Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

AUDIENCE QUESTION ANSWERED! Today’s episode was dedicated to a loyal LGV listener who sent in a question. Her questions were: Why do people seem securely attached and then become avoidant a couple months into the relationship? How do I move on from being ghosted? How can I continue to become more securely attached? I answer these questions and MORE inside of this juicy episode! Don’t miss it - tun...

“You can’t have a great career and have a great relationship”. “You won’t be a good mom or a partner if you’re too focused on your career…” “You have to make sacrifices for what you want”. “Don’t be too successful, or you’ll intimidate the man.” LORD. I am TIRED of the lies when it comes to women achieving all they desire in their careers AND in their love lives. Girl, you can have it all. Here’s...

Welp, I got SUPER vulnerable in today’s episode. I am sharing a reflection on a past relationship... (really hope my ex doesn’t listen to this podcast!) More specifically, I share about how I went to Miami 5 years ago to celebrate my birthday and how I am doing the SAME thing this year; except this time my relationship is COMPLETELY different. Inside of this episode I talk about: How disorganized...

Ready to rewire your brain?! Okay good, cause this episode will help you do just that! Inside of this episode: I teach you the tool of “Thought Screening”. I share WHY this is so important for your mental and relationship health. I make it easy for you to start using this tool TODAY. Seriously, this short episode might just change your life. Thought screening is POWERFUL and absolutely something y...

People pleasing is RAMPANT! How many of us are playing supporting roles in our very own lives… Living your life in a way that focuses on what other people think of you can completely sabotage your happiness! Pleasing everyone but yourself is a surefire way to end up miserable and worn out. You deserve to be the main character of your life. Inside of this episode I talk about: Where living life as...

What’s one of the BIGGEST factors in having healthy relationships? How we communicate! I want to make sure you have what you need for healthy communication and GREAT relationships Inside of this episode: I discuss Myths about assertive communication. I share the two main barriers to assertive communication. I share how assertive communication aligns with secure attachment. Make sure you tune in to...

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse is not something I thought I’d ever talk about openly. As it happened to me, approximately a decade ago, I was deeply afraid that I would never come out the other side of it. I thought I was doomed to a life of being controlled and manipulated. I couldn’t find a way out. . That was until the decision became life or death. I chose life (obviously). It is my wish that th...

“Awareness without action is useless”. Inside of this episode: I share the proven N.B.A. framework for taking action (and no honey I am not talking about basketball!). I talk about why people get stuck and how to get unstuck. I help you get over your own B.S. excuses that keep you procrastinating. Tune in to get some of my best advice ever on having the life you desire. You deserve ACTION because...

REASSURANCE    Most of us know that term but we don’t realize the vital role it plays in creating a securely attached relationship.    To create secure attachment; we NEED reassurance!    Learning how to use this tool in your relationship is a relationship game changer.   Don’t miss this episode where I discuss:  Why anxious attachment creates high needs for reassurance.  My best tips for creating...

Have you ever felt you might never be in a healthy relationship?   Ever wondered if all of the good ones are gone, or there is something “wrong” with you that causes you to “fail” in relationships again and again?   If so; this episode is for YOU!   Inside of this powerful episode you will hear Emma’s...  Vulnerable story about her past dating life.  Favorite tools that she learned inside of the E...

How do you respond to stress and chaos?   It is likely that you’ve never thought about that question and that you are repeating patterns that were modeled to you as a young child.    You deserve to navigate tough times in a healthy way.    Inside of this episode I break down:  How to recognize your current unhelpful coping patterns.  How to implement new ways of being.  What it means to internaliz...

Anger, resentment, hurt …   These emotions take up A LOT of space in your life.    When we cannot forgive, our past is taking up space in our life.   Inside of this episode:  I discuss WHY forgiveness is so important.  I provide a framework for implementing forgiveness in your life (starting today!). I give you tangible steps on forgiving yourself and others (and educate you on what to expect when...

A toxic love cycle… The magnetic pull of: “there’s just something about him, even if I wanted to leave I couldn’t"... If you’ve felt this way you have likely experienced an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic. This dynamic can cause you to feel like you’ve lost “all common sense” and can lead you to chase what you doesn’t love you back or push away the ones who would do anything for you. We repe...

Everyone knows moving in with someone can feel like a BIG relationship milestone. Do you cross your fingers and hope for the best OR do all that you can to be prepared and intentional? My hope is to help you feel set up for success! In this episode, I give you all that you need to feel prepared when taking this relationship step. Tune in for my best advice and make sure you leave the podcast a wri...

Aaaaamazing episode alert!    I was joined by the one and only Danette May @thedanettemay for a powerful conversation on personal transformation and manifesting.    Danette has a powerful personal story and she has helped so many people radically heal their lives!    Inside of this special episode you will find:  Danette’s practical how-to guide for manifesting.  Mindset shifts for creating abunda...

TRUTH TIME:    Easy Action = Hard Life  Hard Action = Easy Life    You get to decide if you want to stay in the cycle of numbing, distracting, aka “easy action”.     Numbing is EASY and COMFORTABLE  ( and oh so common in our society…)   My guess is that you know numbing is hurting you. and that you do truly desire transformation. Otherwise, why would you listen to this podcast!?    Inside of this...

Attachment Theory is a relationship and dating GAME CHANGER!    It can feel like the missing piece of the puzzle when it comes to understanding why you do what you do in relationships.    You don’t want to miss this episode with Thais Gibson, fellow Attachment Theory expert and relationship coach.    When you get two attachment theory nerds together, you get a very powerful episode that is PACKED...

HIGH VALUE EPISODE ALERT This episode was inspired by so many of you who have thanked me for Episode 12 of the podcast (one of the first episodes I ever did on Self-Compassion).   Today’s episode will: Discuss the power of mindfulness self-compassion (and why you need it). Give you an easy to follow guided meditation so you can start practicing mindfulness self-compassion TODAY. Teach you about re...

You don’t want to miss this episode!    Dr. Shagun Pawar is clinical psychologist and relationship coach inside of the E.S.L. Relationship Program.    She is an expert in attachment theory and coaches women on the path to having healthy securely attached relationships.    Inside of this episode:  Dr. Shagun opens up about her own journey to secure attachment (including how her cultural identity sh...

Sex is rarely "just about sex".   In today's podcast episode, I am discussing how to navigate having a different “sex drive” than your partner.   Trust me, the core of this concern is not what you think it is.   In this episode I discuss:  How an anxious avoidant dynamic can play into a sexual connection.  Navigating conversations around frequency of intimacy. Creating secure attachment through ph...

AMAZING EPISODE ALERT    Y’all are going to love this episode with @therefinedwoman Kat Harris!    Kat is the author of the book “Sexless in the City” and the host of The Refined Collective podcast.    She is an example of living unapologetically and aligned in truth; her commitment to honor her own unique journey is deeply inspiring.   I adored Kat’s ability to talk openly about any topic that ca...

Got Boundaries?!    I hope so but, I know so many of you struggle with boundary setting.   I know I used to really struggle with setting and maintaining boundaries that protected my energy…   When you FINALLY learn how to set and maintain boundaries, your life changes for the better and relationships feel GREAT.   Gems inside this episode include:  How to BECOME the version of you that sets bounda...

MYTH: Men aren’t capable of conscious relationships.   In today's special guest episode with therapist, Eli Weinstein, we discuss shifting the paradigm around how men show up in relationships.    We dove into: The things that keep men stuck in unhealthy patterns.  How to invite your male partner to “do the work” with you (instead of feeling like you’re dragging them to meet you).  Routines for cre...

Mindset shifts are game changers in your dating life. I don’t want you to miss out on this episode! It is has a tough love punch and has the power to totally change your dating life. This episode gives you the mindset shift you need in order to embody feminine energy and allow what you deserve to come to you. Inside this episode: Find out what is preventing you from meeting the man you want. Learn...

Shame is a relationship killer... You deserve shame-free connection. You deserve healing, acceptance and self-love so you can have GREAT relationships! Tune into this episode to: Learn how to spot shame when it shows up in your relationships. Release any pockets of shame that are keeping you stuck. Get powerful tools for creating better communication in your relationships.   You don’t want to miss...