LX2 Codependency Coaching

Goodbyes are so hard sometimes. When we are facing loss regularly. Part of how we grow new parts we have to say goodbye to old versions of ourselves. The detachment journey is difficult but also leaves space for appreciating the moment. #detachment #lettinggo #sayinggoodbye #griefsucks

When we are going through hard things, the story we tell ourselves can be jaded based on where we are emotionally. We can shift the narrative by checking out facts. Check out the episode to learn how to change our perspective. #checkyourfacts #therapyworks #lovingbetter #lunax2llc

Today we are talking about the difference between reacting versus responding. Reacting is generally emotion driven and usually based on what we are going through in the moment. Responding is more though based and happens when we have time to process out the difference of our thoughts about the situation and not just an emotional reaction. #emotionalintelligence #conflictskills #relationshipbuildin...

Today we are talking about the spectrum of hope. We are looking at how hope influences our relationships. What are our expectation of relationships. Hope can become toxic if our needs are not getting met consistently. Check it out and share with people you care about who might need to increase their awareness for setting up boundaries. #toxichope #relationships #lovingpotential #lx2codependencycoa...

Today we are talking about friendship and who shows up consistently. What are we talking about and sharing through the seasons of our lives. Who is there just for the drama and who is showing up to be supportive. #adultfriendship #fairweatherfriends #showupforthedrama #whatyoufocusongrows #whoareyouventingto

The idea of emotional credit is the time and effort we invest into relationships assessing what we are getting back. We can often put more resources into people and relationships without really recognizing what our motivation is or looking at whether that investment is reciprocal. We can build resentment or become depleted more quickly and not recognize it. We also might not be giving people enoug...

Taking an opportunity to appreciate the moments that happen in a life. Life is long and life is short. There are moments we want to last forever and nothing does. Being present without holding on too tight to the expectation of how something "should" be. #liveinthemoment #staypresent #createjoy #everythingpasses

Talking today about diagnosis and title as information. When we learn our diagnosis or more information about how or why we do the things we do, it is an opportunity to learn new skills and tools to address it. We can take power from that information and use it to change how we exist in our world. 

How we consciously dissolve romantic parings when they are no longer working. Taking the time to honor what worked as we uncouple. Looking at how we change and grow through seasons of connection and separation. #consciousseparation #breakups #grief #whatareyourneeds #whowewere

Often our anxiety and discomfort comes from how we think we are being perceived. The truth is no one cares all that much. We are all just out here doing our best. Trying to be the best version of ourselves. Take a moment to give yourself grace, kindness and patience. #whatwouldpeoplethink #lovingbetter #giveyourselfgrace #thefouragreements #doyourbest 

Today we are talking with my former professor and friend Renee Valdez who has her own podcast, Visions of a blind woman. She talking about adjusting to her sudden vision loss and how she uses her new skills to rebuild herself. She is an incredible example of what resilience looks like.  

Today we are talking about the challenges of messing it up as we move forward. As we start to use new tools and skills we won't always use them right the first time. We are supposed to fail and mess things up and we get better at it with practice. #failforward @keepgoing #healingjourney #therapyworks #mentalhealth

Using new skills can be hard. As we increase our self-awareness of boundaries and expectations, we will raise the bar for our relationships. We teach people how to treat us. We can use skills and not do it perfectly and that is ok. We only get better at doing things with practice, grace and compassion. #doitanyway #manageyourpeace #liveyourworth #raisethebar 

Today we are talking about how being Codependent can contribute to feeling entitlement and resentment. When we love ourselves we recognize we are worthy and deserving of love simply by being. When we are doing so much for other people we start to create a sense of entitlement. We create transactional relationships that build pressure and unrealistic expectations. #entitlement #worhtyoflove #deserv...

We can't change or grow until we get to a level of acceptance of the situation. We have to tell ourselves the truth with kindness and love. We have to see all of our parts at the same time. It can be really hard and it is worth it. #changeishard #selfacceptance #lovingbetter #therapyworks #movingforward

Today we are talking about Conflict Style, expectations and emotions. When we are Codependent we can be conflict avoidant. We hold back from expressing our true emotions and expectations because we are trying to avoid discomfort. #conflictskills #emotionalawareness #askingforyourneeds #workingthroughit

How we define success is relative to the struggle we are going through. How and who sets the benchmark informs the goals we have. Those goals we reach or don't reach can create pathways in our brain for what success is. When we shift the perspective from large goals to smaller attainable goals will help your brain receive success. #goalsetting #loweryourexpectations #changeyourbrain #thestruggleis...

Codependency can cause us deprive ourselves of our needs or create the limiting belief that we aren't deserving of getting our needs met. We are so busy taking care of other people we deprive ourselves of what we want and need for our own peace and wellbeing. #takingcareofyourneeds #livingindeprivation #createyourpeace #lx2codependencycoaching #limitingbeliefs

Today we are talking about allowing yourself to be emotionally available and vulnerable once you start to love yourself better. Healing past your Codependency and trusting the people around you with your feeling. Breaking down your walls and creating boundaries. 

The idea of the box is cutting off parts of ourselves to feel safe in certain relationships or environments to keep ourselves safe. We hold back our authentic big self with all of our parts to stay in relationship. #authenticity #buildingconfidence #gettinginthebox #lettinggoofrelationships #releasingoldversions

Today we are talking about this idea of being liked and being a people pleaser. The challenge is liking yourself and pleasing you. Are you being kind and compassionate to yourself. #boundaries #lovingyoubetter #peoplepleasing #codependency #pickme #likeyoufirst

Communicating expectations with parents and adult children and setting boundaries. We are talking about establishing and communicating expectations and boundaries in adult child/parent relationships. #parentchild #adultchildren #boundaries #intergenerationalrelationships #codependencycoaching

We can't be better without making the hard changes. Doing the hard work of applying our new skills and tools will create discomfort and it will also create new ways of being in relationship. Being better at loving ourselves and appreciating the relationships in our lives that are healthy with boundaries. #hardpath #lovingbetter #changeishard #codependencyskills #doingthework

Once we start to practice setting and maintaining boundaries, we get to choose the people we are in relationship with. Every person we allow to have access to us is a conscious choice. We are the ones who maintain the gate, drawbridge, wall or fortress around us. Approaching relationships from an abundance or infinite mindset gives us an opportunity to love ourselves and others differently. #abund...

We are talking about what comes next after learning how Codependency shows in relationships. Doing the communication part of your boundaries, conditions and needs. Creating more awareness of how you feel and how to set up boundaries in the relationships closest to you. #boundaries #choosingpeace #lovingbetter #doingthework #practice