It's My Pleasure

Do you ever feel closed off from receiving? Like something in you makes it so hard to open up to receiving compliments, help, pleasure or even money? Like somehow you are just repelling all the the good stuff instead of bringing it in? This is such a normal experience, especially for those socialized as women. We tend to have a knack for giving, sometimes to the point of depletion, but receiving?...

Do you feel like it is hard to fully lean into a new way of being when you aren’t exactly sure WHAT that even looks like? You aren’t alone. Often times when When we are trying to create MORE of something in our future that we aren’t experiencing right NOW it can be challenging to grapple with what that actually looks like, feels like and who we would be acting from that place. Using contrast and o...

Last week we started a conversation around the extra challenging circumstances that many mothers face and how these can can put a damper on the sex life. And to be honest, I got fired up, because these are just a handful of the OVERLOOKED ways that mother’s put pleasure on the backburner and I am tired of it. Not in a balmy - I am tired you are acting this way - more like I am tired we have been d...

As summer is upon on (at least when this episode was recorded) I am reminded often what we take on as mothers. From coaching clients who are mamas to being one myself I find so many similarities in how we approach our pleasure and the impact that motherhood has on our sex life. There are of course obvious ways that our sex life is impacted - late nights, sleep deprivation, pregnancy/post-partum, p...

However, GETTING to the place of working on your sex life is hardly easy. And it isn’t because the process is hard, it is because so many beliefs we have about sex actually make WORKING on our sex life harder than it needs to be. In this episode I share with you some of the pervasive beliefs I see that keep us from creating the most orgasmic intimate connection. Whether you are already dedicated t...

Have you ever wondered why changing your thinking is NOT making a huge difference in how you feel in your body? Like despite how much effort you make in trying to get your brain on board with the possibility of pleasure it still doesn’t seem to FEEL much different in your body? This happens a lot. Mostly because we don’t talk about the influence that the body has on the mind. Mindset and thought w...

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure podcast we break down 5 steps to help you create real change in your sex life. Making REAL change is different than being half assed about it, you are saying “oh yeah, that’d be nice” you are saying “I am ready for things to be different” and mean it. The challenge is change isn’t easy, meaning it requires effort. No it isn’t because you're lazy or you aren’...

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure Podcast the brilliant Elizabeth Salazar joins me in conversation about how impactful small shifts of the mind can be and her experience of participating in Better Sex in 90 Days. Elizabeth reminisces about listening to this podcast with her husband a few months back and reflecting on how different things are now in her sex life vs. back then. She shares some...

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I answer some of the questions I have received from you - the listeners! I chose these questions as I feel they are most relevant to many of you and I hope you are able to gain a new perspective on each topic. Listen in this week as I dive into how to become more playful, what to do if you feel like you are taking to long to become aroused and how to han...

Working on your sex life can be loads of FUN! Despite the fact that sex and pleasure tend to be is taboo topics, tied to shame and guilt, growing in this area doesn’t have to be miserable.   Talking about sex, connecting with our bodies and our partners, can be a lot of fun!   In this episode, I bring on two recent graduates of the Better Sex In 90 Days program, Brittany and Lindsay. In our conver...

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share how isolating it can feel in our struggles with sex and pleasure. Pain and suffering are a universal experience yet when we are in the midst of challenges, especially when it comes to our sex lives, it can feel like we are on an island all alone.  In this episode, I discuss loneliness, it’s impact on our pleasure, and how we can peel back from th...

Perfectionism and pleasure are oil and water. They don’t mix! Perfectionists set impossible standards for ourselves, and when we are unable to meet these expectations, we are in our heads and say mean things to ourselves. And this certainly is not an environment where pleasure can enter. I am a recovering perfectionist, and despite all the work I have done in this area of my life, it is still ther...

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure, one of my all time favorite clients Leigha May joins me to talk about her time working with me 1:1. Growing up in an extreme conservative Christian culture Leigha had already known that there were beliefs from her upbringing holding her back in her sexuality. But having done a lot of work around healing her past already there was still this sense of, ‘I guess t...

When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, or how often most people are having sex, so that they can use this as a way to see how they measure up. A lot of my clients come to me because they feel like they aren’t having sex enough, either for the...

So you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while now, and you want to take this work to the next level and it’s time to bring your partner into the conversation. Talking about pleasure and your sex life can be taboo and a bit of a minefield when bringing this up with your partner. Sex has a way of making us feel vulnerable in a way that nothing else can.    In this episode, I share with you ho...

What if there was a simple tool to help you and your partner be able to communicate better, and be able to talk about sex better? That’s the exact thing that Maggie Reyes is here to talk about today! She is a dear friend of mine and a marriage coach, who helps high-achieving women have five-star marriages. In our conversation today, we talk about just how crucial communication is for a marriage an...

On this podcast we usually talk about what we can do with our brains in order to tap into our pleasure, but I’m also interested in sharing with you other ways we can accentuate our bodies to experience greater pleasure. What if you could make some changes to your diet and it would allow you to have more pleasure and better sex? This is the exact thing that I talk about with my guest on this episod...

When you have the thought, “All he wants is sex from me, so I should want to have sex with him,” how does that feel in your body? Does that allow you to feel pleasure and lit up and turned on? Absolutely not! So many women come to me with this belief that all their partners want is sex, or that there’s a problem with them because they don’t have the same level of desire as their partner. They then...

How about a quickie?? In this short episode, I wanted to get right down to it and share 5 really quick things you can do to activate your sex life. In this podcast, I like to focus on helping you really build your mind-body connection and teach you how to use your brain to understand your mindset and the beliefs you have. We also take a look at how to create new thoughts that allow for you to feel...

I hear from clients and women all the time that they are unhappy with their sex lives, but they are afraid to do this work because of what they may find out about themselves, and how it could possibly negatively affect other areas of their lives. This was also true for my client Whitney, who has come on the podcast this week to share with you the powerful transformation she experienced through fac...

I know you have heard me talk about the transformations that my clients get, but there is something so powerful about hearing from the clients themselves and having them on to share their stories. And that is why I have invited Morgan on the podcast this week! She is a graduate of my Better Sex in 90 Days program and I have continued to see her grow through the ongoing community calls I offer to m...

I am surrounded by high achieving women who are taking it to the next level in all areas of their lives. I have clients and listeners who are expanding and growing their businesses, raising children, are actively involved in their communities, yet, they feel like something is missing. Many women have reached out to me and told me just how exhausted they are, and I get it! In this special episode I...

Sexual fantasies can be a lot of fun as something to incorporate into your pleasure and maybe even something you share with your partner. However, for many of the women I work with, fantasies bring on feelings of shame and judgement. A lot of clients are worried about what their fantasies might say about them and who they are, especially if it is out of alignment with how they view themselves. Let...

Your inner bitch. We’ve all got one. You know, that voice tells you you aren’t good enough, that makes you doubt yourself, and is so judgemental about your every move. Not only is she saying things to you when you’re having a sex session that can take you out of the moment, but also impacting your pleasure even when she is chirping in about your parenting or procrastinating or whatever else.   In...

I don’t know about you, but now that it is spring, I have been spending a lot of time in my garden recently. This has really got me thinking about the metaphor that I got from a mentor of mine that our minds are like gardens. If left unattended, weeds and plants can grow and sprawl out in ways we never imagined, causing damage and preventing our gardens from being what we truly want them to be. In...