Living While Loving Your Child Through Addiction

Guests Joey Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie share from the heart their experiences and struggles with addiction and mental health. 17 year old Joey who is in early recovery is full of wisdom about relationships and connection and what a child struggling with addiction needs during active addiction and recovery.  What he shares is relevant to supporting your child of any age.  His mo...

What the heck is a subconscious limiting belief anyway? In this episode I explain it in easy to understand terms.  I also explain how they keep you from getting what you want in your life and how to to clear those subconscious limiting beliefs in easy to understand steps and terms.   If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me usi...

Self compassion is a critical life skill, especially when you're dealing with a child's addiction. Learning how to give yourself compassion will help you create more peace of mind and happiness in your life. When you know how to give yourself compassion you never have to people please, sell yourself short, or manipulate to get your needs met because you can meet them yourself.  In this epi...

Post traumatic growth is the positive changes that are experienced after a major life crisis or traumatic event. A child's addiction can be a traumatic event in itself, or it can be filled with traumas. Every situation has good and bad in it though.  You've certainly experienced the bad, today I would like to open your mind to the good possibilities. I wasn't looking for growth when I...

How mad do you get about lies? In this episode I tell you how to take the emotional charge out of lies so you can keep your peace of mind. I also tell you why it doesn't matter if your child lies or not. You're still in control.  In this episode I mentioned two podcasts that you should follow up with: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-23-How-To-Create-Self-Confidence-eve62m...

How much time do you spend trying to avoid judgment? Do you live with the burden of shame and secrecy when it comes to your child's addiction? We don't have to tell everyone all of our stories.  Not everyone deserves to hear it.  There's a big difference between deciding someone doesn't need to know and being afraid they will find out and judge you. Today's episode will help yo...

We all get in a funk. It's inevitable, yet we judge ourselves when it happens.  In this episode guest host Kelly Hatcher talks about what to do when the inevitable funk happens.   If you want to get in touch with Kelly: https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/ https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/ If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute...

Sometimes we cling to things that are hurting us just because they're familiar. In this episode I share what I've been hanging on to and the effects of it on my life, and I offer some options about what you may be hanging on to and how it might be affecting your life.  If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the...

You can let disappointment and challenges be as easy as possible. Life is a balance of both positive and negative emotions, and surrendering to this reality can make difficult situations easier. Surrendering is not a one-time action, but rather a continuous process of releasing control to find peace and acceptance. Resources From Heather Ross Coaching GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worr...

Guest Colleen Kachmann and I discuss what it’s like to work with a coach and how she helps people with her recovery coaching. In this episode we discuss: Why telling people what actions to take doesn’t work long term. Her work with a recovery coach after she quit drinking. The difference between therapy and coaching and how they complement each other. The power of investing in yourself. Some misun...

Guest Kelly Hatcher and I discuss her experience being the mother of a child struggling with addiction.  In this episode we discuss: How Kelly reached a place of unconditional love for her son How she set some strong boundaries How she dealt with her son's homelessness & not knowing where he was Experiencing a child's addiction as a single parent If you want to get in touch with Kelly:...

Guest Lindy Romez and I talk about the benefits of a sound bath and how it can help you get into a deep meditative state. I also share how sound baths and energy work have helped me with my healing journey and how they can help you as well. It's a beautiful way to put your own oxygen mask on first.  www.lindyromez.com Sound Bath Meet-up: https://www.meetup.com/SOUND-BATH-LINDYROMEZ/ Download E...

Guests Dr. Carmen Jones Licensed Naturopathic Doctor and Kimberly Jarman M.Ed Life Coach of Thrive and Aligned Healing are my guests today. In this episode we discuss: What living in fight or flight does to our brain chemistry How gut health affects neurotransmitters and sobriety What happens to brain chemistry in the early stages of sobriety The physical effect that thoughts have on our health If...

When I was struggling the most with my daughter's addiction it was because I believed all the messaging that said if my daughter was mad at me I was probably doing the right thing.  Approaching my daughter's addiction with love was the only thing that felt right to me, but I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know that a shift in my belief about love would give more more power and...

A lot of parents I work with struggle to make decisions. Not deciding causes a lot of unnecessary stress, confusion, overwhelm, and anxiety. Making decisions creates relief and helps you take your power back from your child's addiction.  In this episode I discuss: · The benefits of deciding ahead of time instead of under pressure or during high emotions · How Deciding not to decide is a decisi...

We feel stuck because we believe “we can’t”.  We can’t fix what feels broken, we don’t know how, nothing will ever work, and no one else can help us either. It's such a helpless place to be and it's so easy to get there when you're dealing with a child's addiction.   In this episode I tell you: how negative emotions work and what they’re signaling to us Why understanding your emoti...

Most parents I work with want help changing how they react to their child's addiction. If you often feel like a bad parent because of how you react to your child's addiction, I have great news - you can change that. In this episode I tell you: Why you get frustrated and depressed. How you can resolve any emotion. How the reaction scale that I created works. The steps for the reaction scale...

Do you feel alone and isolated dealing with your child's addiction?  If you do, you will continue to feel that way until you connect with yourself and have your own back.  Once you do that, you will see that reflected back to you with a strong support team.  In this episode I talk about: How to create a connection with yourself so you're the foundation for your support team The difference...

How often do you wonder what your life would be like if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction? This seems like a harmless question to ask yourself, but it's keeps you stuck in pain if you don't have the right perspective behind it.  In this episode I walk you through three steps to create the life you think you’d have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction: Step 1 –...

When a relationship is challenging we tend to blame the difficulty on the other person.  One person can change a relationship dynamic. You can decide who you want to be in a relationship and let the other person be who they are. In this episode I give you specific steps to create relationships that serve you. Some of the concepts I talk about in this episode are: Addiction is a symptom of the prob...

Do you know it's time to let go but still try to hold on to controlling your addicted child? In this episode I share about how I've had to let go and put my own oxygen mask on first.  If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery For additional re...

Do you feel stuck or frustrated? That's because you don't know where you're going or how to get there. You know you don't like where you are, but you're stuck there until you figure out where you're going. Dreaming for yourself will give you a destination so you can plot your course. If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 mi...

What you will learn in this episode What buffering is all about and how it prevents us from fully experiencing life. The negative effects of artificial pleasure. How understanding buffering can help you understand addiction. If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me...

Processing negative feelings is as important as breathing.  A few minutes of allowing the pain and processing it can give you instant relief from it. When you don't process it you're just stuck with it.  In this episode I share: 1. How a few minutes of processing pain frees you from experiencing it all day 2. How judging your feelings makes them more painful 3. The importance of knowing th...

Today I’m sharing the tool with you that I use with all of my clients and in my daily life. It’s called the self coaching model. The model is how I figured out how to help myself when I couldn’t help my daughter. All the concepts I teach come from things I learned while doing models. In this episode you will learn: Why recognizing the difference between a thought and a circumstance is crucial to u...