Lit AF Relationships

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support.  Follow Anna Lum on Instagram: @anna.cutz Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call Resources Discussed: Do the work podcast wi...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support.  Follow [Guest] on Instagram:  Visit [Guest]’s website:  Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call Resources Discusse...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support.  In this podcast episode, we delve into a common misconception about attachment styles that many people get wrong. When individuals discover their attachment style, they often believe they must first heal it to achieve secure attachment before entering a relationship. For...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support.  In today’s episode, I delve into attachment styles using the Netflix show Love Is Blind Season 6 as a case study. I analyze the attachment patterns exhibited by each couple, highlighting both insecure and secure behaviors. This season was a delightful blend of sweetness...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support.  Are afraid you’re going to hurt someone when you’re honest about your feelings? Do you have unresolved issues causing you to hurt people you care about? Are you worried your feelings will be hurt if you share honestly? These are very common fears for the different attach...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. In this week’s episode I talk about the difference between people pleasing and just being a good human. It’s a very fine line which I thought it was important to talk about.  I start the episode with a few examples of what people pleasing looks like and why the different...

On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships I share a few sneaky signs that you're feeling unworthy in your dating life. Are you not swiping right because you think they’re better than you? Are you going with the flow instead of sharing your real needs or desires because you’re afraid they will leave? Are you compromising too much? Have you given up on dating entirely because it’s too overwhelming...

On today’s episode, I talked with the founder and artist behind one of my favorite instagram accounts, Vanillacooldance. Jessica Stahl draws cartoons to empower women in dating and in the bedroom. Jessica is here to help remove the shame and stigma from getting kinky in the bedroom.  I really love how Vanillacooldance shares so vulnerably about embarrassing dating moments or sexy time and Jes...

Why are they pulling away? Why are they trying to trap me? Follow [Guest] on Instagram: Visit [Guest]’s website: Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

This episode re-airs a recent interview I did on Of The Essence with Liz. We chat about how I got into attachment coaching, how I healed my fearful avoidant attached style and have created earned secure attachment. We also cover how attachment styles are formed and how they change over time. Liz is very brave and vulnerable and shares about how her attachment style has changed over time.  I a...

Have you fallen off your New Years resolutions? Me too. Well, I’ve just stopped setting them because I realized I was setting myself up for failure each year, which is why I wanted to record this episode. New Year's resolutions are tough. They rely on willpower which will motivate us for a short amount of time. But eventually, we’ll start snoozing that alarm clock, make excuses to skip the gym aft...

Sometimes it’s really hard to say no to dating, hooking up, or getting over someone. You might know exactly how they’re not the right person or their not supporting you in the way that you need but you keep coming back for more. In this episode I talk about why it’s so hard to end it. I also share what’s happening at the subconscious level that keeps you coming back for more. I definitely cover wh...

On today’s podcast, I talk about why the fearful avoidant attachment style loves chaos. The fearful-avoidant attachment type grew up in chaos. As an adult they tend to seek out chaotic situations like an unhealthy or toxic work environment, getting into credit card debt, or dating someone reckless. In the episode, I talk about why they seek out situations like this. I then go into how the fearful-...

On today’s podcast I talk with Alexandra Shelly, the Modern Medium. She’s passionate about infusing her joy, spirited humor, and creativity into fundamental practices learned by her mentor and world-renowned psychic mediums, in order to create a practice that is uniquely hers. We talk about two topics, being single and spirituality. She shares what has helped her explore her own pleasure and satis...

Today on the podcast Shelby Avann and I talk about sex, intimacy, and the different attachment styles. This is a juicy convo and Shelby explains the different patterns that each attachment style experiences in the bedroom including anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant, and secure attachment. She shares a few communication tips to ensure you’re getting and giving consent and g...

Are you worried you’re never going to find someone to be with? This is such a common thought for people who are dating, newly single, or scared to break up with someone they are not happy with. If this is you, I have so much compassion for you. This is a totally normal fear that the majority of the planet has bought into at a certain point in their lifetime. In this episode, I break down what happ...

On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships, Anna Lum shares her story about creating secure attachment after a breakup. She shares how she healed her anxious preoccupied attachment style that was triggered in her last relationship. She talks about the steps she took to heal her attachment style and how she is sharing needs, processing emotions, and communicating boundaries. We go deep about the pa...

For today’s episode I’m re-airing a recent In My Non-Expert Opinion podcast episode with me as a guest. Chelsea Riffe hosts the podcast and she shares how she healed her anxious attachment in her dating life. We cover all things attachment on this episode including a deep dive into all the attachment styles including anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment...

In this episode I talk about how to overcome chronic feelings of guilt and shame. First of all, if this is you, I want you to know that this is so common. Both fearful avoidants and dismissive avoidants often tend towards feelings of guilt and shame. I share a few examples of how you can catch this habit, it might be showing up in a sneaky way you don’t even realize. I then finish the episode with...

Are you spending alot of time fantasizing about your ex? Do you wish they would call or you could get back together? Are you the one that did the breaking up and you’re still thinking about them? It might be surprising to hear that this is actually common. In this episode I share a few sneaky ways your brain might be fantasizing about your ex without you even realizing it, hello Instagram stories!...

On today’s episode, I share what the 1% better habit that each attachment type can take today to see massive results created in a year. This episode is based on the concept of 1% better from James Clear’s book, Atomic Habits . In this chart-topping book Clear writes that, "Improving by 1% isn’t particularly notable, sometimes it isn’t even noticeable, but it can be far more meaningful – especially...

In this episode I share scripts to use when you are asking a loved one to meet a need without a feeling like a burden. Asking for a need to be met can be really hard. But part of becoming more secure means sharing vulnerably about how you’re feeling and asking your loved one for support. In this episode I share why it’s important to ask for your needs to be met and what repair means. I explain how...

Is it possible to change your attachment style is one of the most common questions about the attachment system. In today’s episode I share the truth that yes, it is possible to change your attachment style. It can be a little confusing at first what behavior is associated with earned secure. I share a few behavioral patterns that show you are on the right track towards healing your attachment styl...

In this episode of Lit AF Relationships I share about how perfectionism shows up in dating and in relationships. This episode is a really personal share because I talk about the belief I held in the beginning of my marriage that fights and arguments were a sign that we weren’t meant to be together. I often ruminated about divorce. Sometimes it still comes up. But I share a few tools of how to noti...

On today’s episode I explore what secure attachment actually looks like. I had some pretty interesting misconceptions about how secure folx showed up in relationships and I hilariously share them with you today. I also talk about what it’s like to date someone with secure attachment. It can be pretty strange and your nervous system might not be used to it. You might be wondering why you don’t have...