James Hands Awaken Therapy

In this episode I discuss how we're moving through a photon band right now, and it's having a big effect on our consciousness and bodies. Along with that, we're also entering a period of peak solar flares, which can cause fatigue, headaches, and make existing physical issues worse. It’s really important to support our bodies with exercise, good food, water, and sleep. Emotionally, I’ve noticed a l...

Today, I'm responding to a question: should you talk to your parents now that you've realised you have hidden childhood trauma? It really depends on the situation. If your trauma wasn't caused by your parents, they might be open, receptive, and supportive. But if the trauma is linked to your home environment, I recommend doing your own inner work first—give yourself as much time as needed to heal...

In this episode I want to talk with you about the importance of spirituality in our trauma healing journey. Spirituality is about the light, the higher energy of our deeper nature, our true self. If you're on a spiritual path, you may have already explored this in your own way—it's about the self that transcends the body, brain, and personality, going beyond the physical universe. Many struggle to...

In this episode I talk about the importance of error. It’s very easy, especially with trauma, to get stuck in judging our mistakes and seeing things in a negative light. There are good reasons for that because things have been so bad and challenging that we can only see the negative. But if we broaden our view, and as we move through the stuck energy and release the pain and symptoms of trauma, we...

In my experience, strong people often develop their coping strategies in childhood, especially when dealing with challenging family dynamics. They might seem weak on the surface but are actually managing a lot of energy and emotion underneath. This can manifest as being passive, timid, or overly empathetic. Interestingly, the strongest person in a family might often be the one who appears the most...

In this episode I discuss the gifts of trauma. While trauma is often seen as purely negative, facing and working through it can uncover deep strengths, resilience, wisdom, and empathy. These gifts emerge from the struggle, shaping who we become. Celebrate your journey and keep healing to uncover what you've gained, not despite but because of your experiences.   ✨The Power Of Mind – Healing Throug...

In today's episode I discuss level confusion, focusing on the gap between our current adult psychology and where our early trauma or wounding may have occurred. Trauma is just experience that hasn’t been fully digested. When triggered, we regress to that stuck part of us, whether it’s from age five, three, or even in the womb. Therapy allows us to proactively dive into these levels, not just stay...

Are you struggling with a narcissistic person in your life? This episode offers insightful strategies on managing relationships with narcissists, who are in reality driven by fear not love Learn how to respond with balanced compassion, set firm boundaries, and manage expectations without seeking resolution. Discover the importance of protecting your emotional wellbeing through visualisation techni...

In this episode, I delve into the concept of narcissism, often misunderstood and frequently misused and overused in our conversations these days. I explore narcissism from both psychological and spiritual perspectives, discussing how it manifests as extreme self-absorption, lack of empathy, and manipulative behaviours. On a spiritual level, I discuss the journey of moving towards or away from our...

In this episode I delve into the better and worse ways of viewing our childhood experiences and traumas. Often, we can get very locked into our childhood trauma and our identity as victims. This can make it difficult to move forward and heal. By focusing on both better and worse perspectives, we can break out of that stuck mindset. We naturally compare our situation to others who had it better, wh...

In this episode I explore how we might unknowingly recreate our trauma. Bessel van der Kolk, a renowned trauma expert said, “Traumatized people tend to feel numb and not alive, and they can make themselves feel alive by exposing themselves to the same situations that caused their terror.” Our body and mind adapt to trauma, creating a state where abnormal feels normal. This means that when we find...

Here we are again, delving into the next chapter of our trauma reaction series. We've already looked at the pleasing and freezing responses, and today, we're focusing on the flight or perfectionist reaction to childhood trauma. These are automatic responses that kick in when we face significant threats, leaving us with no choice in how we react. The flight response involves retreating or disengagi...

In this episode, I delve into the "Freeze" response, also known as the camouflage reaction. An automatic and instinctive survival mechanism, the freeze response can be triggered when escape or resistance is impossible. I explore how this reaction can manifest in various ways, from numbing out and dissociating to excessive sleeping or withdrawing socially. Join me to gain a compassionate understand...

Welcome back to our series on trauma reactions. Today, we're diving into the fight reaction. We've covered flight, freeze and please in previous videos and now we're focusing on the fight response. This one can be particularly challenging, especially if we get stuck in it. We'll unpack this in detail and explore it through hypnotherapy, addressing the root causes to help ease these defensive react...

In this episode, I discuss trauma processing and the benefits of hypnotherapy. Trauma, particularly from childhood, can remain unresolved and continue to affect us. Through therapy, we aim to process these experiences so they no longer interfere with our lives. Hypnotherapy, which I trained in 15 years ago, is an effective tool for addressing deep-seated issues. It helps shift our consciousness to...

In this episode, I want to take you on a plane trip. The whole point of doing therapy is clearing up the problematic ballast that keeps us stuck, allowing us to rise in our consciousness and move into the superconscious. Some people avoid their trauma by staying in the superconscious, but this is unstable. Those who face and heal their deep trauma have the strength to soar higher. A healthy root s...

In this episode I talk about the harmonised self. My old spiritual teacher used to say that the purpose of our incarnation is to unify and harmonise the higher self and the lower self. We must do our healing and spiritual work so that our higher self, or soul, is joined and harmonised with our lower human self. This allows us to live our human life with the quality, strength, love, and wisdom of o...

Today, I want to guide you through a process to help you connect with your inner warrior, tapping into the divine masculine within. We're talking about the universal energy of masculinity and its balance with the feminine. On a higher spiritual level, everything is one, but we often speak of this duality - masculine and feminine, yin and yang, light and dark, sun and moon. Both of these energies r...

In today's episode I talk about sleep—an essential third of our life where our subtle bodies leave the physical body and return to soul state. I explore the challenges of modern sleep hygiene and share a simple butterfly tapping technique to help you sleep better. Join me for a guided hypnosis session to reconnect with the spiritual world and recharge your human self. For more on self-hypnosis and...

In this episode I guide you through a comprehensive exploration of anger, its true essence, and how we can develop a healthier relationship with it. Anger, at its core, is our willpower and lifeforce. When expressed in alignment with love and integrity, anger manifests as assertiveness and boundary-setting. However, when influenced by fear and unresolved trauma, anger can turn into destructive agg...

Uncovering Hidden Childhood Trauma: Signs, Symptoms, and Steps to Healing In this episode I discuss hidden childhood trauma, its symptoms, and why understanding it is crucial for our healing journey. Unresolved childhood trauma can manifest in various ways, such as emotional regulation difficulties, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and even physical health issues. Recognising these signs allo...

Welcome to another instalment of my series on childhood trauma and our reactions to it. So far I’ve been talking about trauma, the causes of dysfunctional families and the four F's – the four different ways we can react to trauma which include fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. Fawn is another word for pleasing and in this episode I’m going to focus on the pleaser reaction to trauma and what pleaser...

In this episode, I discuss the topic of growing up in a dysfunctional family and explore the various forms this can take, impacting both childhood and adult life. Some of the more severe include addiction, abuse, neglect, mental disorders, and abandonment. These dysfunctions can significantly affect a child's development. As a psychologist, I aim to deepen the understanding of family dysfunction a...

In this episode I focus on how our various responses to childhood trauma—be it fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—can clue us into the deeper roots of our emotional and psychological challenges. My discussion revolves around the idea that understanding these trauma responses is critical not just for symptom management but for addressing the fundamental causes of our distress. By exploring the origins...

Exploring the often overlooked trauma of emotional neglect in childhood, this episode delves into how unresolved stress from lack of emotional processing can manifest as trauma. While physical or abusive traumas are more apparent, emotional neglect—the silent trauma—emerges as a pervasive issue affecting many. It’s about the stress and fear a child feels from abandonment, neglect, or lack of attun...