Lit AF Relationships

Do you feel like you’re carrying emotions that aren’t even yours? That’s codependency in action! Growing up, we were taught to take on other people’s feelings—sometimes with real consequences if we didn’t. It’s a classic insecure attachment trait, but here’s the good news: You don’t have to keep doing it. In this episode I explore how this trait shows up and how to start letting it go. Imagine how...

Embarrassment? Nope, never heard of it. At least, that’s what the dismissive avoidant would love you to believe. But deep down (like way deep down), they have a huge fear of being shamed or criticized. As natural perfectionists, they’re laser-focused on how others see them—because if they just get everything right , then everything will be fine... right? In this episode, we’re talking about why em...

Ever feel like feedback is just code for "you're not enough"? You're not alone. If you have an insecure attachment style, receiving feedback can feel like punishment—like proof that you're failing, falling out of favor, or just not doing it right. We get defensive, take it personally, and totally miss the growth, care, and connection that feedback is meant to bring. In this episode, I’m sharing my...

If you thought becoming securely attached meant pretending you have no needs ( looking at you, Anxious Preoccupied ), never asking for space again ( hello, Avoidant ), or blindly trusting someone overnight ( nice try, Fearful Avoidant ), then… we need to talk. In this episode, I break down the biggest misconceptions insecurely attached folks have about “doing the work” and why forcing yourself to...

Dating can be tricky for anyone, but when you have an insecure attachment style, it can feel like a rollercoaster. Whether you’re anxiously chasing connection, avoiding commitment, or stuck in the push-pull of a fearful avoidant cycle, dating often brings out old patterns that just aren’t working. In this episode, we’re diving into: Anxious daters – Why they ignore red flags, say yes when they mea...

Attachment parenting might sound hard, but honestly, it’s a mix of deep connection, big emotions, and hoping coffee can get us throught the day. This week, we’re diving into the four pillars: setting boundaries (and sometimes being flexible about them), creating space for vulnerability and big feelings (like crying over the wrong color cup—again), modeling how to meet needs (even if it’s just five...

Emotions are the original gateway drug—especially guilt and shame. In this episode, we unpack why my 20-year smoking habit wasn’t about the bad health effects but instead, it was about the delicious, twisted guilt behind it. Inspired by Carolyn Lovewell’s Existential Kink , we ask the big question: Can you actually get off on the reality that you’re bringing into your life? Spoiler: gratitude for...

Join us as we dive deep with Suzanne L’Heureux, Jungian life coach and founder of Diving Deep Coaching, who helps women in midlife uncover their true selves. We explore: What is the Jungian Shadow, and why should you care? How shadow work reveals self-sabotaging patterns in relationships. Sarah and Suzanne’s personal journey with shadow work and the power of self-discovery. It’s time to shine a li...

Breaking up is rough—yes, even if you’re the one who pulled the plug. Now you’re left to rebuild, face the cringe-worthy emotions, and maybe (just maybe) figure out what you brought to the chaos. From anxious-avoidant drama to dismissive ghosting vibes, we’re diving into what the different attachment styles are bringing to the table. Let’s do the work so you can start attracting healthy, secure re...

Fights, disruptions, and awkward moments happen in every relationship—but repair is the magic that brings us back together. In this episode, we’re diving into how different attachment styles approach repair (or avoid it!). Whether you’re an AP people-pleaser quick to fix, a DA avoiding the issue entirely, or an FA stuck between both worlds, we’ve got you covered. Plus, we’ll explore creative ways...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  In this episode, we break down the difference between intuition and markers of insecure attachment, like emotional flooding, repeated patterns, self-sabotage, avoidance, and clinginess. Learn how to spot the quiet wisdom of intuition—it’s soft, surprising, and unattached...

Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when your partner shuts down? This episode dives into the many ways we emotionally check out —from silent treatments to disappearing into work—and why your partner might be retreating. We’ll help you flip the script: What are you making their shutdown mean about you? Learn how to offer support, space, or even a breather (without taking it personally). Plus,...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Ever find yourself spiraling after a fight or overthinking someone’s mixed signals? This episode dives into the one question I ask my clients the most: What does that mean about you? Whether it's navigating criticism in relationships (hello, anxious preoccupied!), decodi...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  On today’s episode, Sigrid Blom shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant attachment style after a divorce. She used to struggle to set boundaries and have authentic friendships where she was fully showing up as herself. With a slew of diag...

Ever feel like there's a sneaky pattern sabotaging your love life? It might just be your core wounds making a dramatic entrance! Join us as we explore how these childhood-rooted emotional wounds shape our relationships and tie into our attachment styles. We’ll dive into the anxious attachment style, where you might find yourself constantly seeking reassurance and wondering, "Am I enough?" Then the...

In this episode, we're taking a playful dive into Love is Blind Season 7 to spot the rarest of all species: securely attached contestants! Join us as we break down what secure attachment looks like (hint: it's steady, calm, and confident) and how it holds up under the wild pressures of pods, fast proposals, and unapproving parents. Grab your popcorn and let’s dig into the attachment behind the sho...

Ever feel like you’re dating the same person over and over? It’s not just bad luck—it’s your brain's subconscious comfort zone pulling the strings! In this episode, we’ll explore why your brain loves familiar relationship drama (even when it’s not good for you) and how to break out of those old patterns. Tune in for practical tips, a little self-reflection, and a fresh start on building healthier,...

Struggling to get your point across or feeling like every conversation is a minefield? Your attachment style might be the culprit! In this episode, we break down why communication is so tricky for the three insecure attachment types. We'll dive into why the Anxious Preoccupied can be overly critical, how the Fearful Avoidant tends to be super sensitive, and why the Dismissive Avoidant just shuts d...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  In this episode, we sit down with someone who has transformed their relationship style from dismissive avoidant to secure while also navigating the challenges of ADHD. We explore the journey of what it takes to shift from emotional distance and self-reliance to building...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Ever feel like you're riding an emotional roller coaster when someone doesn’t text back? You might just be rocking the Anxious Preoccupied attachment style! In this episode, we’re breaking down why the fear of abandonment hits so hard for some of us. Spoiler: it’s all ab...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  In this episode, we’re diving into the world of dismissive avoidants—the attachment style pros at needing space. Whether it’s because they pride themselves on independence, avoid emotions at all costs, or keep their hearts guarded, dismissive avoidants thrive on alone ti...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  In this episode, we dive deep into what makes your fearful avoidant so chaotic. It can be really confusing to be with a fearful avoidant, one minute they’re charming and adorable the next minute they’re probing you with questions and asking for space.  It all comes...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Do you struggle with discerning between avoidance or intuition? Do you experience the ick in dating? If so this episode is for you. Jordan shares how she healed her fearful avoidant attachment style in order to stop serial dating, slow down, and actually find someone she wante...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Do you feel like you can only rely on yourself or that it’s a sign of weakness to share your feelings? If so, this episode is for you. I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is brought up to think they need to be independent. I also share why the dismissive-av...

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