Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Get ready for a truly vulnerable episode!    Let’s talk about securely attached sex; how can you create desire AND maintain a secure attachment?!    Women ask me this all of the time. And after reviewing Ester’s Perel’s work, and re-reading her book: “Mating in Captivity” -   I have some answers for you!    Inside of this juicy episode I talk about:  Why sex with emotionally unavailable partners i...

Let’s Get Vulnerable (and nerdy!)    Today’s episode is also on our YouTube Channel! (Wanna watch instead of listen?! Check it out here!   In today’s episode we do a deep dive on:    Why your attachment style impacts your reassurance seeking behaviors  Where your reassurance behavior came from  My top tip for beginning to heal your reassurance behaviors    This episode is PACKED full of my own kno...

Happy Valentine's Day or Single Awareness Day or Whatever you’d like to call it!    I am glad you’re here and tuning in to this special episode.    Today’s episode will offer you a little bit of everything to help with your journey to high self-worth and great relationships.   Inside of the episode I discuss:  The power of Attachment theory when applied to your dating life  The importance of mindf...

“I’d rather focus on my career instead of a relationship…”    It is so much easier to focus on areas of your life where if you work harder, you get better results i.e. your career !    I see so many women who are GREAT at their jobs: doctors, lawyers, nurses, teachers, therapists, etc    They have achieved so much professionally; yet their love life is a huge source of shame and unhappiness…    Wh...

You don’t want to miss this episode!   It is a deep dive into WHY the anxiously attached person tries so hard to win the love of the avoidantly attached partner    If you’ve been in the place where you say: “Logically I KNOW this person is bad for me, but emotionally…I just can’t get over them” then you need this episode    Inside I discuss:  -Why Anxious attachment develops a desire “to be chosen...

Help! How do I know if it’s my attachment style or my gut instinct?    This question comes up a lot; so I thought it was time to answer it!    In today’s episode I discuss:    A framework for making securely attached decisions  The dangers of not doing the internal work  How to know if a decision is coming from lack of compatibility vs. your attachment style    I know this episode will help you wh...

EXPECTATIONS VS. STANDARDS    I got a lot of questions when I talked about this on instagram.    A lot of people were confused! So I decided to record this episode and set the record straight on this very important dating mindset shift.    Inside of the episode I talk about:    What are Standards vs. Expectations (don’t worry I break it down so anyone can understand and relate to it!)  The importa...

I was featured on “The Purely Podcast” with @purelypope Alysia Pope! We had so much fun in this interview, that I wanted to make sure I shared it with you all!    Inside of this episode I answer all questions related to dating including:    Attracting a healthy relationship (what is the mindset and internal work required) Successful dating practices (including how to use dating apps) How to avoid...

Conflict is part of every single healthy relationship   In fact, if you are not experiencing conflict; something is likely wrong with your relationship! Crazy right?    Inside of this episode: -You will learn where the desire to control your partner comes from and how to stop trying to control every little thing -You will learn strategies for approaching conflict when you are afraid of abandonment...

You’ve heard of Shiny Object Syndrome right??   Today we will talk about Shiny Relationship Syndrome!    This is when you think that all of your relationship problems will be fixed simply by going to a different relationship….   Inside of this juicy episode I go into four unconscious factors that may be contributing to WHY you are going from relationship to relationship!   This episode will be ver...

“Dating sucks”   “I hate dating apps”   “Do you have any idea how terrible the options are these days? I’d rather stay single”    The above are all things I’ve heard as a relationship coach.    And I get it; you CAN get burnt out on dating.    This episode is meant to help you:  Get back on track when the dating game just feels like way too much stress  Learn how to date in a way that doesn’t leav...

In today’s episode I do a deep dive into: PROTEST BEHAVIOR    In order to build secure attachment we need to learn what we do INSTEAD of protest behavior    Inside of todays Episode:  I help you identity what protest behavior looks like  Teach you WHY protest behavior occurs  Give you the formula for what you should be doing instead of protest behavior if you want to build a secure attachment styl...

This episode explores what two things we really crave in relationships: Intimacy ! To be fully and deeply understood by your partners The two go hand in hand, and are very important! Inside of this episode I discuss: Dating a securely attached person who may not understand your experience in relationships How to create intimacy in healthy ways The power of curiosity when committing to understandin...

Moving on can be SO HARD    And sometimes we get down on ourselves about how long it’s taking us to get over someone    I want you to know that what you’re feeling about your ex, may not even be about them or the relationship    Inside of this episode I discuss:  Grieving a break-up and some of my best tips for doing it in as healthy way as possible  How Scarcity mindset might be sabotaging your h...

What is my top relationship value?!   Freedom.    After losing myself in countless relationships, I decided: never again.    Inside of this episode I talk about how you know you’re in a securely attached relationship. And guess what?! Experiencing freedom is at the top of the list!    I discuss:  What relationship freedom looks and feels like  How securely attached couples navigate conflict  Why a...

Unpopular Opinion: New Year’s resolutions are THE WORST   Inside of this episode I teach you:  Why Resolutions set you up for failure  What to do instead of New Year's Resolutions  How to actually get what you want This is a value packed episode that will help you go into 2022 with a clear mind on how to effectively create change in your life    Do not spin your wheels in January, or get caught in...

Don’t make this mistake…   I don’t want you to carry around false beliefs about what a relationship should be    Sometimes our beliefs about relationships are NOT HEALTHY    Many of us can fall prey to “fantasy beliefs” that are actually not healthy at all, and sabotage us    Here is what I breakdown inside of the episode:  How you developed fairy tale beliefs  Why these beliefs are sabotaging You...

You need this episode in your life!    If we can’t ask for support; we will never receive it.    Most of us NEVER learned how to ask for support and be heard.    I want to give you everything you need to learn how to ask for support in a securely attached way!   Inside of this episode: - I explain why we never learned to ask for support  - I provide my exact four step framework for asking for supp...

Holiday Stress is NO JOKE!   In this episode, I get vulnerable about my own holiday stress and I share what has worked for me.    You will learn:  -Why letting go of expectations is crucial for joy  -The Key to Feeling Present  -The best way to set boundaries (so that you are actually heard)    You don’t want to miss this episode!   If you’re ready to give yourself the gift of secure attachment an...

Your dating questions answered    Inside of this episode I talk about:  Dating App strategies that work  Emotional Investment Pacing  How to see if someone is emotionally available  Relationship Red and Green Flags    This is such a great episode   Do not miss this one! It will set you up for dating success in 2022!    Also it is not too late to join the 5 Day Move to Secure Attachment Challenge!...

In today’s episode I talk about dating emotionally unavailable partners…   I even go off on a rant about a recent break-up in bachelor nation that screamed avoidant / anxious attachment dynamic    Inside of today’s episode:  -I discuss some ways you can pick up on someone who is emotionally unavailable  -I share the importance of practicing aligned self-compassion -I give you real life examples of...

You NEED self-compassion    Yet so many of us are programmed to be critical, and mean to ourselves    One of the most important things you can do for your mental health and relationships is to change how you talk to yourself    Inside of today’s episode:  -I talk about the importance of self-compassion -I walk you through an easy guided meditation sequence  -I will provide you with self-compassion...

Ghosting can be so painful…   I want to make sure you have all of the tools to navigate it like a confident, emotionally intelligent, boss babe!    Inside of this episode, I answer all of your juicy questions! These were questions submitted from the audience    Specifically I explore:    -What to do when you’ve been ghosted  -How to have abundance mindset when dating  -Navigating a relationship wi...

Vulnerability is a relationship superpower!    Without it:  -we struggle to form deep connections  -we cut ourselves off from our emotions  -we lose self-trust    So HOW do we learn to be vulnerable?!   Not through self-criticalness. Not through beating yourself up.   Inside of this episode I talk about:  -WHY it might be hard for you to be vulnerable  -How to begin practicing more vulnerability i...

BREAK-UPS, FORGIVENESS, oh my!    Drumroll please…   In today’s extra special episode, I give you a sneak peek into my upcoming book!    Today’s episode I read you an excerpt that is all about break-ups and how to handle them in a loving and healthy way.   You don’t want to miss this episode!    If you are healing from a break-up and you know you’d like to “do it differently next time” I’d like to...