Kate Hastings Show

What would your life be like in 10 years if you kept up with your current lies? What's the impact of living this way, and what are you willing to lose? And if you can't face the truth or at least tolerate it, get honest and admit you live a lie by choice. @coachkate1 www.phenyx.fit

Struggle to see how anyone would want to help you? Ask yourself these 3 questions: • While you were growing up what kind of messages did you get about asking for help? • Did your family place more value on "doing it yourself" or "letting others in?" • When you did attempt to reach out in childhood, how did the people in your life respond? @coachkate1

Remember that you are afraid of the response and emotion that the word no will conjure up in you, not the word itself. Saying yes when you want to say no comes at a price: You burn out, you experience anxiety, and you devalue yourself. You have relationships that are toxic and you become resentful. You disrespect yourself and allow added stress to play the victim to not focus on you and your life....

Anxiety can manifest itself in various ways when it comes to relationships. Fear of being left behind or not asking for things could be signs of anxiety in a relationship. It can control your thoughts and affect many aspects of your life. Anxiety crumbles your authentic voice, causing panic and lack of self-confidence. Do you ever ? Wondering if you matter? Wait for something to go wrong? Look for...

Whenever something good happens, something bad follows. Living with the expectation that sh*t will eventually hit the fan makes it difficult to acknowledge and accept when life is actually going good. It's difficult to celebrate your success when you feel unworthy of your achievement. You are deserving of good things. You weren't put on this Earth to live "well enough," you are meant to live an ab...

I don't think we ever ask ourselves, "Are we living our truth?" or "What does that even mean?" Instead, I think we grow up to conform to the truths surrounding us, which may or may not be aligned, but I believe that no one except you can determine that meaning. Before you can live and express your truth, I believe you must first confront the extent to which you tell yourself lies. Ask yourself how...

Living in a perpetual state of survival is detrimental to our health, relationships, goals, and overall quality of life. Stress is a warning sign; it prepares us to survive, whether by running or fighting the threat. However, it is not a condition in which one may prosper or live life with peace. You settle for a lot less because you're frightened actually to put yourself out there. So you isolate...

When you're doing the work, but it's still difficult. We refuse to heal because we do not want to endure the unbearable pain of uncovering buried feelings, fears, and memories. You are unstoppable once you have fully immersed yourself in your truth. To avoid pain or discomfort, we typically control aspects of ourselves and our lives. Pain is unpleasant, so we do this to alleviate it. But we also d...

Tolerating the intolerable drains you spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. Have you ever been in an obviously terrible situation and felt nothing at all? Do you suffer from a lack of emotional detachment from yourself and others, resulting from your inability to feel? A few bullets I touch upon in this episode. 1.) Recognizing your childhood mantra... "Get a grip," "suck it up," and "mind over...

Have you ever thought to yourself, "How did I get here?" Why do the same friends, relationships, and events keep repeating? Almost everyone at one point in life has chosen to overlook red flags. We've suppressed our inner voice, which begged us to break up with that friend, don't marry that person, and leave that toxic job. You are not weak or stupid, but human. Trial and error will be a part of t...

I speak from my personal experiences and can say I have a Ph. D. in this topic. By becoming aware of the patterns in your relationships, you can see what exactly you are attracted to. You cannot control what you're not aware of. However, you can develop awareness and create new patterns. Why do you keep choosing the same toxic relationships over and over again? If you've been abused in previous re...

Abusive/toxic relationships makes you distrustful of others and yourself. You become sidetracked by how long you put up with a terrible relationship and environment. So guilt and humiliation rule your existence. You believe all men are bad. This kind of nice treatment is love bombing and manipulation, it can't be real. You expect guys to leave without closure or to diminish your self-worth. But ev...

If you're depressed, anxious, fatigued, or have an autoimmune disease, these are the things you should look into before medication. One of the first recommendations when dealing with depression, anxiety, fatigue, or an autoimmune disease is medication. It took over ten years to develop the information I'm about to share. This is what I did to heal myself without medication through alternative medi...

A traumatic experience impacts your perception of your life and yourself, resulting in psychological trauma. People with PTSD are continuously scared of their bodies, and they've honed their skills at ignoring gut instincts and numbing awareness of what's going on inside. By precisely placing long-acting local anesthetic (ropivacaine) around the stellate ganglion, the unproductive and chronic "fig...

Why attachment? There are many ways to be attached to things in life, like having attachments to people, emotions, jobs, image, food, and so on. Attachment typically stems from a fear of losing control. Can you make friends with the unknown and accept things as they come your way? What would happen if you lost that attachment? What fears might come true? What would be available in my life if I let...

The primary reason why individuals fail to achieve their goals is because they cannot identify a strong correlation between the desired outcome and the actual actions needed to achieve it. Outcome goals are the end results you want to accomplish, while process goals are the stages you'll need to take to get there. The outcomes goals are not always entirely predictable. The most usual issue individ...

Affirmations are useful but not always effective. Positive affirmations could even do more harm than good. I'll explain my point of view. People have a hard time believing things that they know aren't true. Bold statements will almost certainly be met with resistance, and they may even backfire, resulting in a stronger defense of one's original viewpoint. Positive affirmations do not work because...

You've probably heard that the most important relationship you have is with yourself. However, how frequently do you hear of people who are working towards that goal? We are born into this world and advised to find a life partner, but we are never taught or shown how to develop a relationship with ourselves. Treat yourself, eat some cake, get your nails done, take a bath, and love yourself….That i...

Why do we destroy the very things we want in life ? Why do we want love yet take all the wrong actions towards fulfilling that desire ? What if the things you struggle to acknowledge in others you lack within yourself? What if every failed relationship is just a reflection of the relationship with yourself? @coachkate1

Just like our physical health, everyone has mental health. Mental health and physical health go hand in hand, I believe that having one without the other and the meaning we assign to it is where I see the disconnect. Physical health is the state and functioning of your entire body, and mental health is the state of your emotions, mind and over all daily feelings. 'Mental health' and 'mental illnes...

We live in a world full of beauty standards defined by external factors like the media and society. Have you ever stopped to think what beauty standards you are personally following and why? Realizing there is a subconscious programing, that we were either born into or inherited by our external environments that shaped our thinking. Why are we following a standards that have nothing to do with our...

I love speaking in metaphors and this episode is all about when you choose to pave your own path in life. We are all on this journey called life, right? Every day we are working towards something and there is a path to that goal. The path others expect of us, or the path you know that's driven from your internal GPS. When you see roadblocks do you see a STOP signs or opportunities? When you have t...

Most motivation crumples under any test of hardship or adversity. Motivation is unreliable due the fact it relies mostly on emotions and external forces generating it. Motivation makes you feel like you can do something for the time being. While being driven keeps you in the game for the long run. Being driven is different. It's an obsession that consumes you to act regardless of your circumstance...

By challenging your current beliefs through action, will you begin to conquer your limiting beliefs. I think how anyone got from point A – to B wasn't by thinking alone, it was by taking action. Or else we would all close our eyes and be millionaires with a 6 pack by now. How do you build confidence? You do things that require you to be confident.… and eventually you become that. Of course, the me...