Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

Have you ever reacted in the heat of the moment, only to be left with a mix of resentment and guilt afterward, unsure of how to move forward? In this week's episode, hear how my student, Lena, faced a similar situation and found a way to turn it around. Her story is a powerful reminder that change is possible, even in those tough emotional moments. Tune in for inspiration and practical insights! w...

This week's episode kicks off 2025 with a timely discussion about letting go of guilt. After taking a short break from the podcast in December, I share my personal experience with guilt and reflect on how it can weigh us down when we let it linger. Guilt isn't about what happened but what we think about what happened, and shifting our perspective can help us release it. Tune in to explore how to a...

How comfortable are you with silence in your conversations? In this episode, discover two fascinating stories about the power of silence—one from a mother navigating phone conversations with her adult daughter, and another from a professional handling a challenging work conversation. Learn why silence often makes us uncomfortable and how learning to sit with it can transform your life and relation...

Have you ever avoided an event because you knew THAT person would be there—someone you had a falling out with, someone who rejected you? In this episode, hear how one of my newest students faced her fears of attending an event where she might encounter someone who had completely cut her off. Discover what happened when she chose to go anyway, armed with new tools and perspectives, and learn the su...

Have you ever worried about what others might think of you? Whether it's showing up underdressed to an event, making an unconventional choice, or standing out in a crowd—these moments can feel incredibly uncomfortable. In this week's episode, tune in to hear how one of my students navigated an awkward moment like that and discover what's possible when you choose growth over comfort. Plus, I'm shar...

Are you feeling anxious about tomorrow's election and how it might impact your relationships with family and friends who view things differently? In this timely episode, I share insights on preparing yourself emotionally for the election results—whatever they may be. Learn how to stay true to yourself while maintaining important relationships, and discover the powerful question most people forget...

Ever catch yourself overthinking what others might think of your choices? In this episode, I open up about my own struggles with external validation, from skipping my first podcast episode in 5 years to making authentic decisions while writing my book "Getting unSTUCK." I'll explore why we often give too much weight to others' opinions and how it can hold us back from living our most authentic liv...

Do you ever get frustrated when things don't go as planned, especially when you're hoping for something simple, like having a meal together with your family? I recently had one of those moments. After fasting for Yom Kippur, I had this picture-perfect idea of breaking the fast with my family around the dinner table. But as I walked home from prayer services, I started to fume, convinced that they'...

Do you ever get annoyed by those little things people do that just grate on your nerves? 🙃 Maybe it's someone chewing loudly, leaving dirty dishes in the sink, or texting during a conversation. Those are called pet peeves, and we all have them. I've been thinking about mine lately—especially when it comes to my husband. One of my big ones? When he answers for other people like he knows what they'...

I wanted to share something unexpected that happened just a few hours ago while recording this week's episode of the " You Can Handle Anything " podcast. The theme of today's episode was drama, and life certainly delivered. As I was recording, Iran began launching ballistic missiles at Israel, triggering sirens that sent us rushing to our safe rooms. In the rush, I dropped the mic but forgot to pa...

Ever wished you could hit a "reset" button on a conversation gone wrong? 🔄 I sure have! This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I'm diving into the concept of a "do over" and sharing a personal story that might just change the way you approach misunderstandings. A couple of weeks ago, a simple misunderstanding about a dentist appointment spiraled into unnecessary frustration between m...

This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we're exploring the transformative power of self-reflection. I've been emphasizing how taking a moment to pause and consider our actions and thoughts can significantly impact our personal growth and awareness. 🤔 In line with this theme, I'm excited to share a special episode featuring Jamie, a valued member of one of my communities. Jamie has gr...

Ever find yourself on the brink of a kitchen squabble over something as simple as boiling eggs? That happened to me recently, and it turned into an unexpected lesson in managing frustrations and choosing my battles. In the midst of me boiling some eggs, my husband came in out of nowhere and decided to switch pots to save energy—a small action that unexpectedly sparked a big internal reaction from...

This week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast will be different. After the heart-wrenching news of the execution of six hostages in Israel, including Hersh Goldberg-Polin, a friend of friends, I found myself deeply affected. In light of this, I invite you to join me in taking a moment to pause—a stop that feels necessary right now, not just for me but perhaps for many of us. 🌍 In t...

In this episode, I talk about living from possibility. Living from possibility means envisioning a better reality and actively shaping interactions to be more positive. It's about seeing past the cycle of negative experiences and using proactive communication to transform relationships. Embracing this approach can lead to more fulfilling connections, helping you move from conflict to harmony with...

In this podcast episode, I explore the common yet often unspoken issue of shame that many people feel when confronting negative emotions, getting emotionally stuck, or facing relationship problems. It's incredibly normal to feel embarrassed about needing tools to manage one's emotional health, but this shame is truly unnecessary. Once individuals join a supportive community, they quickly realize t...

Have you ever signed up for a gym membership full of enthusiasm, only to see it go unused? That's exactly what sometimes happens when it comes to using The unSTUCK Method. We know it's there, we know it can help us, we know it's within our reach and yet, we sometimes forget to use it. In this week's "You Can Handle Anything!" podcast, I explain why embracing The unSTUCK Method in your daily life i...

In this podcast episode, I discuss the significant role of language in managing emotions and enhancing well-being. The term "stuck" is pivotal in my approach; recognizing when you're "stuck" on an emotion is crucial because it signals that there's a method to help you move forward. I encourage rephrasing emotional states, such as changing "I'm angry" to "I'm stuck on anger," to remind ourselves th...

This podcast focuses on the importance of taking personal responsibility, especially when feeling emotionally stuck. Often, the instinct is to blame others for our feelings, but this approach means we're not fully owning our part. Taking personal responsibility involves acknowledging, owning, and processing our own thoughts and emotions. By doing so, we reduce blame and better understand the true...

This week's "You Can Handle Anything" is going to be slightly different than usual. Instead of sharing one of my stories, I'm going to share with you someone else's. And that "someone else" is the actor, Andrew McCarthy. I'm going to dive into the intriguing story of Andrew McCarthy and the infamous "Brat Pack" label that shaped his career. The film captures his journey as he revisits old friends...

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I explore the heavy and often sneaky nature of guilt, sharing a personal story from a recent family dinner. After deciding not to partake in desserts my mom made, I was unexpectedly overwhelmed by guilt, despite making a simple, healthy choice for myself. Guilt is a complex emotion that can quickly transform into self-resentment, reminding us that we'r...

Have you ever felt incredibly strongly about something, only to find yourself talking to someone who sees things the exact opposite way? Or maybe they just can't see your side at all? It's beyond frustrating. You might argue back and forth, but no matter what you say, they don't budge. It feels like you're the only one suffering, but it's likely tough for them, too. This is what unfolded for me la...

Ever felt stuck on how to respond when someone close does something you disagree with? Reacting impulsively can damage relationships and make you regret your actions, while staying silent might leave you feeling like a doormat. Here's a tip: try asking for permission to share your feelings. It's a respectful way to communicate without overstepping, and if they're not open to it, you need to respec...

Ever wake up feeling weighed down by regret over something you did yesterday? 😞 It's a heavy feeling, and it can linger all day—or even longer. This hit me hard after a recent Father's Day celebration. We planned to spend the day with extended family, about 3 hours from my parents' house. I decided to go, even though it meant rescheduling a regular Zoom coaching call. All was well until things ra...

In this episode, I discuss the importance of morning routines and how they transform my day. I share how my morning starts with peace and quiet, using practices like breathwork, yoga, and my essential "Getting Unstuck" worksheet. This routine isn't just about starting the day; it's about clearing out leftover emotions and setting a positive tone. Listen to learn how these practices can help manage...