness https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-stop-feeling-guilty https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8945273/ Resources for Resisting a Coup: https:/...

Today I'm offering some relationship advice from people who have been in relationships for nearly 4 decades!!! The source: https://www.upworthy.com/marriage-advice Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Rel...

Some people are bad at reading social cues, and they'll hold you hostage in a conversation. Today we talk about how to deal with those people. The Source: https://www.upworthy.com/people-who-talk-too-much Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed...

Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging. 1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact 2. Belong to a community of identity 3. Join an activity-based community 4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week 5. Finding your third place in the community 6. Volunteering in the community The Sourc...

Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging. 1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact 2. Belong to a community of identity Tomorrow we cover the next four pieces to the puzzle: 3. Join an activity-based community 4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week 5. Finding your third place in th...

Research from the HeartMath Institute  has shown that our bodies pick up on the electromagnetic field of information that radiates from another’s heart. READ THE ARTICLE: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_support_in_difficult_times Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66 SUPPORT Julie (a...

Today is the final day of the how to deal with "bad faith actors" series. I share an article from "Honor the Earth" about how to respond to fascism in real life. https://www.honorearth.org/news/what-is-fascism-and-how-can-we-fight-it The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.c...

Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether, and they're very skilled at baiting people into engaging with them in bad faith. The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/2014...

OKAY WE SHOULDN’T ARGUE WITH BFAS, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? We should not bury our head in the sand about these beliefs, but amplifying problematic, anti-social ideas is does not help. We can’t win in debates but we can't do nothing. And for me, that starts by understanding the tolerance paradox. Read Popper's Original Work (for free): https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.59272/page/n211/mode/2...

Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether. PROBLEM #1: The point is: You cannot win because the game is rigged and the points don’t matter. PROBLEM #2: You are validating and platforming the position of the agitator, even if you “win” because (see problem #1). Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.co...

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fascists don't give a shit about facts, logic, or reality. They only care about framing their narrative as legitimate, and as soon as you engage with them, you lose. "A lie can travel half way around the world before the truth can even get its boots on." Sartre's Words: https://redsails.org/sartre-reason-falsely/ Other Sources: "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/2...

BFA's are hell bent on preserving their identity, and they'd rather avoid reality completely than address the contradictions in theirs. Trolls don't care about reality at all, as long as they can engage you at all? They win. And it bears repeating: You cannot reason with the unreasonable.  The Sources: "Fascism is not an idea to be debated but a set of actions to fight": https://lithub.com/fa...

Bad Faith Actors - meaning going into interactions with either 1. the intention to deceive or 2. A belief and conviction and faith so profound that they become unable to confront facts or logic or reality that contradicts that belief in any way.  The Sources: "Fascism is not an idea to be debated but a set of actions to fight": https://lithub.com/fascism-is-not-an-idea-to-be-debated-its-a-set...

"He had sown chaos between me and my friend and he truly didn’t give a fuck. In fact, he looked like he was enjoying it. He was manipulating me and I was watching it happen but unaware of how to make it stop. I couldn’t let a man who didn’t deny being a nazi get away with this, but I truly had no idea how to stop him." Later I learned, defusing and mediating and compromising ONLY works w...

According to Meg-John Barker at rewriting the rules, "My own way of dealing with meaninglessness in life, has also been to embrace it as an inevitable part of life which will happen with some regularity. There will be times – perhaps quite frequently – when we feel that our projects are pointless in the grand scheme of things, or when the world feels an overwhelming and cold place to live in, or w...