"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks

Valentine's Day is very much around the corner. So many singles will be going on dates and trying to find the right partner. On today's episode, I share dating tips for singles going on dates this weekend. Also remember to be the chooser and not play along so you don't get played on (I share more on this in my book, " Being Single "). www.kemisogunle.com #valentinesday2022 #datingtipsforvalentines...

Healing is imperative to finding your true self and living your best life. Today, I share on why you can't give up on healing yourself and how to go about the healing journey. Understand that healing cannot be rushed and if you need support, do not hesitate to reach out to me via email: coaching@kemisogunle.com Love and light, Kemi Sogunle www.kemisogunle.com

It's so easy to self-sabotage, blame others, lie to oneself and allow fear to shift you from your reality. On today's episode, I share 3 tips on how to examine your life and stop self-sabotaging. "There is no limit in life except that which you place on yourself." - Kemi Sogunle www.kemisogunle.com

Are you one of those who make New Year's resolutions but procrastinate and never accomplish anything? Instead of setting resolutions, create a vision for your life and establish achievable goals around your vision. Without a vision, people perish. If you truly want to become the best version of yourself, now is the time to create that vision. Today I share tips on creating a vision and setting att...

As we come to the end of 2021 and prepare to step into 2022, take time to introspect, heal, love and find yourself. Commit to become better, stronger and wiser. Commit to self-improvement and living your best life while you're still breathing and living. Always remember that no one is guaranteed the next nano-second.  Thank you for being here and for allowing me to support you on your life's journ...

It's that time of the year when singles easily become love bombed and cuffed to avoid feeling lonely.  Don't get caught up in being cuffed. Love and value yourself. Establish healthy relationship goals and boundaries. Don't fall for meaningless words or get caught up in your feelings. Learn to make yourself a priority.  Always remember: "You were never born to be an option. Why make your...

Oftentimes, when a relationship ends, it is the beginning of an awakening for you to become consciously aware that you are drowning, leaving yourself behind and losing yourself to what isn't love.  Reality is that you were been depleted than elevated and it is time to find yourself and discover your true essence and strengths.  "Love does not deplete...love elevates."  - excerpt, "B...

Dating is a vetting and sorting game. It is based on your life and relationship goals and vision. If you don't have a discussion on what you are looking for, you may be setting up yourself and will self-sabotage. www.kemisogunle.com

Have you found yourself struggling with who you are?  You may find yourself doing things you don't want to do or hiding while external perfecting your life. You may feel ashamed or guilty of doing somethings and you find yourself slipping into dark places. Whenever you find yourself feeling ashamed, guilty or needing to hide, you are beginning to lose yourself.  You may not be consciousl...

Have you ever wondered if forgiveness is necessary or not? Are you holding on to unforgiveness and don't recognize it is silently killing you? How is unforgiveness serving you? What will it take to forgive yourself and others? Do you know unforgiveness is self-sabotage? "You cannot love if you cannot forgive." - excerpt, " Beyond the Pain " Copyright ©2014, Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved. Liste...

Healing is often overlooked and underrated. However, healing is the key to unlocking your true essence.  We all at some point in our lives have acquired emotional wounds that may sometimes be traumatic and if we are unconsciously aware of this, we will attract more pain to ourselves. On today's episode, I share steps on how to begin to heal yourself.   Share your thoughts on this episode with me v...

I often get asked the question, "How do I begin to love myself?" On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I touch on some points on Self-Love. Loving oneself is often mistaken for caring for oneself externally.  Loving yourself begins within your soul, mind, body and spirit. It is all about alignment with your core. Without this alignment, you become a wandering soul lost in...

Self-abandonment is an unconscious choice that we make when we encounter hurt/pain/trauma. It is the beginning of the journey of losing oneself. Today, I share a few points on why we self-abandon and why it is important to gain a conscious awakening to this truth in order to find who you are created to be and become. Without becoming conscious aware of the reasons why you self-abandon, you will be...

As a single woman, you may meet a man who hasn't healed himself. You may also still be dealing with some buried emotional wounds that you are yet to heal from. You may have fantasized about the partner who will rescue you. You may have met someone who mirrored back your emotional wounds to you and you both trauma bonded.  However, you are trying hard to make him see why you are the "one." The...

How you value yourself will determine how others see you and the values you have/bring to the table. Without knowing your own value, it will be difficult for others to see your value and treat you based on your value. Listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks and let me know what you think. Send me a message to provide feedback and I'll look forward to hearing from you. www....

The month of May is mental health awareness month.  Your mental health is vital to having a balance healthy life and relationship.  Without taking care of your mental health, you may develop mental illnesses.  It is important to get professional support to heal from buried emotional wounds that result in mental health disorders.  The emotional pain/trauma we all suffer from rig...

Have you found yourself struggling in your marriage and you believe divorce is the only way out (if there is no abuse)? Do you compare your marriage to those of others and think divorce is your final solution? On today's episode, I share 4 reasons why you should never rush towards divorce. If you believe you need to work on your relationship or you have the desire to work on your marriage before m...

Have you ever wondered if you are self-disciplined and committed to yourself? Do you have boundaries or lack boundaries? Self-discipline and commitment are acts of self-love that allow you stay grounded and contribute to your growth and healthy mindset. Without being committed to yourself and self-disciplined, you may find yourself struggling to have healthy relationships, be respected by others a...

Have you ever met someone and right from the start you shared stories about your life? It suddenly seems like you have known them forever and you start to entrust your life to them. Out of the blue, their actions no longer seem to make you want to trust them and you feel betrayed. What initially took place was trauma bonding and dumping of emotional pain/trauma that created the illusions that you...

Do you really know your love language? Does your love language really define what love is in your relationship or help your relationship grow? Love Languages only create transactional and unhealthy relationships that result in codependency. Love Languages stem up from the emotional wounds/trauma that we carry and do not heal from. We seek for others to meet these needs but become frustrated when t...

Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship but the presence of limited beliefs can result in self-sabotage that will prevent you from having a healthy relationship. Today, I'm talking about 5 limited beliefs that get in your way of establishing a healthy relationship. Understand that "Two unhealthy people can never have a healthy relationship." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, " Beyond the Pain ." Copy...

Have you found yourself struggling with the inner voices that make you criticize, judge or abandon yourself?  Those voices you hear from when you were a child...the negative ones spoken by the caregivers/parents. The voices that keep replaying and lead to thoughts that make you create limited beliefs and awaken fear/ego. Those voices echo constantly and prevent you from communicating with you...

Understanding the power of forgiveness is essential to your growth process and life's journey. "“Without forgiveness and love, you will live with resentment,  bitterness, malice and strife which result in more pain. You can never  love without forgiving. Forgiveness deepens your ability to love and  frees you from pain.” - Excerpt from my book, "Being Single" and "Beyond the Pain."...

Have you found yourself struggling with internal conflicts? You overthink, worry, become anxious or depressed.  We sometimes experience internal conflicts that result in triggers due to buried emotional wounds/trauma we are yet to heal from. We overthink or over process our thoughts and create make-belief stories that limit us and keep us in a box of illusions that we hold on to. Listen to to...

Have you ever struggled communicating your feelings/emotions to anyone or your partner?  Lack of great communication skills is why we struggle to express ourselves and get into arguments and discords. Mastering communication is essential to having a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Today, I'm sharing on the reasons why communication seem to be a struggle in our personal spaces....