Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I share with you a story from one of the students inside my Living Deliberately community. Tune in and see if you can find yourself in Cheryl's story. * Click here to learn about my course, Get unSTUCK, and get started right away! ** Click here to get my FREE CLASS on why having emotional reactions is not your fault! *** Click here to follow me o...

I received a question from one of my students who is enrolled in my course, Get unSTUCK . Belinda, from Australia, asked me how to handle rude people. In this week's podcast, I answer her question. I invite you to tune in and find yourself in Belinda's story! Click below to tune in now! *Want to enroll in my course, Get unSTUCK?   Click here to enroll right away! *Want to sign up for my FREE CLASS...

Have you ever been in a situation where you accidentally trigger someone else? Like maybe you interrupt them, finish their sentence, or perhaps simply respond to something they said, but they weren't interested in your response. If you've ever been in such a situation, you know how frustrating it can feel. And that's because you didn't have any intentions to trigger them. It just happened. But the...

It's very easy to look backward and get mad at yourself. For not being better. For not doing better. For not being perfect. And yet, unless you are learning something from those past experiences, beating yourself up about them doesn't help. In fact, it only keeps you stuck. That's why it's so essential that you know how to be kind to yourself. And hold yourself in self-compassion, no matter what h...

When you get triggered, it's normal to react automatically. Which may look like blaming, complaining, or losing control. That's not your fault - that's just your brain's way of protecting you. But... What if you could take RESPONSE-ABILITY instead? So rather than having a knee-jerk reaction, you respond deliberately? Tune in to this week's episode to hear how you can start taking more response-abi...

Have you ever said or done something that caused you to feel embarrassed? Do you ever get worried about what others think of you when you mess up in public? Do you ever feel self-conscious about the feeling that someone else is evaluating you? Feeling embarrassed can be uncomfortable, and yet there is something you can do about it, and you can certainly handle it Tune in to this week's "You Can Ha...

I have a story for you today. But guess what? I bet you have one for me, too. Do you know how I know? Because as humans, we walk around with stories. All of the time. Some of those stories benefit us. But, many of them do not. And when they don't, it's your responsibility to change the story (if you want to feel better at any given moment). Tune in to this week's podcast to learn why you may want...

When we get triggered, we react. But what is the true cause of that reaction? Is it the trigger or is it our thinking about the trigger that causes us to react? There's a difference between the two and knowing it is the difference between night and day. Tune in to learn more and see how learning the truth can impact your life in powerful ways. *Learn how to better handle the everyday emotional sit...

The natural way to go about solving the problem is to actually DO something about it. The problem is, that approach may help in the short term, but it may not get to the root of the problem, and hence, it may not ever solve the problem. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about the concept of "BEING" and how your ways of BEING can be a powerful force of change in your life! *Learn how to...

Do you ever have the urge to offer unsolicited advice? Do you ever have the urge to check your phone? Do you ever have the urge to finish off people's sentences? I'm sure you've experienced urges in your life - and I'm also confident you've experienced them when it comes to food and eating. I'm sure you've experienced this before - and definitely when it comes to food and eating.  Acting on urges...

For many people, when they feel stressed or anxious or overwhelmed, they turn to food to soothe themselves. Why do they do this, if they know at the end of the day, it's not good for them? The answer has to do with how we think. In this week's episode, I introduce you to the work of Nobel Prize winner, Dr. Daniel Kahneman and his theory on decision-making. Join me this week in learning more about...

Do you eat more when you feel stressed? Do you eat when you're not hungry or when you're full? Do you eat to calm or soothe yourself when you're feeling sad or disappointed or frustrated or anxious? Do you regularly eat until you feel stuffed? Do you feel powerless or out of control around food? If so, you may consider yourself an emotional eater. Tune in to this week's episode (the first of a 4-p...

When was the last thing you committed to something, but didn't follow through on? ALL judgments aside! This is not about being perfect, but rather it's about waking up to noticing the excuses you may be making in your life (whether you are aware of them or not) that are holding you back from being the person you truly want to be and living the life you truly want to live. In every moment you have...

Have you ever had the experience where you said something you wish you hadn't? Or you made a decision you later regretted? If so, you might be familiar with the feeling of shame. I can tell you from personal experience that shame is one of the worst things you can ever feel. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about how you can handle shame better in your life. *If you want to learn how t...

When you feel a strong emotion coming on - whether you're feeling anxious, sad, frustrated, or annoyed - it's quite easy to get sucked into holding on to that emotion. Or, as I call it - getting "stuck." But the truth is, with every stuck spot comes a choice. You can  get emotionally unstuck from the emotions that tend to hijack you, and NOW is the best time as any to do so. Tune in to this week's...

If you could challenge yourself to do one thing for 90 Days, what would it be? One of the members of my Living Deliberately Circle decided to commit to 90 days of exercising - 20 minutes a day. The journey that she traveled on during this time wasn't necessarily to reach a goal, but rather to strengthen the relationship she has with herself. Tune in to hear Paula's story! To learn more about my gr...

There is an emotional element to everything in life. And that includes eating. As humans, we have a tendency to want to avoid feeling uncomfortable emotions - and that resistance can lead to us numbing our emotions. Some people have a tendency to turn to alcohol or drugs or social media or Netflix to avoid feeling hard feelings. And others turn to food. And I'm one of those people. Emotional (or d...

"Transfer of learning" is a psychological concept that occurs when people apply information, strategies, and skills they have learned to a new situation or context. But what does transfer of learning have to do with your emotions? Check out this week's episode to learn more and to hear how you can start to apply this strategy in your life in order to create new habits and have more success with re...

If you want to create a change in your life, you need to learn how to live your life on purpose. If you want to create a new habit or reach a goal, you need to learn how to handle the small moments that comprise that experience. And this way of living is what I call, Living Deliberately . But before you get started, you first need to learn how to handle the everyday emotional situations of your li...

Bring to mind with whom you are close - whether that's a spouse, parent, sibling, neighbor, boss, client, or friend. How well do you think you know that person? You may tend to believe you know everything about that person. The problem is, when you live from a place of "all-knowing," you limit the possibilities for that other person. But, when you get CLEAR ahead of time, you stay open to what els...

What if a neighbor comes by your house each day and expects to sit and have coffee with you, but you're not interested? Or what if a family member calls you every day and expects to speak with you at times that aren't good for you? What do you do? The answer can be found in this week's podcast. And the practical part can be experienced in this month's online workshop, The 3-Step Approach to Creati...

When you go on vacation, do you ever think about how you can set yourself up for having the best vacation possible? In this week's episode, I share my thoughts on how to do just that. You may be surprised as to what I have to share! www.shiragura.com/freeclass https://www.instagram.com/you.can.handle.anything/

Would you say you are a person who: a) reacts automatically to things and makes quick decisions, or b) questions what you see and hear, and takes your mind to respond to things? When we live on autopilot and react quickly to things, it has the potential to get us stuck. But, when we learn to pause and question things (what others say, including what we say to ourselves), we can live more proactive...

Did you know that it's your expectations that get you stuck? If you didn't have expectations, you would never get stuck. Have you ever stopped to realize that? But the question is, is it possible to live your life without expecting things? Is that a realistic way to live? Tune in to this week's episode to hear more. Click here to take my FREE CLASS on Getting unSTUCK! www.shiragura.com/freeclass  

Whenever you get stuck on feeling frustrated, disappointed, angry or any other difficult emotion, it's likely because you don't accept the situation. You may not articulate it in that exact way, but it's likely that's what you're actually thinking. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how you get unSTUCK from accepting something you otherwise don't accept. And please share your comments with me...