LX2 Codependency Coaching

Today, we are talking about how to manage and communicate our expectations to prevent disappointment and resentment. It is helpful to check in with out own experience and feeling to recognize how those inform what we expect from people, relationships, and situations. #disappointment #expectations #relationships #communciation

Today, we are talking about the challenge of placing our happiness on other people, situations, or circumstances. Often, if we leave those things up to others, we create our own disappointment. #enti #yourownhappiness #disappointment #expectations   

Today, we are talking about taking an intentional pause of just 30 seconds. It's helpful when we stop for just a moment and give ourselves time to be more intentional in conversation or in our actions. If we take a moment to think about our impact on the people we care about by sending a message or being kind out in the world. 30 seconds can help build connection or create compassion. Half a minut...

Today, we are talking about the idea of no contact in relationships. It is sometimes necessary to create a hard boundary in a once close relationship that consists of not being in communication. The decision to withdraw contact should be about maintaining your peace, resources, and being able to be your most authentic self.  If you make the decision to withdraw access those people who feel entitle...

Today, we are talking about inconsistency as a helpful way to give ourselves grace and compassion. There are going to be times when we can't be consistent or stay on our routine. It will be helpful to come at the new situation or circumstance from a place of love, rather than fear. #consistency #loveyourself #rollwithit #chooselove   

Today, we are talking about the line of demarcation a border of before and after. When something happens and we are changed because of it. It is helpful to have people around you to help get through and light the path to the next part. Support to bare witness and hold space as you create the next part of your experience. #nextpart #beforeandafter #lightthepath #hardtimes     

Today, we are talking about the past, present, and future. It is helpful to have an awareness of what happened before now or who we have been in the past. Consider trying to stay grounded in the present moment, even when it is hard, controlling what you can. It is also helpful to work on planning things to look forward to in the future to keep momentum going. #awareness #letitgo #mentalhealth #sta...

Today, we are talking about the idea of "no matter what". There are some relationships, situations, or circumstances we feel loyal or committed to without questioning the "what". Humans are constantly changing and evolving. It is important to evaluate if these ideas or choices still make sense in the life you have now. #notmatterwhat #question #changeyoumindset

Today, we are talking about evaluating life situations and circumstances based on whether they are a benefit for the effort you are putting to them. Often we think if we just give a little more or do more we will get a better outcome. The reality is, we need to be accepting of the situation for what it is and then evaluate if it is good enough or if we want more. That can be hard but not impossibl...

Today, we are taking about how to create strength in the bonds of relationship. I was thinking about steel and how it is strengthened with different elements, heated, and shaped into a strong substance that be used to build, defend, and create. Our relationships are similar in that they can have different elements of personality and skills that will be tested through time. Relationships grow stron...

Today, we are talking about unintentional consequences of our choices and behaviors. We often take for granted that we don't things in a vacuum and what we do doesn't have an impact on other things. The reality is our behavior will impact others, our partner, children, and the larger whole with what we do. It is helpful to take a moment to observe our own behavior and get curious about how we infl...

Today, we are talking about that feeling of being outside of group or situation. Feeling like you are wrong, bad, or other than everyone else. So many people will try to work harder or change who they are to fit in. Once you recognize you are enough just they way you are, you start to feel a sense of peace. Feeling comfortable in your skin being your whole self. #other #protectyourpeace #peopleple...

Today, we are talking about the knowing that comes with experience and especially going through hard things. Yes there is healing and growing from the things we don't choose. The knowing we gain is so important to creating trust that we can do whatever we need to get through the challenges life throws at us. Building the wealth of understanding, skills, and tools we get from going through life. Th...

Today, we are talking about the spaces we occupy considering where we came from and where we want to be. It is one thing to feel comfortable being your full authentic self in a space and another to feel like we don't belong What you do to fit in is up to you. #belonging #fittingin #takeupspace #beingauthentic #impostersyndrome 

Today, we are talking about how to get through the challenges that seem to come one after the other. The shit storm that happens in everyone's life at one point or another. It's helpful to check your facts, control what you can, and recognize all of it is temporary. We can relate to those times when unexpected things happen and we feel unprepared. Remember, you have been able to get through every...

Today, we are talking about the things we learn from our parents, including what not to do. It is helpful to consider all the elements it takes to be an effective and consistent parent considering all the elements of influence. No, parents doesn't come with a handbook but there are lots of ways to become better at it at any stage. #parenting #readabook #onthejobtrainting #mentalhealth #whatnottodo

Today, we are talking about the slow problems we take for granted or avoid. A slow problem are those things we know are issues and we tend to sweep them under the rug or ignore hoping they change on their own. What happens is they eventually become larger issues and get overwhelming over time. It is helpful to have conversations or address them when they are small so they don't have bigger consequ...

Today, we are talking about how to change or get out of challenging situation or circumstance that is uncomfortable or not serving the version of you that you're in. The first step is to acknowledge and accept the situation for what it is. Let go of the idea that there is potential or it will get better. Look for models or other ways of doing the thing. Finally, create just one step to start build...

Today, we are talking about if something is a tap or a drain. If something is a tap, it moves us forward or gives us energy. Drains limit our motivation or make us feel lower or empty. We can remind ourselves of what motivates us or what keeps us struck in unhelpful patterns. #tapordrain #motivation #movingforward #skillbuilding 

Today, we are talking about how we show the people around us how to behave. We get an opportunity to show up and be the leaders or communicators we want in our lives. We get to model the behavior we learn and share it with people we care about. The key is to choose wisely and work to normalize healthy coping. #modelingbehavior #parenting #rolemodel #leadership

Today, we are talking about comfortable complacency and the idea that we often don't make change until we are in discomfort. Often, we can talk ourselves out of doing the hard work it takes to see results. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. Find an accountability buddy or someone who can call your attention to living your values and goals consistently. #changehappens #complacency #mentalhealth #...

Today, we are talking about sharing and listening to the wisdom around us. Especially now, it is important to pay attention to the experience of the people around us. Recognize that there have been other times in our history we can reflect on and learn from. It is helpful to take some time to check in on those we care about, coming together rather than giving in to the fear and division. #wisdom #...

Today, we are talking about how to manage ourselves in really challenging times. Right now we are all getting through day by day and feeling pretty overwhelmed. Either with the state of the world or dealing with hard situations we can simply leave. I have described some ways using Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT practices to give you some tools to work through and tolerate the distress we are...

Today, we are talking about increasing our directed attention, awareness, to create change. Often we are operating on auto pilot or simply functioning in survival. It isn't until we are really uncomfortable do we then feel like we need to make changes. If we can increase our awareness to the discomfort, we can address the issues likely holding us back from what we want. #awareness #createchange #d...

Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is having big feelings with your own big feelings. #coregulation #conflicttools #communication #gaslighting