Lit AF Relationships

Get ready to feel seen! In this soulful, funny, and wisdom-packed episode, Sarah reunites with Krista Williams—co-host of the Almost 30 podcast and now author of its transformational companion book. They dive deep into Saturn returns, breakups that crack you open, dating after divorce, and the wild ride of figuring out whether your intuition or your attachment style is driving the bus. Krista shar...

Asking for help can feel like weakness—but what if it’s actually a sign of strength? In this short episode, I get real about the shame and insecurity that bubbled up from a real life example from a client that needed help with a clothes dryer (yes, really). I walk through the wound thoughts, the emotions they triggered, and the powerful reframe that helped her see her courage and resourcefulness i...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Want to fight less and connect more in your relationship? This episode dives into the secret sauce of better communication: validation. It’s the #1 skill I teach couples, and for good reason—most of us skip it completely. When your partner feels seen and heard, defensive...

We made it to 200 episodes , and we’re celebrating with a twist — it’s an Ask Me Anything attachment style episode! 🎤✨ Sarah hands over the mic (well, kind of) to guest host and client Molly McGuire, who asks allll the juicy questions about attachment styles, dating, online ghosting, anxious pet parenting, and the wild ride of personal growth. From Sarah’s earliest manifestation goals (hello, $6...

In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing something super fresh: I was just diagnosed with ADHD this week. Yep, it’s official—and I’m still very much in the thick of processing it all. Join me as I talk about how I got the diagnosis, what it’s bringing up in my marriage (yep, we’re a double ADHD couple!), and how it’s reshaping how I see myself, my past, and my parenting. From the messy car-pac...

Who would you be with secure attachment? Would life be a fairytale? Drama-free? Maybe… boring? 😅 In this episode, we unpack the myths we tell ourselves about becoming secure—like needing a whole new friend group or quitting your job. (Spoiler: You might get to keep more than you think.) Tune in to explore what secure attachment really looks like—yep, even the messy parts—and how it might surprise...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Gentle parenting. Conscious parenting. Attachment parenting. No matter your style, they all ask one thing: get comfortable with big emotions. Easier said than done—especially if you grew up stuffing yours down. In this episode, we talk about what really happens when your...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Ever feel like all hell breaks loose when someone pulls away? Panic. Fear. “Are they leaving me forever?!” In this episode, I answer a juicy question from Instagram about how to communicate your attachment style—especially when you're spiraling. We talk about asking for...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Ever been on the receiving end of a sudden outburst from your anxious preoccupied partner? Or maybe you are the one who panics and lashes out when you feel someone pulling away? Here’s the deal: It’s not about anger—it’s about fear. When someone with an anxious preoccupi...

I used to think that once I became securely attached, life would be smooth sailing—no triggers, no fights, just endless happiness. Turns out… that’s not how this works. Every client I work with wants to fix their attachment style—stop being clingy, stop avoiding, stop fearing. But here’s the twist: the secret to secure attachment isn’t about changing your patterns. In fact, trying to force change...

Is it intuition or just your attachment wounds talking? In this episode, we’re diving into the messy, confusing, and totally relatable struggle of trusting yourself while breaking free from old relationship patterns. From dating dilemmas to parenting choices, cultural expectations to family judgment—it's hard AF to do what feels right when everyone else has an opinion. Whether you’re running, clin...

Do you feel like you’re carrying emotions that aren’t even yours? That’s codependency in action! Growing up, we were taught to take on other people’s feelings—sometimes with real consequences if we didn’t. It’s a classic insecure attachment trait, but here’s the good news: You don’t have to keep doing it. In this episode I explore how this trait shows up and how to start letting it go. Imagine how...

Embarrassment? Nope, never heard of it. At least, that’s what the dismissive avoidant would love you to believe. But deep down (like way deep down), they have a huge fear of being shamed or criticized. As natural perfectionists, they’re laser-focused on how others see them—because if they just get everything right , then everything will be fine... right? In this episode, we’re talking about why em...

Ever feel like feedback is just code for "you're not enough"? You're not alone. If you have an insecure attachment style, receiving feedback can feel like punishment—like proof that you're failing, falling out of favor, or just not doing it right. We get defensive, take it personally, and totally miss the growth, care, and connection that feedback is meant to bring. In this episode, I’m sharing my...

If you thought becoming securely attached meant pretending you have no needs ( looking at you, Anxious Preoccupied ), never asking for space again ( hello, Avoidant ), or blindly trusting someone overnight ( nice try, Fearful Avoidant ), then… we need to talk. In this episode, I break down the biggest misconceptions insecurely attached folks have about “doing the work” and why forcing yourself to...

Dating can be tricky for anyone, but when you have an insecure attachment style, it can feel like a rollercoaster. Whether you’re anxiously chasing connection, avoiding commitment, or stuck in the push-pull of a fearful avoidant cycle, dating often brings out old patterns that just aren’t working. In this episode, we’re diving into: Anxious daters – Why they ignore red flags, say yes when they mea...

Attachment parenting might sound hard, but honestly, it’s a mix of deep connection, big emotions, and hoping coffee can get us throught the day. This week, we’re diving into the four pillars: setting boundaries (and sometimes being flexible about them), creating space for vulnerability and big feelings (like crying over the wrong color cup—again), modeling how to meet needs (even if it’s just five...

Emotions are the original gateway drug—especially guilt and shame. In this episode, we unpack why my 20-year smoking habit wasn’t about the bad health effects but instead, it was about the delicious, twisted guilt behind it. Inspired by Carolyn Lovewell’s Existential Kink , we ask the big question: Can you actually get off on the reality that you’re bringing into your life? Spoiler: gratitude for...

Join us as we dive deep with Suzanne L’Heureux, Jungian life coach and founder of Diving Deep Coaching, who helps women in midlife uncover their true selves. We explore: What is the Jungian Shadow, and why should you care? How shadow work reveals self-sabotaging patterns in relationships. Sarah and Suzanne’s personal journey with shadow work and the power of self-discovery. It’s time to shine a li...

Breaking up is rough—yes, even if you’re the one who pulled the plug. Now you’re left to rebuild, face the cringe-worthy emotions, and maybe (just maybe) figure out what you brought to the chaos. From anxious-avoidant drama to dismissive ghosting vibes, we’re diving into what the different attachment styles are bringing to the table. Let’s do the work so you can start attracting healthy, secure re...

Fights, disruptions, and awkward moments happen in every relationship—but repair is the magic that brings us back together. In this episode, we’re diving into how different attachment styles approach repair (or avoid it!). Whether you’re an AP people-pleaser quick to fix, a DA avoiding the issue entirely, or an FA stuck between both worlds, we’ve got you covered. Plus, we’ll explore creative ways...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  In this episode, we break down the difference between intuition and markers of insecure attachment, like emotional flooding, repeated patterns, self-sabotage, avoidance, and clinginess. Learn how to spot the quiet wisdom of intuition—it’s soft, surprising, and unattached...

Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when your partner shuts down? This episode dives into the many ways we emotionally check out —from silent treatments to disappearing into work—and why your partner might be retreating. We’ll help you flip the script: What are you making their shutdown mean about you? Learn how to offer support, space, or even a breather (without taking it personally). Plus,...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  Ever find yourself spiraling after a fight or overthinking someone’s mixed signals? This episode dives into the one question I ask my clients the most: What does that mean about you? Whether it's navigating criticism in relationships (hello, anxious preoccupied!), decodi...

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.  On today’s episode, Sigrid Blom shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant attachment style after a divorce. She used to struggle to set boundaries and have authentic friendships where she was fully showing up as herself. With a slew of diag...