Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

“Corrective Emotional Experience”    Have you ever heard of this term?   These experiences facilitate our healing in ways that “doing the work” and journaling can’t quite reach.    Inside of today’s episode we do a deep dive on:  Understanding the importance of internalized attachment figures.  Exploring retraumatization, and the defense of dissociating from emotion.  What is required for allowing...

Special Guest Alert! WOW! This is an EXTRA special episode where I talk with E.S.L. Program graduate, Dalma Avalos! Dalma was one of the very first women to complete the E.S.L. Relationship Program (almost three years ago at this point!). She openly shares about her journey from experiencing the pain of anxious attachment and low self-worth to completely transforming her life and relationships wit...

Dear Santa, bring me a securely attached partner, please!    The truth is we all desire a partner who is securely attached (and to show up as a securely attached partner).    Secure attachment requires self-awareness, healing, and rewiring your brain.    In today’s episode I talk about the relational tool: “Attunement”.   Inside of this episode: I provide you with multiple definitions of attunemen...

Have you ever heard of “Sunk Cost Bias”? This unhelpful psychological bias is when past investment sabotages your ability to make good decisions about your future. We’ve all been there… You’re 6 months into a relationship and you start to realize it is going nowhere fast BUT instead of leaving you “keep trying harder to make it work”... Next thing you know you’re 2 years in, and you’re miserable....

Avoidance is pain. This simple sentence has a huge impact in your dating life. When we “let things slide” resentment builds, and with resentment relationships suffer… Resentment can completely destroy connection. Inside of this episode you will learn: The dangers of avoidance (how it impacts your self-worth and your relationships. Ways to ensure you don’t “avoid” in your relationship. How to prior...

Struggling to define whether you’re “exclusive”, casually dating, just having fun or fully committed?! Defining the relationship can make anyone nervous and tongue tied. You might think: “I don’t want to be too much but, I also don’t want him to think I just want to hook up... ugggh!”. If you’ve ever struggled with this conversation you’re not alone. Inside of this episode: You will learn the impo...

Masculine Vs. Feminine Energy I want to be honest with you: YOU NEED BOTH in healthy relationships. Inside of this episode I discuss: The art of fulfillment. Why you might be sabotaging your dating life with masculine energy. The conscious relationship as a rebellion (a.k.a. you can build a new relationship paradigm). Honestly you don’t want to miss this episode! I get very honest about my past ex...

Today’s episode will help you be brutally honest with yourself! Inside of this episode I talk about: Why some people change and others stay stuck. The key to creating real and lasting change in your life. How to engineer success in your life (so that you are forced to show up and do the work). I hesitated to air this episode because it is the most “tough love” I’ve been in a LONG time. I know in m...

This episode got super vulnerable (and it is PACKED with value!). I was so honored to have Dr. Z with me on the podcast as I discussed my own experience leaving an abusive relationship (and so much more!). We discussed how to cope with feelings that surfaced in response to the death of Gaby Petito. We shared the abusive relationship signs to look for that will help you know if you’re in an abusive...

Want to know the TRUTH about morning/night routines?! The TRUTH IS: the best routine is the one that you stick to! Inside of this episode: I share my own personal morning and night time routines. I give you a framework for creating your own routines. I give you real advice on how to make yourself consistent. Routines matter! As humans we love structure and we THRIVE with structure. Make sure you t...

For anyone who has struggled to love their body: this episode is for you!    We have a special guest for this episode! My dear friend, Dr. Aileen Alexander   Dr. Aileen helps busy professional women take control of their health so they can lose weight, increase their energy and reclaim their self confidence while still enjoying chocolate, carbs and meals out.    Inside of this episode we share:  -...

The death of Gabby Petito has brought up a lot of my own feelings around surviving an abusive relationship. Even though this is a challenging and painful topic; I believe it is worth exploring. Inside of this short but powerful episode I talk about: The reality of leaving an abusive relationship. The reality of healing once you have left. What every survivor needs to know about a healing journey....

Let’s get REAL vulnerable shall we?! In today’s episode, I talk about a past situationship and give you all of my JUICY takeaways. Inside of this episode, I share: How to know if you are in a situationship. The importance of dropping expectations while being crystal clear on standards. The impact of scarcity mindset/ timeline thinking on your dating life. This episode gives you some VERY actionabl...

Avoidant attachment gets a bad reputation. There is a lot going on under the surface of the avoidantly attached person’s heart and mind. Inside of this special episode: I help you understand avoidant attachment on a deep level/ I explain “devaluing” and other avoidant attachment strategies. I provide steps for the avoidantly attached person to learn to move to secure attachment. This episode will...

Whether you like it or not... “Cuffing season” is upon us! This means you want to feel you are bringing your "A" game to your dating life! Inside of this episode I will discuss: The mental shifts needed for dating to feel enjoyable. The things you can do TODAY to improve your dating life. How to PACE your emotional investment into the relationship. Seriously this episode will give you the foundati...

Do you want to REALLY understand attachment theory? If you’re an attachment theory nerd like me, you will love this episode! Inside you will find: What research says about your attachment style’s impact on your dating patterns. The impact a dysregulated attachment style has on your dating life and overall health. What it actually looks and feels like to have secure attachment. If you are ready to...

Are you sick of dating? The apps, the ghosting, the games… Are you ready to be a dog/cat lady and just give up? Not so fast! I PROMISE you can enjoy dating! Inside of today’s episode, I give you some of my top tips about how you can learn to really truly enjoy dating. Trust me, you don’t want to miss this episode. It will give you a head start on learning how to enjoy dating! Make sure you share t...

Have you ever tried to fix someone you were dating? Maybe you were their accidental career coach, their personal trainer, or their therapist… So many of us have been there or still get caught in the trap of wanting to help or “fix” our partners! Inside this podcast you will find everything you need to quit this habit ASAP! WHY you feel pulled to fix your partner. HOW it negatively impacts you (and...

You don’t want to miss this VERY special episode! Inside of this episode I answer the audience questions that everyone wants to know the answer to! I discuss: Understanding casual dating (and how to communicate about it!). Moving towards secure attachment no matter your past. What to do if you “hate dating and using dating apps”. This episode is a HUGE thank-you to the audience and to everyone who...

You need this episode! Single, in a relationship, married; whatever your relationship status. Inside of this episode: Why I won’t pretend to like fly fishing. How to “hold on to yourself’ when you’re in a relationship. Important mindset shifts to attract and maintain a securely attached relationship. This episode came to me the other day as I was walking on the beach and I realized that you all NE...

This is a VERY special episode. Experiencing Cheating can totally destroy your world It can leave you feeling “not good enough” and like you did something wrong. I can be downright devastating! But there IS a way through it and I know this episode will help anyone who has ever been cheated on Inside this episode: I answer a real-life scenario sent to me by a LGV podcast listener. I explain the rea...

One of the best kept Clinical Psych secrets:    The power of “DIALECTICS”.    When you grow in your relationships you MUST grow in your emotional intelligence.   Inside of this value packed episode I help you: Understand dialectics (what it means and WHY it is important). Apply it directly to your life and relationships.  Take your EQ to the next level so you can have a better relationship with yo...

Your Non-Negotiables Matter!   I’m sure you have heard the saying: “you can’t pour out of an empty cup”.    And you may already know how important self-care is!    BUT, I want to help you take your self-care to the next level by teaching you the power of non-negotiables.   Tune into this episode for my own secret sauce on how I constantly raise the bar for myself AND stay well taken care of no mat...

BREAKING NEWS FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH: Guilt keeps you stuck. Self-Compassion sets you free! Most people do not understand how to use compassion for healing and growth. Most people think criticism, perfectionism and “pushing through” is required to succeed. Inside of this episode: I discuss how guilt can sabotage your well-being and healing process. Why self-compassion is THE best path forward How...

Y’all! It is my pleasure to announce today’s episode was with a VERY special guest. The host of the popular podcast: “New Mindset Who Dis”, the one and only, Mr. Case Kenny himself! I could have talked with Case for hours, we are SO ALIGNED on all things dating. You don’t want to miss this episode! Inside we discussed: How Mindfulness and Self-Awareness creates a strong foundation for dating. Crea...