Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

In this unexpected episode, I share a powerful and heartfelt message from a student whose life has been deeply impacted by The unSTUCK Method®. What began as a simple note about "anchors" becomes a moving reflection on how the work has helped her build a meaningful and compassionate relationship with herself. The student describes feeling more grounded, more confident, and noticing positive change...

In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about choosing not to attend a friend's mourning period during a time of war—and the intense guilt that followed. I walk you through the inner conflict between wanting to be a supportive friend and honoring my own fear and safety. Using The unSTUCK Method®, I process my thoughts, challenge the stories my mind created, and shift toward self-compassio...

In this episode, I share a powerful reflection from a live coaching session inside my program, Living Deliberately , during a time of real-life uncertainty and challenge. We explore the idea that feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or "off track" isn't a setback—it's part of being human. You'll learn why you're not meant to feel good all the time, and how creating stories around your emotions is what...

In this short episode, I share about a "mistake" I made and what I did to move forward. To learn more: www.shiragura.com

This week, I noticed a common theme across all my programs: students committing to change, then falling off track and spiraling into shame, guilt, and regret. When you snap at someone, break a commitment, or act against your values, it feels black and white – like you've failed and there's no hope. But here's what most people miss: falling off your path isn't an obstacle, it's an opportunity. In t...

Have you ever needed to make a decision, but your mind simply won't let you? You go back and forth, that little voice keeps saying "wait, what if..." and you end up paralyzed, not making any decision at all. In this episode, I share a real conversation with one of my students who was struggling with her retirement decision - but this isn't really about retirement. It's about understanding why your...

Not every challenge we face involves other people pushing our buttons.  Sometimes things just fall apart - like when technical issues derailed my 3-day challenge that over 1,000 people signed up for. In this episode, I share how I used The unSTUCK Method multiple times to move through frustration and disappointment, and how it helped me respond with calm, clarity, and creative solutions instead of...

Ever watched someone else mess up and felt the urge to jump in and fix it - even though it had nothing to do with you? In this episode, I share a real story about my husband being late and disappointing our son, and how I almost made their conflict MY problem. You'll hear exactly how I used the unSTUCK Method in real-time to stay out of the Reactivity Loop and respond in a way I was proud of - wit...

In this episode, I share a recent failure I experienced - one that left me feeling embarrassed, guilty, and stuck in a cycle of shame. I talk about what happened when I published my book "A Consideration a Day," realized it wasn't what I wanted it to be, and then caught myself avoiding this very podcast for weeks because I didn't want to admit my mistake. But here's what changed everything: I walk...

Have you ever been in a situation where things went wrong because someone else was irresponsible? How did you handle that? Tune into this week's episode of the You Can Handle Anything podcast, where I share a story of how I used The unSTUCK Method to handle such a situation—transforming frustration over a scheduling error into a moment of grace and self-control. To learn more, visit: www.shiragura...

In this episode, I share a real-life story about how a small disagreement with my husband over moving the car turned into a surprisingly emotional moment. What could have easily led to resentment or conflict became an opportunity to pause, reflect, and get unSTUCK using the method I teach. You'll hear how a simple voice message shifted the dynamic and created space for understanding, connection, a...

While I'm on vacation visiting my family, I will be taking a deliberate pause from the podcast. I look forward to returning in September.

This week's episode is about one of my students who was traveling to a retreat I was leading when her train hit someone and all service stopped, leaving her stranded hours away while everyone else was gathering for dinner. Instead of panicking or falling apart, she used the tools we practice to stay calm and handle each unexpected challenge with grace. Listen to her incredible story of transformat...

I'm about to lead a 3-day challenge called "React Less, Feel Better" - and yesterday I completely lost it with my kid over a car incident. Talk about ironic timing! I was shocked by my own reaction, but here's what I learned about why we react differently to new situations versus familiar triggers. And here's why your "failures" are actually learning opportunities. Click here to join the Challenge...

Ever had someone give you a horrified look that made you instantly feel like a terrible person? That happened to me recently. Listen to how I caught myself mid-spiral and got myself "unstuck" from that situation so that I could feel better and move on. And how you can do the same. Learn more: www.shiragura.com

Have you ever had the experience where someone points out something you are doing wrong? What's your first instinct? Get defensive? Get mad? Shut down? What if you could handle criticism with total grace instead? Listen to how my student Sara turned a potentially awkward moment into pure growth. www.shiragura.com

In this episode, I share a real-life story from just last night that perfectly demonstrates The unSTUCK Method in action. When my husband and daughter got into an unnecessary argument right in front of me, I had a choice: jump in and "fix" it like I used to (which always led to bigger fights), or use what I teach. I'll walk you through exactly how I noticed my own stuck emotions, paused instead of...

This week, I'm sharing a personal story—and two from my students—about breaking the pattern of emotional eating, one moment at a time. Inside my You Can Handle Anything program, we've been exploring how emotional habits form and how even small shifts can create powerful change. You'll hear how awareness in the moment opens the door to choice, and how using The unSTUCK Method can help you interrupt...

In this light and relatable episode, I share a real-life story about a board game night gone sideways—and how one small comment could have easily spiraled into conflict. Instead, I used The unSTUCK Method to pause, shift perspective, and remind myself what really matters. It's a simple story with a powerful message: not everything needs to turn into drama. Sometimes, peace comes from choosing not...

In this special return episode, I share why I took a 3-month pause from the podcast—after nearly 8 years of showing up weekly—and what that deliberate break revealed. We explore the power of stopping as the first essential step toward real change, and why most of us skip it without realizing. I open up about how this pause helped me gain clarity, make meaningful updates to my work, and align more...

I've been "stuck" wondering what to do to celebrate the 400th episode of this podcast. I'm glad I got unstuck. Enjoy.

In this week's episode, hear an inspiring story from one of my students about the power of pausing—and how it can create real change. Plus, I have an exciting update! I'll be taking a short break from the podcast for a few weeks, but something special is coming your way. Make sure you're on my newsletter so you don't miss the invite! www.shiragura.com

Ever notice how you react differently to the same behavior depending on who's doing it? Through a simple morning wake-up call, I discovered why I was ready to blame my husband for something my kid did—and what that reveals about our triggers. Learn how to pause before reacting and transform your response patterns, especially with those closest to you. A powerful episode about self-awareness, relat...

In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful story from a student who lost a significant amount of money in a scam. The guilt consumed her, but during a live coaching session, something shifted. Through The unSTUCK Method® and the power of pausing, she found self-forgiveness and a sense of peace. Tune in to hear her inspiring journey—and how you, too, can release guilt and move forward. www.shiragura.c...

This month on the You Can Handle Anything podcast, we're diving into the emotion of guilt—where it shows up, how it impacts us, and how to get unstuck from it. In this week's episode, I share two personal stories where guilt showed up in different ways: one self-imposed and the other triggered by someone else's comment. You'll hear how I used The unS.T.U.C.K. Method® to shift my perspective and mo...