Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd

Send us a text Hello Beautiful People. I hope you are free on Sunday because I have something wonderful for you.  I'm hosting our next guided breathwork experience Sun. Oct. 16 @ 10 am- 11:15 New York/ Toronto time.   This is for you if: ** you need to calm your nervous system ** you could use some deep level healing  ** you've been carrying old stories and old hurts that you're rea...

Send us a text Have you ever opted out of telling your partner or friend what you actually want from them, by deciding that "they should already know" what you need?  If this feels familiar,  this episode is for you.  Listen in to hear about: how we sabotage relationships by avoiding speaking up and being known how you may be confusing someone's love for you, with their ability to m...

Send us a text I've just recently ended a chapter in my life and I can feel my system processing A LOT.    One of the things I've been thinking of is how living abroad has changed me. I've been thinking about the most useful stuff I've learned from living life literally outside my comfort zone.  So I wanted to share with you 3 things that I'm taking with me with from that...

Send us a text Have you heard of mental load?  It's the invisible work you behind the scenes- the planning, the organizing, the keeping it all straight in your head of who needs what when.  And it's often the culprit of why you're so tired, cranky and even resentful.  Listen in to hear about: how to shift the work balance in your home the one shift that will save you massive time &a...

Send us a text "Clean enough to be healthy, messy enough to be happy."   What comes up for you when you read this?  What if instead of feeling like we should be keeping our home picture perfect "just in case someone comes by," we started letting our homes be what they were meant to be- a place to feel safe, sheltered and happy.  Listen in to hear about: chasing peace over perfe...

Send us a text If you have ever found yourself shape-shifting, over-obliging and doing things you don't want to do, this episode is for you. Listen in to hear about: the unspoken social costs of boundary setting & speak up why we care so much what other people think of us questions to ask yourself when you're spiralling into self-doubt **FREE WORKBOOK** **THE QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSEL...

Send us a text Over-whelmed or going through a lot right now?  This episode is for you. We're talking about 3 things you need to consider when your plate is really full or  you're going through a heavy, difficult time.  Listen in to hear: why I haven't been recording podcasts lately what's been keeping me sane through loss, big emotional stuff & huge life transitions 3 shif...

Send us a text If you're trying to decide whether you should go talk it out or just stay quiet, this episode is for you.   Listen in to hear: what you need to ask yourself before you try to talk it out with someone how to know if it's worth the time & energy it takes to put yourself out there how to make hard conversations a whole lot easier if you do decide to speak up GET GOOD AT B...

Send us a text Shopping for a therapist is liking looking for new shoes.  They're got to be the right fit for you. Here's some red flags to look for when you're starting therapy or wondering if you should leave your current therapist to find someone new.   Listen in to hear: bad behaviour & warning signs to look out for the therapist who ate her lunch & texted during my ther...

Send us a text Ever feel like you and your partner are on VERY different pages?  In today's episode I'm sharing some thoughts & questions to ask yourself when you and your partner disagree on something that really matters to you. Listen in to hear: the steps you need to take before trying to talk about it questions to help you get clear on the root issue how to get your partner to he...

Send us a text Is your system usually pretty calm, present & relaxed, or are you one of the many people who are living in a chronic state of overwhelm, anxiety and over-doing? In today's episode we're diving into what it means to be a Relaxed woman, what stops us from getting there and and why this is the goal that impacts every other goal in your life. This episode will help you: be...

Send us a text When someone shows you who they are, you need to believe them.  But so often, we go to great lengths to stuff things down, keep the peace & make excuses when we're being mistreated. Listen in to hear about:  how we try to talk ourselves out of being angry the lie of "taking the high road." how you can be kind both to other people AND to your own self why we feel g...

Send us a text Does it bother you when it seems like someone doesn't like you?   Most of us were conditioned from an early age to believe that it was a problem if someone didn't like you, like somehow you had get them to see how great you are or repair any possible misunderstanding.  But as adults, this means we can waste a lot of our precious time and energy hustling for the approval an...

Send us a text Does it feel like you and your partner are on different pages when it comes to having hard conversations with family?   How do you address boundary issues as a couple?  This stuff can be such tricky territory so today I'm sharing 3 questions you need to ask yourself before you try to set boundaries as a couple.  These questions will help you: get on the same page with your need...

Send us a text What kind boundary breaches drive you crazy?  What sort of behaviour or expectations just feels selfish or inconsiderate?   What feels oblivious, rude or inconsiderate to you? Today we're talking about 7 different examples of boundary breaches,  why these might be warning signs of a bigger problem and how to tidy up your own accidental boundary crossings. Here's what you&a...

Send us a text Creeps.  We've all encountered them.  They're the ones who seem to actually ENJOY making us uncomfortable.  The ones who do or say sexist or sexual things as a strange form of bullying- which is called sexual harassment btw. ( source. ) If you've ever had to deal with a creep, or just someone who really seems to like pushing past your boundaries, this episode is for y...

Send us a text Does it feel like you have to try to stay 2 steps ahead of everything?  Like you have to figure out how you want to handle a situation that might not even happen, or plan out what to say in a future conversation,  or decide exactly how you feel about a choice that you don't even need to make yet? If so today's episode is for you.  Listen in to hear about: the two reasons y...

Send us a text Is every week a busy week in your world?  Are you tired of being tired?  If you keep telling yourself, "after this week things will slow down," but they never slow, down...this episode is for you. I’m chatting with Sadie Tichelaar who is a life coach for creative business folk who are tired of being tired and ready to do less, be more and still thrive.  And she has so many...

Send us a text How much do you take on of what’s happening to other people?  How much should you take on?   If you tend to get wrapped up in the problems of the people you know and love, or are currently feeling the weight of all the suffering that's happening in the world right now and bouncing between anguish, anxiety & avoidance,  this episode is for you. In this episode we’re talking...

Send us a text Ever found yourself at a loss of words when someone says something inappropriate or hurtful?  We've all been there, so in today's episode I'm sharing some tips & tricks to help you keep your cool and to show up with a little grace in the moments when you need to protect your peace. Listen in to hear about: *  some tricks and tips to protect your peace of mind when...

Send us a text I am so excited to introduce our first guest on the podcast!   Courtney Boyer is a clinically trained sex therapist turned Energetic Sexpert & Clarity Coach and she and I just had the most interesting & fun conversation about physical intimacy, sexual empowerment & keeping desire going in long term relationships. Listen in to hear about: ** the number one thing that Cour...

Send us a text It is so uncomfortable & unsettling when you know you are the target of someone's unkind criticism and scrutiny.  If this cringey, unjust feeling is familiar to you, today's episode is for you. You'll hear about: * the surprising question you need to ask yourself  (it's not what you think.) * why other people's judgements have so much power over us * how...

Send us a text We're often taught to think of failure as a bad thing, as though anything less than bringing home the trophy or collecting all the gold stars is somehow embarrassing and shameful... as if missing the mark and failing at something somehow means that we ARE failures. But actually the opposite is true. Failure, face-plants and humbling disappointments are essential and inevitable...

Send us a text If you're considering cutting ties with a toxic friend or partner, but you catch yourself thinking about giving them a second, third or fourth chance, this episode is for you. Listen in to hear about: * the thinking trap that makes you allow toxic people back into your life * how to stop guilt from making you forgive when you should be trying to forget * some new ways to think...

Send us a text If you've been spirally into "what ifs" and anxious thinking, press play on this episode and hear about the strategy I use when I catch myself spinning, stressing and worrying. Listen in to hear: * the question I ask myself to get myself grounded and back in control * how to connect to your power & get calm during times of uncertainty and stress * what to do when...