Lit AF Relationships

Are you bad at conflict? Does conflict feel triggering to you? It likely has to do with your attachment style and how your caregivers addressed conflict growing up. In this episode I explain what attachment styles are and how each attachment style deals with conflict. If you’re anxious preoccupied you likely people-please and say yes to things you don’t actually want. If you’re dismissive avoidant...

Today I’m reviewing the four different attachment types so you can answer the question, what attachment style am I? Listen to understand the four attachment types anxious preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment, and secure attachment. Attachment Style Anxious Preoccupied As an anxious attachment style you prioritize close social connections above all else. You...

In today’s episode, I sit down with my husband, Adrian Cardenas, to talk about my wild and crazy birth story. I had an unmedicated in a hospital. It was an incredible learning and growth experience both physically and mentally. We both share how birth has radically changed us and what attachment parenting means to both of us. It’s hilarious and touching and we hold back nothing. Resources discusse...

In today’s episode, I share how perfectionism shows up on the road to secure attachment. I recently caught myself being a super perfectionist about my own attachment style in preparation for the birth of my baby. My fearful-avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant tendencies had me hooked on secure. I wanted to have my shit figured out so I wasn’t doing it in front of the baby. But guess what, NO ONE...

Today’s episode features Markie Mullins, an astrologer, yoga instructor, oracle card reader, and retreat leader. We have an amazing conversation about reading charts and where astrology and attachment style intersect. She explains how to find your rising sign, use the moon cycles for your manifestation practice, and integrate your cycle with the seasons. It’s a hilarious conversation peppered with...

Today’s show takes a bit of a turn off the beaten personal and spiritual growth path and focuses on the impact of the recent overturning of Roe v. Wade. This episode features stories about birth, pregnancy, and abortion. The first guest Ashleigh Robinson recently spoke at an abortion rights rally in Baltimore and shares why it’s so important for women to have ownership over their bodies. The secon...

We’re talking about astrology with this week’s guest Dana Augustine. She is a teacher, astrologer, and the host of the Self Help Witch podcast. She kicks off the episode with an astro update so you know what’s going on in the cosmos. We then go on to chat about sobriety, codependency, and where to learn more about these topics in your astrology chart. I got a reading from Dana last year and I love...

Today I’m joined by career coach Ali Dunn. We have an amazing conversation about why it’s important for women to start speaking up in the workplace and asking for raises. She shares her top tips and tools for cultivating confidence and working with imposter syndrome. My favorite tip she talks about is having a brag folder. And how taking action is so important when dealing with imposter syndrome a...

This week I am joined by astrologer Nadia Diamante. Nadia is an ethical hedonist, sapphic queer with an irreverent and wild spirit and a love for all people of all identities. She gives us an astro update and explains how she incorporates asteroids and mythology into her work. Nadia is hilarious and obsessed with Gen Z-ers. Throughout the conversation Nadia queers astrology forcing us to question...

This week I’m joined by neurodivergent coach Avory Faucette. Avory’s preferred pronouns are zie/hir. Avory shares about living with ADHD, queer magic, and coping with chronic fatigue. We discuss hir relationship with productivity coming from a background working in nonprofits and social justice. Zie shares about the importance of prioritizing your own needs and your own selfcare participularly in...

This week I share why grief is at the very bottom of every core wound and trauma we’ve experienced. Grief does not like to be touched. She loves to be by herself. But when you find her she’s got a lot of valuable things to say in order to heal. I get to the story of grief by way of perfectionism. It’s a personal share of how I’ve honed my perfectionistic tendencies throughout my life. I share how...

Today I am joined by therapist and coach Taune Lyons. We discuss ALL things attachment style and how she uses it in her practice. We cover reparenting, immersing ourselves in secure environments, and the five pillars of secure attachment. She shares recommended somatic practices to feel safe enough in the body in order to be more vulnerable in relationships. Basically it all comes back to SAFETY!...

Today I chat with Galactic Seer, Beth Kiacz. She shares how she helps clients develop their own relationship with channeling and spirit guides. She has an earned-secure attachment style recovering from fearful-avoidant as a child. Channeling and communing with her spirit guides have really helped her develop trust and ease anxiety in her body. Which are the two most important things for fearful av...

Today I am joined by shadow work coach Rachael Besser and Lesley Stevens. We happened to attend the same networking event and all came down with COVID at the same time. We share how we all got through it together. We get into the details of how it affected each of us differently, what tv shows got us through the week, and what we learned from the experience. This is no way medical advice. Not at a...

This week’s episode features Chinese-Canadian Breathwork Coach & Intuitive Guide, Christine Lu Singh. We talk about all things breathwork. She shares about her transition from her corporate PR job into being a breathwork facilitator. She talks about the divide she felt between her soul and her ego before she made the leap into her new career. And she also shares how to gently move through trau...

Today’s episode is all about habits with holistic health coach, event designer, and hatha yoga instructor Livia Marati of Ina Wellness Collective in Guam. She shares what helps drive healthy habits and the motivation to keep them. My favorite part was her sharing about her morning routine which involves the simple steps of lighting incense and putting on music. Habits don’t have to be over the top...

This week we’re talking about the enneagram with fulfillment coach Jenna Starkey. We dive into how she found the enneagram and how she has used it to integrate and heal. We both share our types including the shadowy parts and the exciting parts. As a fulfillment coach she shares how to use it to learn your values and drive to help you find a fulfilling career. We then switch gears and learn from J...

On today’s Lit AF podcast episode we sit down and chat with brand consultant Emily Regan Byrne of Centered Creative. She brings alot of personal development into her branding work and shares her personal journey of combining the two. We talk about what makes business owners most successful in their niche. She also shares about how business owners can express themselves more authentically. This con...

Today I share about the art of receiving feedback. It took me a long time to understand that feedback actually comes from a supportive place. People that give you feedback want you to succeed and they are making a real effort to share this information with you. In this episode, I share my favorite framework to give and receive feedback. I learned this during a meeting facilitation training from Sa...

Gabby is a Women’s Life Coach who focuses on guiding women from being the backup dancers to the Beyoncé of their lives. She has been through it and she shares her rock bottom in this episode. I really enjoyed talking with her about the important topics like codependency, self-love, and turning inward when patterns start to occur. The word “hard” came up a lot during the interview and I really appr...

This week we are talking about womanhood with the hosts of Cycle Chats podcast, Emily and Stephanie. They are a hilarious and down-to-earth duo that want to destigmatize being a woman. They share about how they met over pink lipstick and the inspiration behind their podcast. We talk about the biggest things that have integrated as woman including coming out as queer and overcoming abusive relation...

This week’s guest Shaleahia Hennix shares how to tap into your zone of genius in order to live the life you’ve always dreamed of. Shaleahia is an idea doula, transformational experience curator, and atmospheric alchemist cultivating a life at the threshold of purpose, pleasure, peace, passion, and prosperity. Shaleahia goes deep sharing her own story about overcoming people-pleasing. We talk about...

It’s official. I’m pregnant. And these first four months have been a wild ride. From excitement to fear to nausea, I’ve felt it all. I recorded a few clips at different points in my pregnancy and put them all together for this episode. Join me during my giddy first week where I share how I told my husband the news. And my 8th week when nausea set in with a serious bout of vertigo. And again after...

We’re talking about animal healing energy with this week’s guest animal card reader Megan Sprague. She shares about her relationship with animals and the energy she feels when encountering animals in her day-to-day life. She talks about the reciprocal relationship that exists between humans and animals. Animals are abundant with healing messages and reminders for us humans. We finish the interview...

This week we’re spilling all the tea about sobriety with Ari Eastman. She is the host of the Sobrietea podcast. And she shares all the nitty-gritty about getting sober and what life is like on the other side. I haven’t spoken too much about my sobriety on the podcast. Not because I’m hiding it but because it has become so second nature to my life. We talk about the hangover shame cycle, the addict...