Life After Divorce Coaching

After divorcing you may feel beaten up. Having goals and taking small steps towards them daily can do wonders for building your self-esteem and creating the life you want. In this episode, I share 8 tips on how small steps can be a powerful tool in getting you where you want to be.

Being aware of your thoughts is a practice. Changing your thoughts from non-productive thoughts to productive thoughts takes practice. Today I discuss tips on the awareness needed to move you to thoughts that serve you, without judgment but instead with love and kindness.

Owning what we want for ourselves and going for it is the key to reaching your goals. This episode is about owning it and going for what you want despite what others may think.

How do you tell the story of your divorce? In this episode, we discuss how you recreate the story of your divorce to one that empowers you and moves you towards the future you want to create, instead of bringing you down.

There are times, during and after divorce, or in life in general, when we encounter uncomfortable conversations with the people in our lives. We often avoid these conversations, but when we do have them, they often end up being about who is right or wrong and then exploding and going nowhere. In this episode I share a few tips on how to approach hard conversations in a way that may foster better r...

Today I speak with attorney, and Florida Supreme Court-appointed mediator, Hadas Stagman, about the mediation process and her thoughts on successfully moving towards conflict resolution.

In divorce, there are a lot of things going on that take our focus away from what is important.  Realizing when you are wasting your time on things that do not serve you is key. In this episode I explore my own personal issues staying focused, the choices we make, and why it is important to work on being aware so we can achieve what we want after divorce and for our future.

Have you heard of the saying “Fight or Flight?”Most people have. However, what people don’t consider is staying in the state of “Frozen” as the third option.  In this episode, I discuss getting out of “Frozen” and into a decision so you can move forward with your life and reach your goals.

Substance abuse is unfortunately a real and concerning issue in many divorce. In this conversation with Mark Astor, drug and alcohol attorney,  he provides insight on how to deal with these issues in a way that best helps the family.

Are you a people-pleaser? When we people please, we are not living an authentic life. In a marriage, or any relationship, when you want a closer and true relationship it is important to be honest with yourself and with the other person. In this episode, I want to help you think about people-pleasing and where you might be doing this. Knowing why you are people pleasing and how you might be honest...

When we think we want to end our marriage, it is important to clearly identify why we want the divorce.  Leaving a marriage with expectations that the divorce itself will make us happy without digging deeper is not productive to a better future.  In this episode I want to open your mind to the possibility that leaving your marriage for the right reasons can be done with love and kindness for your...

When we are annoyed at something or someone, we can react from a place of anger or we can take a moment, slow down and think about how we are going to react so that it better serves us. The way we react when we are annoyed can either serve a greater purpose or cause us further  announce. You have a choice. Awareness is key.  In this episode I discuss some simple techniques to help you slow down, w...

If you are contemplating divorce, you will likely struggle with negative thoughts as to why divorcing is a bad idea. Sometimes marriages have run their course. Sometimes it is best to part ways. However, our brain takes us to all the reasons that this is a bad idea. Giving equal airtime to what might be better, if you divorced, is something worth exploring. Is there a possibility that things could...

Why do we tend to think about the negative of our circumstances more than the positive?   What would be different if we gave equal airtime to the positive possibilities or outcomes stemming from our divorce?   If you are stuck in the negative of things, you know that it doesn’t feel good, nor is it useful. In this episode, I explain an easy and powerful tool that helps you to look at the positive...

As a close family member of ours has recently passed on,  I am inspired to talk about those relationships we have with our ex’s family members.  You may not have a relationship with your extended family, but your children might and it’s important to support those relationships.   

Why would you want to be stuck feeling horrible day in and day out?  Don't you want to get past this sooner? No one wants to stay stuck in the negative emotions that come with divorce. First thing I want you to know is that time, my friend, has nothing to do with it.

There's nothing wrong with you, my friend. The reality is that sometimes relationships just end, things change, people change circumstances change, that doesn't reflect on you.  When you are in a relationship and you are in a marriage, you lose some of your self-identity. This is your opportunity to get your power back. You see, the power now is yours to create your future, decide who you are and...

Transformational Coach Andrea (Andi) Valley and I discuss how to be calm in a cluttered world and looking within for that inner peace.  “Wisdom will always guide us into the direction of peace”.

Today is about the new year alternatives to resolutions, like an impossible dream, a 30-day habit, self-care, and your bucket list. Think about these things you deserve! If you've been through a lot or you're going through a lot, there's nothing wrong with taking note of what you want to make a priority.  

As we start this new year, I thought it appropriate to discuss where you are after your divorce or breakup. What I will refer to as your mindset starting point, and the stages of your mindset. Keep in mind that this is yours, your starting point and the healing and growth process after divorce is unique to only you, the way you are affected by the divorce is yours and cannot, and should not be com...

Today let's discuss knowing what we want and not just what we think we want and how we can find clarity on it, but how to get there. Knowing what we want as opposed to what we think we want or what we have, or don't have are very, very different.

Why are we so unkind to ourselves?  Where are you in your line of priorities?  I want you to reflect on this and let’s talk about self-love.  If we don’t take care of ourselves, we cannot take care of those around us.

This is for all those mothers out there who struggle with parenting after divorce.  Pam is a life coach who focuses on helping women gain control over themselves and their kids and parent without guilt.  Listen to her lessons learned and how she has turned her personal experiences into a business of helping other moms.  Go to LessDramaMoreMama.com to find out more about her coaching services!  

  What is your financial situation after divorce or what will it look like?  What do you WANT it to look like?  Let’s do an exercise together…I have some questions you need to ask yourself!  

My husband, Jeff, joins me today to talk about our experience blending our families!  It was not always easy, but I wanted to share with you our story as a positive example of how things can be if you go into it with the right mindset.