Living Deliberately with Shira Gura

When someone else is upset or disappointed in you, it is very easy to take things personally. It actually seems natural to take things personally, specifically when you are somehow involved in the conversation or interaction with that other person. And yet, taking things personally is actually a choice. The truth of the matter is, how someone else is reacting, what they are saying, and who they ar...

I have a question for you. Where do you think you spend most of your time? In the past? In the present? Or in the future? Tune in to this week's episode where I share my thoughts about how staying stuck in the past and in the future is not a very effective way of living, nor do you need to live that way. To learn more about gettting unSTUCK in the moment so that you can LIVE in the moment and be a...

I recently participated in a 3-day silent meditation retreat. I returned home feeling calm, rejuvenated, grateful, joyful, and perhaps most importantly, more self-aware than when I went into it. The power of self-awareness is essential for your self-growth and development, and attending a silent retreat is one of the best ways you can access that awareness. Tune in to hear some of my personal expe...

Human beings are much more similar to one another than they are different. And yet we walk around as if our life experiences are totally unique to us, even though, the likelihood is, that most of the people around you are either experiencing similar (or the exact) things as you or b) they are afraid to be vulnerable and let you know.   In this week's podcast, I explore the concept of shame and wal...

The unSTUCK Method is a powerful emotional well-being tool that empowers you to go from "stuck" to "unstuck." The tool is effective, efficient, and reliable. It is simple to use. And it's easy to remember. And you can use it at any moment. Everything is going for this tool. And yet... even if someone learns the tool, they can still get stuck. How? Because they can forget to use it. Tune in to hear...

Do you know that only about 8% of people actually achieve their goals? That's quite a small number! Do you know why that number is so small? If you're looking to create a change in your life (like improving a relationship, your physical health, or your time management), you don't want to miss this episode! Tune in and share your thoughts with me!

When someone hurts you, do you think you have a choice as to how you feel? When someone pushes your buttons, do you think you have a choice as to how you react? When you get mad at yourself for not being perfect, do you think you have a choice as to how you think about yourself? Tune in to this week's podcast episode to learn about the important differences between a reflex, a reaction, and a resp...

When you set out to create a change in your life, whether that's improving a relationship, getting healthier, or improving your self-confidence, there's a certain excitement that comes along with that dream. And while that excitement is exhilarating, it doesn't last. And that's where most people get stuck and end up quitting. But it doesn't need to be that way. Do you want to know one of the best-...

Where do you experience fear in your life? Do you have a fear of... Being judged by other people? Not being able to handle your triggers and losing control? Messing up your children's lives and never being able to repair them? Fear is the most pervasive emotion we feel as human beings. And yet, most of the fears we face are not real life and death situations. Rather, they are fears we create in ou...

Have you ever had to have an uncomfortable conversation with someone but you avoided it because you were nervous you wouldn't be able to handle it? Or you were afraid of what their reaction may be or that you may hurt them unintentionally? Avoiding difficult conversations is something a lot of people do. But the truth is, if you know HOW to handle an uncomfortable emotion, it's actually not as dif...

When you are headed into a future moment that you are anticipating or feeling nervous or worried about, what do you do? I'm talking about anything from having an uncomfortable conversation with someone to heading into an important meeting to needing to speak in front of a crowd - and even to going into a stressful work week. How do you mentally prepare yourself for those challenging situations? Me...

Feeling stressed is something we're all too familiar with. And when we feel stressed, we don't have any qualms about expressing that to ourselves and to the people around us. "I'M SO STRESSED!" But, what's interesting is, when you stop to really notice what you're actually feeling in that moment, there may be a feeling that is even more accurate than feeling "stressed." We tend to clump our emotio...

It only takes one person to change a relationship. That being said, when two people in a relationship are both working on themselves individually and they share a common framework and language to communicate with each another, well, the sky's the limit for what's possible in that kind of relationship. Tune in to hear some powerful words from Collen and Alan Jones, a married couple who recently wen...

Have you ever been in a situation where someone snaps at you? What do you do in those situations?  It's so easy to get stuck on frustration or disappointment. That's what happened to me last week when my husband told me I made a mistake about something. That is, I almost got stuck, but I caught myself. Instead of getting upset with him, I got unstuck and considered giving him the benefit of the do...

If you want to get unSTUCK, you've got to learn how to pause. The pause is the foundation for your emotional health and well-being. Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" episode to hear how the pause helped me get unSTUCK in actually creating this episode, and how it can help you get unSTUCK in your life, too. And be sure to get on the waitlist for my course. The doors to the next cours...

Human beings live in stories. That's what it means to be human. You may not realize you live in stories, but you do. In fact, you live much more in "storyland," than you do in "factland." And while sometimes those stories can serve us, often they don't. And that's when we get stuck. Tune in to this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything," podcast to hear how I got myself unstuck from the s...

What is your biggest fear? What is something that you avoid because you're afraid you can't handle it? Maybe it's having a difficult conversation with someone or making new friends or leaving a job, or even a relationship. How is avoiding serving you in your life? Can you see how avoiding may actually be keeping you back? Where can you imagine getting unSTUCK and getting CLEAR so that you can face...

Anytime you go into a future moment (no matter what that future moment is), it's an opportunity to get CLEAR. The mistake is that most people think it ends there.  But, it doesn't! If you want to live an awakened life, it's important to keep getting CLEAR, moment by moment, so that you are mentally prepared for anything! Tune in to hear how I got CLEAR twice in a row before heading into a dance pa...

Do you ever get mad at yourself? *For making bad decisions? *For reacting automatically? *For not showing up as you said you would? This happens to all of us.  But if we don't practice some self-compassion, we'll just continue staying stuck on being mad at ourselves - and that certainly won't get us very far. Tune in to hear more about how you can start to cultivate self-compassion in your life. L...

When you feel stuck, pausing feels like the last thing you want to do. Instead, your mind (in its way of innocently wanting to protect you) will prefer to stay stuck. Your mind will prefer to stay right, to have the last word, or to stay in the status quo, rather than make the effort to get unstuck. And yet, doing any of those above things won't get you any closer to getting unstuck . Do you know...

How good are you with gift-giving? I don't know about you, but I sometimes get stuck on buying gifts. And while you can turn to Amazon (or other online stores) to make the gift-giving process quick and easy, I invite you to consider outside the "Amazon box" the next time you need to give a gift. Tune in to this week's episode to see how I considered thinking outside the "Amazon box" when it came t...

Human beings are complicated, and living a human life is hard. We are built on many levels: the physical, mental, spiritual, and of course, the emotional. And as human beings, we are meant to feel the full spectrum of emotions . And there is no one person who has more legitimacy over their emotions than another. When you believe you don't have the legitimacy to feel something, that's the moment yo...

Do you know what you can expect from anything you do in life? You can expect to fall off track. Falling off track is simply part of the process. There is no one (and I mean no one ) who achieves success without falling off track. The problem, most people consider falling off track a "failure" when in truth, it is not. And because they see it as a "failure," they quit while they're ahead, rather th...

Can I tell you a little secret? You can handle anything ! Now, what that means (and what it doesn't) you'll hear on today's episode. Be sure to grab a seat on the free masterclass I'm offering this week on this very topic! Click here to register. (Space is limited.) I hope to see you there!

I screwed up. I mean, I really screwed up. It wasn't like an "end of the world" screw-up. But, it was a screw-up, indeed. And boy did I feel dumb. And embarrassed. And mad at myself. But I got unstuck by forgiving myself (because I didn't think the other option was any better). Tune in to hear the story and how you can be inspired with getting unstuck in your life. You can join me in the daily gam...