Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd

Send us a text Even if you haven't experienced loss yourself, you know someone who has.  Whether it's your friend, sister, or family member, this episode is going to give you and inside peek into their experience and why things like being around other babies and little ones can be so very agonizing. If you have experienced loss yourself, my heart goes out to you and I hope this episode g...

Send us a text Do your friends seem uninterested, or  worse yet, discouraging of your goals? If so, here’s a few ideas & questions to consider if your dreams & desires are met with criticism and negativity from the ones you love. Listen in to hear: * how you might be a part of the problem * why sharing your plans with the wrong people is a form of self-sabotage * what you need to know if y...

Send us a text Someone told me once that I need to be bigger, louder and more exciting my work.  Here's why I decided to ignore them, how I leaned into my quietness instead and why I think there's not much out there that's stronger than softness. You’ll get to hear about: * the criticism I'm glad I ignored * why the things you don't like about yourself might be some of you...

Send us a text If you ever catch yourself dimming down your good news, not letting yourself get too excited, or thinking about all the what if’s and what could go wrong when you’re in the midst of something really good, this episode is for you. You’ll get to hear about: * why resisting joy is often a trauma response * why waiting for the show to drop makes us feel safer but actually causes bigger...

Send us a text As a couple's therapist, I've had a unique opportunity to peek inside relationships from a different, neutral viewpoint and to be able to really hear that guys are often trying to tell their partners.   In today's episode I'm sharing 5 themes that have come up time and time again. Listen in  and see which one of these hits home for you. Sign ups are open for  our...

Send us a text Do you ever get mad or annoyed when you have to say no to someone?  Like you're angry that they would even put you in the position of having to say no? The discomfort & anxiety that comes with boundary setting can sometimes send us into one of two positions:  staying silent to keep the peace or blowing up because you just can't take it anymore. I'm here to tell yo...

Send us a text Ever have someone who feels entitled to your time & energy?  Today I'm doing a Q & A episode all about dealing with someone who wants way more than you can - or want  - to give to them. Listen in to hear about: ** dealing with people who feel entitled to your time  ** the thinking trap that keeps us over-giving  ** how to release the guilt of saying no ** a reframe to r...

Send us a text I am recording this from a train station in Berlin, where I am now stuck for the next few hours.  So I thought this would be a good time to tell you about the tools I've been using to stop myself from freaking out when everything is going wrong today. Listen in to hear about: ** the questions I ask when I need to calm myself down ** the tools I use to stop an anxiety spiral **...

Send us a text The worst times of loneliness in my life weren't the times when I was alone.  They were when I was surrounded by people who didn't get me.  So it's not just that we need to be around people, it's that we need to be around the RIGHT people.   If you have ever felt alone in a crowd, this episode is for you. In today's episode, you'll hear about: ** the hi...

Send us a text If you've ever lost sleep thinking about how to better explain your point of view so people understand you better... if you ever say yes to things you don't want to do because you're worried what people will say about you if you say no... if you ever avoid taking action on something because other people don't understand or support your goals, this episode is for...

Send us a text I used to think changing my mind was a bit flakey and irresponsible.  I would sometimes see it as sign that I had made a mistake or made the wrong decision.  I now see the act of changing course to be one of the most powerful and essential requirements of living a fulfilled, honest and authentic life. In today's episode, you'll hear about: **how perfectionism locks us into...

Send us a text Do you see your sensitivity as a flaw or problem to be fixed?  Do you ever catch yourself wishing you could just toughen up and be more like those people who seem to be totally unaffected by the same things that you find to be really upsetting, depleting or draining? In today's episode, you'll hear about: ** how I used to see my sensitivity as a problem and embarrassment  ...

Send us a text Ever try to shame yourself into staying put or staying quiet by using gratitude against yourself? “Being grateful” can be great, but not when you use it as a self-attack or a tool to stuff down what you’re feeling and what you need. If you’ve ever felt a deep longing for something more…but felt like you shouldn’t want more.. Or been feeling like something is missing… but maybe you s...

Send us a text I am recording this episode from my hotel room in Morocco where I felt the need to share with you some things that have been triggering me and helping me grow on this trip. In today's episode you'll hear about: ** what's been triggering me ** self-sabotage and playing safe ** why we resist the good stuff  ** how "waiting for the other shoe to drop" blocks ou...

Send us a text If you're feeling frustrated, annoyed or you've fallen into a negative place with your partner, this episode is for you. In today's episode you'll hear about: ** how to instantly flip a negative issue in your relationship ** a new way to clear conflict & stop resentment from building ** the ONE question that will change the way you see your partner If you lov...

Send us a text Boundary setting is so much more than just setting limits- it's also dealing with the possible backlash and risk of conflict.  But their pushback is often more complicated than we think- and easy to deal with than we often imagine. In today's episode you'll hear about: ** 5 reasons why people may react badly to your boundaries ** some ways you can get past the pushbac...

Send us a text Diet Culture makes us feel like we're failing if we're not trim enough or toned enough.  Body Positivity can make us feel like we're failing if we don't *love* every inch of ourselves or want to change the way we look. All of it is a bit of a set up for disaster- that avoids the bigger underlying issue. In today's episode you'll hear about: ** a 3rd opt...

Send us a text If we are going to connect really , then we have to risk being seen & known.  But what happens when you feel like maybe you shared too much?  If you have ever walked away from a conversation or group conversation only to replay it all in your head and wish you could take some of it back, this episode is for you. In today's episode you'll hear about: ** how to stop spir...

Send us a text Ever had someone claim to "just being honest" in order to justify what feels like a  full fledge emotional attack on you?   Has anyone ever accused you of being rude or out of line when you felt like you were just trying to politely speak up for yourself?  In today's episode I'm talking about the difference between being assertive and being aggressive and sharing...

Send us a text How many relaxed women do you know?  How many women do you know who truly move in flow, who are lit up, well rested, easy going and fully thriving?  I'm back from my unplanned break and so excited to talk with you today about the goal of being a Relaxed Woman, how I surrendered to slowing down and why your self-care is an act of service to those around you. In this episode you&...

Send us a text Do you carry more than your fair share of the work at home?  Does it feel like your partner doesn't even seem to be bothered by the fact that you're pretty much doing everything yourself, while they sit on the couch and enjoy another guilt-free episode of their favourite show? If you've been dealing with an under-functioning partner, this episode is for you. I've...

Send us a text What do you do when you set boundaries with someone and they don't follow through with them?  In today's Q & A we're talking about some ways to create stronger boundaries and how to hold people accountable when they continue to push past them. You'll learn: ** what makes people overstep your boundaries ** how to see if the problem is you or them ** what to do...

Send us a text Does your partner just tell you want you want to hear, promise to make changes but then keep doing the same old thing?  Is there someone in your life that you keep having the same issue with over and over? Today's Q & A is about the relationship traps that keep you stuck and the questions you really need to ask yourself if you and your partner are stuck in gridlock. Listen...

Send us a text In today's episode I'm answering all your questions about the Reset Your Mindset coaching group. We're starting May 3 and I cannot wait. If you want to spend some time investing in your own healing and growth, and connecting with other women who are doing this same, this invitation is for you. 8 wonderful, kind and personal-development-loving women have already signed...

Send us a text How easy is it for you to ask for support?    How comfortable to you feel receiving help? Do you ever get triggered or bothered by other people asking for help?  In today's episode I'm talking about how we navigate giving & receiving in a culture that tells us not to be a burden. I'm also sharing the times when it feels easy and the times when I've been trigg...