It's My Pleasure

With Mother’s Day coming up, I want to celebrate all of the momma’s out there who are investing in their pleasure, and talk about the specific hurdles I see for my client’s who are mother’s and the ability for them to connect with their pleasure. I want to share that as a momma myself, I see you, and I see the challenges you face. I want this episode to serve as a reminder to put yourself first, y...

I’m going to paint a picture for you. You have spent your day being a high achieving woman, taking care of your business and your kids. It’s the end of the night, and you know that you have sex on the schedule, but it’s one of the last things on your mind. You’ve made a commitment to yourself and your partner, but you are tired and aren’t thinking about sex as something that you want to do. So you...

So many of the women that listen to this podcast and who I work with in the Better Sex in 90 Days program are high achievers. They come to me and ask me for how they can make time for pleasure when they are already so busy with their careers and their families. In this episode, I am delighted to share with you a conversation I had with my friend and coach, Stacey Boehman. Stacey is one of the most...

Most of us in long-term relationships have faced that time in our lives where it feels like all desire for our partners have faded away. Trust me. It’s not you. You’re not broken. This is a natural thing that happens in our brains as we get comfortable and move through the demands and responsibilities in everyday life. But you can get it back! Just because this is normal and this is what happens,...

Let’s talk about advocacy, what it means to advocate for your own pleasure, and for that of the women in your world! If we take a look at how the landscape of mental health has changed over the past few years, it has evolved from being something hush-hush to something that we now talk about openly. And this has lead to more options, and more solutions to the problems that exist. I want to share wi...

I’ve got to be honest with you and tell you that I’m a little bit fired up, and there’s something that we can all do about it. There is something that I hear from women all the time, whether they are clients, friends, or from people on social media, I hear them say, “he only wants one thing from me”.  This is not a thought that creates an openness to desire and becoming a more turned-on woman.   L...

When was the last time you just stopped and took a second, pause it all? We live such full lives, and our brains are wired to constantly be on the lookout to keep us safe and efficient. And that’s not to mention how bombarded we are with emails, notifications, and constant distractions. All of this working together makes it difficult to connect with ourselves, our bodies, and our pleasure. Today I...

If your social media feeds are anything like mine, you’ve definitely noticed a shift in the past few years around mindset and the self-discovery journeys people are taking. However, and you may not have noticed this, but I certainly have, there doesn’t seem to be much of a shift around how we’re thinking about sexuality. For most people, they tend to have a fixed mindset around sex and what that m...

I want you to know that right now, you can start practicing the skills and going through the processes needed in order to have better sex. Yes! Right now. If you are listening to this podcast, I know it’s because you are looking to make a shift when it comes to the sex you’re having, or may not be having. You know that it’s out there; the connection to your partner, to yourself, confidence, passio...

In this episode I speak with 7 women who went through the first cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program. It was such a joy to hear updates from each of them around what the long-term results of doing this work have had on their lives. And by sharing their stories, you’ll get a chance to see just how life-changing this work can be over the 90 days and beyond If you are ready for better sex, the...

In today's episode I interview 5 incredible women that have gone through the Better Sex in 90 Days program in the most recent cohort. Their fears, hesitations and of course the sex and results they got from doing this program. I often talk about the process working through many different layers of what is holding you back from pleasure, and how to access the pleasure that is your birthright and no...

Let’s have some sex-success! In the previous episode, I shared with you why you should set intentions around the area of your pleasure and sexuality, and what that may look like for the year ahead. This episode is a continuation of that conversation in which I share with you the “how” of how to reach that success. I also want to share with you that this time in the new year can bring a feeling of...

I love the end of one year and the beginning of the next. The new year gives us a chance to reflect on what worked well and to celebrate those things! So often, we’re only looking ahead at what’s next, what’s next. In this episode, I share with you some ways to examine your sexuality this year and what may be revealed. I also share with you why it’s so important to create intentions for the new ye...

Recently, there has been a bit of "buzz" about vibrators in the community, perhaps it’s because we are in the swing of the gift-giving season. I’ve seen a lot of articles out there about sex toys and vibrators, and I realize that it’s time we talk about it here on the podcast. In this episode, I share with you why I recommend for some clients to use one, and for others to not. I also dive into som...

No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind o...

No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex comes up. In the last episode, we talked about when we should say no. And in this follow-up episode, I share with you why you shouldn’t say no, how saying no becomes an automatic response, and the kind o...

A lot of my clients have this expectation that in long-term, committed relationships, there is less pressure when it comes to sex, but oftentimes, there’s even more pressure, and it can be difficult to say no when we really should. Today I really want to talk with you more about saying no, using this word, stopping sex and when this is important for you and your pleasure, and also why it’s so damn...

This episode is part 2 of what we started to talk about last week, sexual trauma. If you haven’t yet, I would encourage you to go and listen to that episode first. We truly can’t expect to have freedom as a turned-on woman in our lives when we’re weighed down by past trauma and all the emotions that come with it. My promise to you is that I will not mention any details of sexual trauma. In this ep...

Today we are talking about trauma, and I really encourage you to listen to this one, even though it is more of a serious and heavy topic. It is a really necessary conversation we need to have as women, especially as we continue to tap into all of our potential in so many different ways. Even if you think this may not apply to you, you may still learn something about your own body and experiences....

I think it’s time we dedicate an episode to talking about one of my favorite topics, self-pleasure! When it comes to the thought of self-pleasure, shame tends to be the predominant feeling, and it comes from the ways in which we’ve been socialized and taught about enjoying our bodies. In this episode, I get into some of the specific beliefs that hinder us from being able to explore and enjoy our b...

When I say “mind-blowing sex”, what images come to mind for you? For most women, there’s an immediate image that pops in our heads that we’ve been fed through the media about what incredible sex should look like. This image in our minds forms how we think it looks, and how it feels, to be turned on and pleasured. What if I told you that this image of mind-blowing sex is actually keeping you from h...

Today’s topic may seem similar to things we’ve talked about in previous episodes, but I really wanted to simply talk about flipping the narrative about how we look at pleasure in general. So many of my clients and podcast listeners come to me to figure out how to make time in their life for pleasure and how they can squeeze in their sex life into their day. But what if instead of trying to fit it...

I talk to a lot of women every week, and one of the main things I hear is the idea that they don’t know where to get started. When you think about taking on your sex life and creating the result of having a pleasurable sex life, it can totally feel overwhelming. This feeling of overwhelm causes our brains to shut down, and we don’t even know where or how to get started. In this episode, I share wi...