Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

Big news—I'm about to hop on a jet plane and head to the United States for the summer! ✈️ Every year, I cherish this chance to reconnect with family and friends, but this summer, I'm hoping to do something special: an "Unstuck Summer." From my base in New Jersey to as far as California (or even Canada!), I'm looking to bring the power of The unSTUCK Method to religious institutions, workplaces, an...

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into one of the most common but overlooked issues in relationships: the "rulebooks" we create for others. These are the expectations we set about how people should act, speak, and behave—like putting away shoes or doing dishes. Often, the other person is unaware of these rules, leading to frustration and resentment when they don't comply. Disco...

Ever catch yourself thinking, "I wish I could..." or "I wish I had..."? 🤔 Those aren't just daydreams; they're powerful desires pointing you toward your destiny. Most of us try to chase these dreams by setting goals. But here's the tough truth: most people don't achieve them. Why? Well, I want to share two big reasons: They get hyper-focused on the end result, instead of falling in love with the...

Ever felt totally swamped by all the work on your plate, whether it's a project, daily chores, or even just tidying up the house? 🤯 It's tempting to blame the chaos around you for that sense of overwhelm, but what if the real cause is something else entirely? Tune in to discover the root of your overwhelm and learn practical tips to conquer it for good. Let's reclaim your calm and cut the clutter...

Ever been called a  terrible parent by your own child? Yup, that's exactly what happened to me recently. 😢 And trust me, it wasn't fun. But here's the good news: Instead of getting defensive, the new Shira handled it differently.  🌟 I stayed calm, kept control, and responded in a way that made me proud. It's not that I'm special. I just had The unSTUCK Method to lean on, which saved the day. No...

In this week's episode, I share with you a new project I'm working on, as I drop a  fresh "Consideration" daily inside The Unstuck Revolution, inspiring members to rethink their responses and simplify their lives. Tune in to hear my plan to craft 365 Considerations, one per day, eventually bundling them into my next book.  Jo in The Unstuck Revolution now as a founding member for just $7/month. Cl...

In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I discuss a personal dilemma between two appealing options and how I used The unSTUCK Method to find clarity. Faced with a decision that stirred mixed emotions at home, I turned to this structured process to guide my choice, ensuring it aligned with my values. This brief 10-minute episode explores the power of The unSTUCK Method in resolvin...

In this exciting episode, I'm thrilled to launch The Unstuck Revolution, a comprehensive platform designed to help you handle life's emotional challenges with more ease. Developed from The unSTUCK Method I created a decade ago, this platform offers training, community support, daily teachings, and ongoing Challenges to empower you to manage your reactions and enhance your relationships for just $7...

Have you ever had a day where your simple plans just don't pan out? Not the life-changing ones, but the daily stuff: a walk, cooking a specific meal, finishing a task. Out of the blue, things happen, and what you wanted to do just can't be done. When that happens, you face a choice: stick with the frustration or move past it. Every moment gives you the power to either react on autopilot or respond...

In this episode, I share a personal challenge from my son's Bar Mitzvah day when everything was set up wrong. Faced with frustration and the dilemma of speaking up without causing conflict, I turned to The unSTUCK Method. Discover how I navigated this tricky situation, ensuring a joyful day. This 14-minute story could change how you handle your next difficult conversation. Remember, you can handle...

Have you ever caught yourself worrying too much about what other people think? This happened to me last week while I was getting ready for my youngest son's Bar Mitzvah. I was busy making plans and found myself stuck on worrying about what my friends would think of my decisions. This worry made me super anxious and I just couldn't shake it off. It's something we all go through, but it's definitely...

Ever been called out and it hurts? It feels mean and makes you want to fight back. Everything goes so quick, and you feel like all you can do is get mad. But there's a way to deal with it. If you notice you're getting upset, you can work through those feelings. This is what learning to "get unstuck" with The unSTUCK Method is all about. Doing this, you can calm down in no time, stay in charge, and...

In this episode, I explore the pitfalls of disappointment and unsolicited advice. Discover why managing others often leads to neglecting our own needs and how The unSTUCK Method can help. Join me for a personal story about trying to "teach" my husband a lesson, and learn why letting go is key. It's an 8-minute listen with insights that could transform your day. Tune in now for strategies to improv...

Have you ever had the experience where someone asks you to do a favor for them - and you gladly help out - only to realize you didn't succeed exactly the way the request was intended? I just hate it when that happens. It's like no good deed ever goes unpunished, right? When that happens, it's so easy to get stuck on self-judgment, self-criticism, and guilt . But the truth of the matter is, you can...

Have you ever wanted to jump in and help when you see something happening to someone else? It's totally normal! But sometimes, it's not our place to fix everything. I recently saw something happening between my husband and my son the other night at dinner. At first, I wanted to step in, but I caught myself. Instead took myself through The unSTUCK Method. It helped me realize that it wasn't my prob...

Over a decade ago, I created  The unSTUCK Method to help me manage my emotions in real time. This tool has transformed my life. Now, I coach others using this method to break free from the emotional triggers they face. Supporting someone this way can profoundly impact their life. This week's " You Can Handle Anything " podcast features an excerpt of "unstuck coaching." Yet, the coach isn't me—it's...

Have you ever found yourself caught between the excitement of working toward a goal or a new project and the anxiety of awaiting results? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, patience often feels like a forgotten virtue. But what if I told you that embracing patience could be the secret ingredient to not only achieving your goals but also enjoying the journey along the way? Reflecting on my...

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into a less talked-about phenomenon: getting stuck on positive emotions like excitement. It's common to find ourselves overwhelmed by excitement, impacting our daily routines and priorities. I share my personal experience of navigating this excitement trap, and how I used The unSTUCK Method and The CLEAR Way to ground myself and prevent emotion...

When someone triggers you with rude or insensitive words or actions, it's natural to wish it hadn't occurred. The challenge lies in acknowledging that it DID happen. Refusing to accept reality leads to unnecessary suffering. While you may dislike the event or find it perplexing, embracing trust in the present reality facilitates a smoother journey. Practicing being trusting is something the member...

Ever wondered why managing emotions "in the moment" in tough situations is crucial?  When you don't, you can get hijacked by them, leading to behavior you later regret. And that can lead you to get trapped in a stuck cycle, holding onto negative emotions and feeling like you just can't let go. And, of course, over time that doesn't only impact how you feel about yourself, it impacts your relations...

Have you ever gotten upset and acted in a way you later regretted? It happens to all of us. Even in those quick and tough moments, remember: you can choose how you react. I recently asked my husband, for the fifth time, to put something away. His reaction seemed too much, triggering me to react like I used to. But this time, I decided to be my best self. Hear more about this story and how to show...

Life is full of triggers that can make us feel stuck in a whirlwind of emotions.  But guess what? "You can handle anything." But what does that actually mean? It means so much more than just "dealing" with things. And when you truly comprehend what this is all about, you learn how to be less reactive and in more control. Discover the real deal behind " you can handle anything " in this week's " Yo...

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wronged someone, and they chose to forgive you? It's an indescribable and uplifting sensation, isn't it? Recently, I had the privilege of experiencing this profound power of forgiveness firsthand. Just a couple of weeks ago, I unintentionally offered unsolicited parenting advice to a friend during a challenging time with his son. Recognizing my...

Ever find yourself pondering, "Why do certain people always seem to trigger me?" Ever feel like mastering self-control should be second nature by now? Ever entertain the thought that you might be the sole person repeatedly grappling with triggers? Embark on a transformative journey with this week's episode of the " You Can Handle Anything " podcast. Gain insights into why questioning the nature of...

Have you ever considered the impact of each moment in our lives? It's a chance to make some profound choices – like deciding what to think, how to feel, or who we aspire to be. The thing is, these crucial moments often slip by without us truly seizing them. Ever catch yourself thinking things like, "This moment doesn't matter anyway"? Those thoughts can lead to making excuses and giving up on both...