Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

While some may perceive conflict as inherently negative, what if we challenge that notion? What if conflicts are actually a normal part of relationships, and the key lies in learning how to effectively resolve them? Join me as we explore three empowering ways to navigate conflicts, allowing you to approach them with clarity and confidence, and turning them into opportunities for growth and connect...

Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by the emotions of others? Here's a gentle reminder: You are not accountable for the emotions of others. Period. Far too often, we shoulder the burden of others' hurt, sadness, and anger, believing it is our responsibility to fix everything and ensure everyone's happiness. However, it is vital to acknowledge that each person is responsible for their own emo...

Have you ever felt hurt by someone's words or actions? In this week's podcast episode, I share stories from three of my students who faced similar situations of feeling hurt by different people or experiences in their lives. Discover a simple strategy to get unstuck, overcome hurt, and regain control of your emotional well-being with just two simple words. Listen now! Click here to save your spot...

If you often find it challenging to manage your emotional reactions when triggered by others, I have an incredible opportunity that you don't want to miss. Join me LIVE for a transformative 2-hour workshop called UNSTUCK LIVE . During this interactive workshop, I will teach you, step-by-step, how to PRACTICALLY go from feeling emotionally "stuck" to becoming emotionally "unstuck" in any situation,...

In challenging moments, our emotional reactions can often catch us off guard. We find ourselves triggered and, before we know it, caught up in an over-exaggerated response that we later regret. But what if there was a way to break free from this cycle of emotional reactivity? In this week's episode of the " You Can Handle Anything , podcast, I highlight the essential first step of getting emotiona...

Do you find yourself reacting negatively when someone pushes your buttons or upsets you? If so, you're not alone. It's easy to get emotionally triggered and become stuck in your emotions. In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we explore what it means to be emotionally stuck and how it can affect your life. Whether you're attached to a particular emotion, can't let go of being r...

When it comes to success, how do you define it? Is it something you feel you've achieved in your life? Or do you feel like you're always striving for it, but it's just out of reach? In this episode, I'll share my own approach to success, which may surprise you. We won't be talking about the usual measures of success, like wealth, status, or popularity on social media. Instead, I'll introduce you t...

In this week's episode of " You Can Handle Anything ," I chat with Sharon, a caregiver for her mother with Alzheimer's. Sharon shares her experiences of feeling overwhelmed and struggling to manage her emotions, which sometimes spill into her interactions with others. She learned practical strategies to save the moments and not let sadness turn into anger or negativity. Join us as we discuss how t...

Do you ever feel guilty? I'm sure you have. Guilt is one of the most common emotions human beings feel. There are LOTS of reasons why we may feel guilty at any given time. One reason you may feel guilt is when someone lays their "emotional baggage" on you and makes you feel at fault, even when you're not to blame. Tune into this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to learn about a very import...

"Have you ever had an experience where someone says to you, " I'm not judging you, but.. ." And despite their cautionary words, you feel TOTALLY judged. And because you feel judged, you feel hurt, you get defensive, and you react with quick comebacks you later regret? What if the next time someone says to you, "I'm not judging you, but..." - you have a different response? Do you think that's possi...

Have you ever waited for a "thank you" that never came? Maybe you went out of your way for someone or maybe you gave a gift to someone, but the words "thank you" never left their lips. Not being appreciated can be hurtful because you know YOU would never do such a thing to THEM! When the "thank you" doesn't come, you may try to drag the "thank you" out of them or complain to them or try to teach t...

Do you ever find yourself involved in one activity when you know you should be involved in another... but you can't seem to just get away from it? Like when... You finish off a box of cookies when you know you should be cleaning up the kitchen You stay late at work even when you know you should be spending more time with your family You scroll on social media even when you know you should be going...

If you want to... Improve a relationship Stop emotionally reacting when you get triggered Stop procrastinating Stop "eating" your emotions Live a happier, healthier life... You likely need to change some of your habits. But you also may need to change some of your patterns. Or you may need to change BOTH. What's the difference between a habit and a pattern?  And how are each of them impacting you?...

Have you ever found yourself getting into petty arguments that turn into huge fights… And you wish you could just stop the bickering and move on? If so, I want to invite you to join me inside: MY 3-DAY FREE CHALLENGE: GET YOUR RELATIONSHIPS BACK ON TRACK! Discover 3 Powerful Steps to Break the Cycle of Arguing and Reconnect After a Fight If you ever find yourself… Fighting over trivial matters tha...

Do you ever pity yourself? In other words, do you ever portray yourself as a victim (whether of circumstances or of other people's behavior) in order to gain sympathy from others? I think we all have a tendency to play the victim more than we'd like to admit. And yet, playing the victim doesn't empower us. In fact, when we play the victim, we give our power away. Tune in to this week's episode to...

Surprises can be great. But they can also feel awful. Especially when you are surprised by something you didn't expect to happen. Your default reaction to something negative you didn't expect to happen is often automatic rejection. Your automatic mind goes to a place of not being able to accept reality as it's presented to you at that moment. And yet, resisting reality is what gets you stuck. Tune...

Have you ever had the experience where... Someone says something to you that on the surface doesn't seem like a big deal, but you take it to heart, or when... Someone tries to get clarity from you, but you take it personally, or when... Someone is being judgmental and you start to second guess yourself? All of these situations have the potential to create a feeling of inadequacy in you. The words...

Are you the kind of person who tends to overly apologize? Over-apologizing is when you say "sorry" when you don't need to. This could be when you didn't do anything wrong, but you take responsibility for it anyway. Like when... The waiter brings you the wrong order and you apologize for the mistake. Or you apologize for bothering the clerk at the store, even though it's their job to assist you. Or...

When you get emotionally triggered, a story automatically forms in your mind. And when that happens, you feel absolutely right about your story and your reaction to it feels totally justified. The problem is, you don't always know the full story. And there always is more to the story than what you believe. Tune in to this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to learn more about...

Do you ever experience feeling nervous? Like when... You have to have an uncomfortable conversation with a friend, You need to write a difficult email to a co-worker, You want to share your thoughts, but you get nervous about what people may think of you. Getting stuck on nervousness can completely sabotage that moment. And the more moments that get sabotaged in your life, the more your quality of...

Join me in celebrating my 300th episode, hear more about my experiences leading the "Move Past Grudges" Challenge for almost 2,000 women around the world, and learn more about my program, Living Deliberately . * Click here to sign up for my FREE CLASS on your emotional reactions and why they are not your fault! ** Click here to follow me on INSTAGRAM !

Have you ever been in a social situation where : Someone tells a joke and you didn't get it There's a conversation going on, but you're not being included Someone is talking about a subject you know little to nothing about And you feel incredibly awkward in that moment and you don't know what to do about it?  Tune in to this week's podcast to hear what you can do the next time this happens to you....

We walk around with stories all the time. Stories about other people and stories about ourselves. There are two problems with this: Most of the time, we're not even aware that we're walking around with stories, and Many of our stories don't serve us well, and yet we continue to grasp onto them anyway. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about what stories you may be telling yourself and h...

Think back to the last time someone said something hurtful to you. Can you recall how that felt? Do you remember holding onto negative feelings about that person? Well, if you did, I want to reassure you... that is normal. It's natural to want to be liked and it hurts to be treated coldly. And yet, if you're feeling stuck on hurt, chances are your emotions are lingering. And that's likely because...

Have you ever found yourself saying: "I CAN'T STOP!" And by that I mean: You can't stop yourself from saying something You can't stop yourself from reacting when you get triggered You can't stop yourself from giving advice (even when it wasn't requested) Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to learn how you actually CAN take a stop, even if you think you can't. * Click here to...