Living with your Thoughts

Communication is the key to successful relationships. How you listen, how you communicate , how the other person receives your communication is all part of effective communication. There is so much more than the words you use.

Evolving as a human is no easy task. How are you doing so far?

Is it virtually impossible for you to set boundaries? No matter how hard you try you just can’t say no.

Consider your impaired decision making, your anxiety about the future, your low self-esteem, how you focus on what you don’t have…this is all a limited way of thinking that is not going to change your circumstances.

“Values are not situational, your expressive behaviour is” Brene’ Brown. Your values determine your decision making. Are you making good decisions? What does it mean to live your values?

How do you know you have high functioning anxiety and what steps can you take to manage this.

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You can’t change the past but you can change things you haven’t done yet. Maybe you need to forgive someone or yourself, maybe you haven’t made that apology yet, maybe you haven’t accepted yourself yet.

How to be more effective by spending your time and energy in planning, relationships and prevention as opposed to continually fighting fires.

Love is just as important as oxygen, food and water. How do you feel love and give love in your life. What does love mean to you? Have you shut down for fear of being hurt? Can you start today to bring love back into your life so that your life has meaning and is enriched ?

Both great Drives or personality traits that need to be managed and mastered. Take your own Drive assessment and understand your dominant Drives and Drainers https://engagementfit.com/

Your money psychology. Money beliefs or the stories you keep telling yourself around money. Your relationship between your thoughts and the financial actions you take. Do you have a scarcity or abundance mindset and are your beliefs serving you? Maybe you are missing opportunities and hindering your growth, maybe you tie your net worth to your self worth.

Clarity on the expectations you have in your life, are they realistic or do they perhaps need some adjustments.

The value of carving out time so time does not control you. Are you making time for the important things, things that energise you, connect you, rejuvenate and heal you? You may need deep contemplative time or valuable time to connect with your children so they feel attachment with you. Maybe you are creative and have lots of ideas, you need a quiet mind for this.

Phrases and words you consistently use, are they serving you, are you energised and feel peaceful or are you agitated, drained or confused? What you say is what you think! I am encouraging you to be mindful of your words.

The final tips of becoming a person of substance. The link to take your DRIVE assessment and understand why you think, relate and accomplish what you do https://engagementfit.com/

Someone that adds value to the world by creating something, a thought an emotion. Someone that works hard to accomplish something to leave the world a better place. Someone that has meaning in their life. Is this something you want to work towards?

Your identity is tied to your past, who you used to be, who you think you are and how you feel about yourself. You can spend time chasing gratification to feel better and stay in your cycle of perceived identity or you can visualise your ideal identity, who you can be, who you want to be. Self reflection is a daily practice that will move you towards your ideal identity.

An unbalanced mind brings disconnection with ourselves and others. Are you reactive and mostly in a state of being overly emotional or are you so rational, logical, disconnected and can’t access your emotions? Developing a balance of these two mindsets helps you develop a wise mind.

Being in a flow state feels amazing, time stands still as your mind and body are fully immersed and attuned. How can you be in a flow state more often throughout your day?

“Manage your energy not your time” -Tony Schwartz. We only have so much energy each day, are you energised or drained. Have you found the balance between your feminine and masculine energy?

Overwhelmed with too much on your plate. Identify your candles that are lit and causing distress, disruption and sleepless nights. Once you identify them, you can implement a way to start blowing them out and bring you into a state of feeling some peace.

Deepen your relationships, have more connection when you have meaningful conversations with all the people who mean so much to you in your life.

Experiencing awe effects your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. It reduces stress, quietens your inner critic and inspires you to have humility and empathy. It brings out the generosity in you and allows for you to have a different perspective.

Writing is a form of therapy that brings your thoughts right in front of you to see, out of your head and onto paper, this releases your emotions and asks that you face your feelings. You will discover yourself in new ways, especially if you are writing to your unhealed inner child.