"Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks

Oftentimes, people view marriage as an institution, but reality is that an institution can only create a transaction. On today's episode, I share nuggets on marriage and how the building a solid foundation for a marriage begins with each partner being healthy and living purposefully. Share your thoughts on this topic as we learn from each other and evolve to build healthier relationships and evolv...

Have you ever had your heart broken by the person you thought would be the best partner for you? On today’s episode of “Love, Sex, Lies and Reality” Talks, I share my thoughts on what happens to you when you #experience a heartbreak. Listen in and share your thoughts. Connect with me on my website: www.kemisogunle.com . #lovesexliesandreality #findinglove #kemisogunle #beyondthepain #onbecomingres...

Have you found yourself going on dates but never feeling that you are able to pull through after a few dates? Finding a partner to spend your lifetime with requires time and understanding of both parties. You have to be open to learning new ways and seeing things from different perspectives especially when you both are not brought up in the same environment and may have different perspectives abou...

At every point in our lives, we all ask the "why" question in relationships or experiences. The "why" question can hold us back from experiencing a conscious awakening when we get stuck with it. On today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks, I share some tips on how to gain a conscious awakening when you find yourself asking "why." Always rem...

Why do we focus so much on romance in a relationship? Is romance the key to a healthy relationship? On today's episode, I share my realistic view on romance in a relationship. I believe a lot of couples miss out on building a solid foundation for their relationships when the primary focus is romance. Listen in and share your thoughts on this episode as we build together and as learn the true f...

As a single woman who may have unhealed emotional or father wounds, it is easy to create a transactional relationship that will not last for a lifetime. Such relationships stem from the need to have a partner who can fill the void that exist as a result of the emotional/father wounds. On today's episode, I share 3 tips/nuggets that can help you as a single woman if you are going through this.&nbsp...

Understanding the root causes of why we struggle in life’s journey is key to discovering and tapping into our inner strengths.   Struggling is a test we all have to face in life’s journey in order to thrive and evolve.   Today, I share how to understand your struggles and turn them into positive outcomes that will #help you evolve and #discover your inner strength.   “Every #struggl...

It's love week. Valentine's Day is around the corner.   So many people are looking to get gifts from their partners and it's all about transactions mostly than it is love.   What happens if you don't get a gift, or you don't have a Valentine's Day partner? Does this mean that love is dead?   Watch or listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks to learn more... https://www.kemi...

Love is in the air! With Valentine's Day around the corner, singles are looking to connect with a potential partner.  However, without knowing your body language or understanding how your body communicates with you (by sending warning signals via your intuition and nervous system, you may hook up with someone who not meant for you. Our body sends us signals as warning signs all the time via o...

So many relationships fail but examining the root causes of why they fail are essential to learning on how to build on a purposeful relationship going forward. Every phase in life comes with different goals and needs.  At teenage years, you don't even understand yourself to know exactly what you are looking for in a partner. As you grow older and begin to get a sense and understanding of who you a...

As we start the brand new year, don’t leave yourself behind. Take charge of your life and journey. Become accountable and responsible for the life God gave to you. Discover the parts of you that you need to connect to and with. Make good use of your time in life. Always remember that you are a light. No one can dim your light except you give them the power to do so. Reconnect with your light and m...

Is there such a thing as a "Perfect Partner?" On episode 67 of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality," I shed light into the "Perfect Partner" myth.  There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We are all flawed and on the journey to discovering who we are and were created to be. To have an idea that a partner is perfect, is birthed out of fantasies and illusions that we create from mirroring other p...

Suicide has become so prevalent in our society today.  According the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, the following facts are documented about suicide in the US: The age-adjusted suicide rate in 2020 was 13.48 per 100,000 individuals . The rate of suicide is highest in middle-aged white men . In 2020, men died by suicide 3.88x more than women . On average, there are 130 suicides pe...

So many of us desire a relationship or marriage but this requires a lot of work in our individual lives as well as with the relationship. A healthy marriage or relationship requires 100% from each partner. However, if only one person is doing the work, it's not going to be a healthy relationship. Love requires work and it begins with working on yourself first.  I share more on today's episode...

Oftentimes, we hold on to unforgiveness without realizing that we are locking ourselves into a place of pain where traumas manifest. Reality is this: “You cannot love if you cannot forgive.” - excerpt, “Beyond the Pain.” Copyright ©️2014, Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved. Forgiveness is for you…it’s liberating and an essential part of the healing process.

Oftentimes, we tend to believe that trust is a difficult thing because we don't know or trust ourselves yet.  Reality is that trust is an attribute of love and the more you discover who you are, the more you will learn to trust yourself. Always remember: "You cannot love if you cannot trust and you cannot trust if you cannot love." - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2...

Is there truly such a thing as a right or wrong relationship? Have you found yourself attracting who you call the right vs. wrong partners?  Today I shed some light into this topic to help others understand right vs. wrong when it comes to dating, attraction and finding love. Listen to today's episode of "Love, Sex, Lies and Reality" Talks to learn more. https://www.kemisogunle.com #lovesexli...

The lack of emotional availability in one's life results in seeking for a rescuer to love you. What we tend to find in such spaces are emotionally unavailable partners who mirror back our lives to us.  If you find yourself becoming attracted to emotionally unavailable partners, take a rain check and do the healing work so that you can become emotionally available and healthy in your own space...

"Every experience you go through in life results in an opportunity to discover your true self."- Kemi Sogunle  How are your experiences leading to your self discovery?  #lovesexliesandreality #beingsingle #beyondthepain #onbecomingrestored #kemisogunle #selfhealing #emotionalintelligence #selfdiscovery How are you allowing each experience to shape your behavior? How is each experience helping you...

We all want to have a great relationship but it takes 2 people to put in the time and effort to make it work and last forever. #healthyrelationships #lovesexliesandreality #beingsingle #beyondthepain #onbecomingrestored #kemisogunle #consciouslove

Relationships are meant to help us sail and stay on course in life’s journey. However, most of us get lost in relationships due to not know who we are, seeking to find a rescuer and due to unhealed emotional pain/trauma. Today I shed light into why you should stay single until you know yourself.

Self-care is often confused with self-love. Knowing the difference is essential to your growth in life’s journey. I share this as it is a topic that’s dear to my heart as a coach. If you don’t love yourself (despite caring for yourself), you can’t love anyone else.

Knowing when to stay single vs. when to be in a relationship is key to saving yourself from heartbreaks. Always remember that it is better to stay single than to be in an unhealthy relationship where you lose yourself.

Oftentimes, we talk about value at the end of a relationship. We may say things like: “He/she doesn’t know my value. I’m more valuable than the way I was treated.” Reality is this: “The value you present to others, will determine the value you receive from them.” - Kemi Sogunle Do you really know your true value? #lovesexliesandreality #beingsingle #beyondthepain #onbecomingrestored #kemisogunle #...

Resentment is an internalized emotional pain that we carry from childhood or adulthood and later project on others when we get triggered to gain a conscious awareness of what we need to heal from. Without understanding our emotions and what they are teaching us about ourselves, we project the negative/buried emotional trauma/wounds on others and make it about them. We must understand that everythi...