LX2 Codependency Coaching

Today we are talking about the default setting and shifting our perspective from our trauma to our growth setting. When we are learning new skills, we will default back to old skills. There are times when we are healing our old behaviors, its helpful to recognize old coping still exists. Integrating new skills takes time and it can be existing. We can benefit from not doing as much. #defaultsettin...

Trust is something people struggle with. Where trust issues come from is feeling confident in who you are and secure in your ability to be vulnerable with others. We have to see who people are and whether they can hold space for you. If they are consistent in showing up with kindness, grace, and compassion. Not everyone is trust worthy but when you can trust yourself, its easier to put faith in ot...

Quitting things, relationships, and behaviors is challenging. Changing habits and having to engage our brain in what we do can create a lot of discomfort, and it is worth it. #quitting #doingnewthings #growth #changethebehavior #choosingyou

When we do not feel safe sharing our emotional self we can shape shift to different version of ourself contributing to the delusion. We become different versions to keep the status quo. Being our whole authentic self takes work. We have to embrace who we are, all of our parts at the same time. #authenticself #healing #shapeshifting #secrets

Today we are talking about detaching from the delusions of how we see the people we want to be in relationship with. #detachment #delusion #codependency #emotionalinvestment #mentalhealth 

Today we are talking about the loneliness that comes with growing and healing. #mentalhealth #selftalk #loneliness #boundaries

Today we are talking about the idea of making hard challenges. When we willing to face the challenges in our lives that are uncomfortable. We can face them with an attitude of "how hard can it be"? We can change our circumstances even when it is hard. #growpastthechallenge #howhardcanitbe #trustyourself 

Today we are talking about ways to nurture the parts of ourselves that still need some momming or dadding, nurture, and love. Part of healing and growing past unhelp coping is is by loving those parts of us that needed to be seen. #nurtureyourself #lovingbetter #mentalhealth #havingpatiencewithyou 

Can affirmation help and influence change and growth? YES and it is helpful when we are dealing with change. We have to increase are awareness of what is happening now. We have to look at the bad so we know where to make changes. #positiveaffirmations #healing #growth #mentalhealth #socialmedia

Today we are talking about working through those hard moments and creating the life they want. #movingforward #lovingbetter #pasthismoment #mentalhealth #lettinggo 

Today we are talking about changing how we process emotions by learning new tool and updating how we were originally programmed. We get to choose how we process emotions once we have more tools to manage the situations we are facing. #emotionalprogramming #doingthingsbetter #mentalhealth #lovingbetter #whatnowpodcast #lovingallofyourversions #changemindset

Today we are talking about not feeling like you are enough and how that can lead to you doing too much. We can feel like we need to validate our worth by doing so much more, we get angry, tired, and overwhelmed. It is helpful to pay attention to what we actually have capacity for. #lovingbetter #doingtoomuch #youarerenough #mentalhealth #codependency

Today we are talking about patterns, behavior, and meaning. We have the opportunity to change the pattern that happen in our lives by changing our behavior over time. We can shift the meaning we assign to things. #change #mentalhealth #shiftingpatterns #meaningandpurpose

In relationships we often feel like we need to fix problems for other people to keep them in our lives. A helpful thing to start to recognize is IF it is a you problem or a them problem. Then we can allow space for people to address their own problems or for them to acquire tools to fix things for themselves. #notayouproblem #skillbuilding #mentalhealth #codependencycoaching 

Today we are talking about aligning our words with our behavior especially when we are creating healthy habits and coping skills. The idea of follow through.  Increasing our awareness of how we feel. Changing behavior requires action consistently. #newyear #healthhabits #goals #followthrough #mentalhealth

Today we are talking about the end of the year. Looking back not just at 2023 but relistening to the popular episode of Anxiety Loneliness and Depression originally posted 7/25/2019 https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-krijt-b92c2f We are all doing the best we can. You have made it through the best we you can. Proud of you! #endoftheyear #growth #mentalhealth #gettingthrough

Today we are talking about parenting and detaching from the outcome. The Nurtured Heart Approach is a parenting model I endorse. #toxicparenting #detachingfromtheoutcome #lovingbetter #raisinghealthykids

How we trust ourselves and show up fully we have to be aware of what our authentic self is. Being your most authentic self takes a level of knowing and appreciating who we are, all of our parts, at the same time. We have core values that stay static. Trusting yourself and being securely attached to you is being attached to those core values. #authenticity #lovingbetter #corevalues #betruetoyou

Often we can break our own hearts by holding on to unrealistic expectations or outcomes. We hold on so tightly and then we "should" ourselves into anxiety and depression. Once we can let go and just be present gratitude gets easier. #90scountry #unrealisticexpectations #lettinggo #shoulding #livinginthepresent

What emotions are we holding on to that are keeping us stuck. When we have hard things happen we assign meaning to certain feelings. Especially this time of year we have traditions and we get to assign meaning to those traditions. The meaning we place on those traditions is up to us. We get to change the meaning and the feeling associated to those experiences. #emotionalhoarding #makingmeaning #le...

We are talking about secure attachment to ourselves rather than having to be securely attached to another person or outcome. When we have attachment wounds we can be reacting to an old version of who we have been when our needs didn't get met. We attach to certain outcomes of how we expect things to be. #attachment #loveyourself #mentalhealth #pivot #bestversionofyou

Today we are talking about the ways we transform through our lifetime. How we evolve and change adapting to our current circumstances. #growthmindset #adapting #changeovertime #mentalhealth #skillbuilding #detatchment 

Talking about toxic environments and how we can choose to get out of them. We get to choose who we spend our time with and how we leave what doesn't serve the people we are growing into. #toxicsystems #growth #mentalhealth #healing #resilience 

Today we are talking about shifting our perspective of what is happening to us to being given an opportunity. When we can look at change as an opportunity to learn something, to do something differently. We can talk differently to ourselves. This is how we grow, how we change. #growthmindset #opportunity #learningskills #mentalhealth #neuroplasticity #selftalk 

Today we are talking about deadheading the roses, cutting off old behaviors that no longer serve a purpose to continue growing. We are looking at behaviors and relationships as we go into "obligation season" or the holiday season. We are increasing awareness of which relationships we can be our most authentic self in. #growingseason #boundaries #usingnewskills #mentalhealth #lx2codependencycoachin...