Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd

Send us a text A few years back, my partner and I went through a phase where we were stuck in unresolved fights and unfinished conversations.  As someone trained in couples counselling, you can only imagine how crazy making this was for me. I realized along the way, that many. of the things I had been taught about relationships and couple's communication were actually making my own conflicts...

Send us a text If it ever feels like you're talking to a brick wall when you're trying to resolve an issue with your partner, this episode is for you.  I've created a free new mini-course to help you help your partner to get out of defensiveness and be able to stay more present during important conversations and today I'm sharing some of the insights and information from our fi...

Send us a text Acceptance doesn't mean I'm okay with what happened.  It means I accept what my reality is so that I can begin to do what I need to do to get myself through it or respond to what is happening.  If you are feeling like you are having a hard time accepting something that has happened in a relationship, the loss of someone you love or something that meant a lot to you, this e...

Send us a text Not sure if you should stay or go?  This week's episode is for you.  I'm walking you through some important questions that will help you get clear on whether your relationship is just going through a rough patch or has reached the end of the road. Want some help to get your partner to hear you out? Sign up for the free "Make Fighting Easier" 5 Day Training . Regi...

Send us a text Do you have someone in your life who is drinking too much or into something you're really not okay with? In this week's podcast episode I'm sharing some shifts to make that will help you to set better boundaries and protect your own peace of mind.   Listen in to hear:   ** when ultimatums backfire ** what to stop doing when you're dealing with someone in denial *...

Send us a text Many of us have been socially conditioned to be really uncomfortable with anger- especially our own.  When something happens that upsets us, we often try to talk ourselves out of being angry as quickly as possible, instead of fully addressing the issue. Listen in to hear about the 3 benefits of anger: * boundaries *self-protection * fuel for change   **FREE BOUNDARY SETTING WORKBOOK...

Send us a text Have you outgrown your old circle?  Moved to a new town?  Maybe you're one of the 36 % of people who report being seriously lonely or like one of the 58 % Americans who feel like no one really knows them. In today's episode I'm sharing some ways to make making friends easier when you're juggling a busy schedule and limited energy. Listen in to hear about: * creat...

Send us a text Ever feel like you freeze up when you have a tough decision to make?  Like in one moment, you feel clear on what you need to do, but in the next moment you get hit with all the "what ifs" and suddenly you're back into the spiral of self-doubt and anxiety? Today I'm sharing the reason why you get stuck and how you can start to get some momentum going in the direct...

Send us a text Stop labelling the things you don't like about yourself as flaw and shortcomings.  Just because you wish something was different about yourself, doesn't mean it's wrong, weird or broken.   Logically, we know we're not seeking perfection, but many of us are carrying invisible standards and expectations in our own heads that say "yeah but you should be doing b...

Send us a text Ever feel like maybe if you could just toughen up,  care less, or be less impacted, that you could totally fix things and everything would be okay? A lesson I'm still learning is to soften when the world wants me to toughen up, to treat my emotions as important sparks of data and information, instead of character flaws and personal shortcomings.  I have wasted years of my life...

Send us a text When do you it owe to someone (or yourself)  to try to talk it out or explain your position, and when is it okay to just walk away and let it go? There's so much talk in the therapy and personal development world that says "just talk it out," but there's times when I believe that this advice is counter productive, potentially damaging or just an unnecessary use o...

Send us a text I believe that you can't control what happens to you but you can change who you become.  And this is mostly true for me.  Loss has changed me in some ways that have been very intentional and some that have just sort of happened to me, that I know how to manage and work against.  I'm simultaneously braver AND more afraid of everything. I'm more loving AND l put up with...

Send us a text Today I'm sharing the 4 lessons that had the biggest impact on my life and relationships in 2022.  Some of these I've been circling around for a while, some shook me upside down, but these lessons have changed the way I live, work and feel at a deep level. ** BOUNDARY SETTING SCRIPTS & TIPS** **SET BETTER BOUNDARIES** Download the workbook and use these questions to fi...

Send us a text If you've left a social situation or interaction wondering- is the problem here me?  Am I the one causing the tensions here?  Am I being too difficult, sensitive or reactive here?   Listen in to today's episode to unpack the 3 Questions you need to ask to figure out what part of the problem is you- and what part belongs to them.  *THE BOLD AS LOVE COLLECTION STARTS JAN. 20...

Send us a text There's a few strategies & questions that have drastically changed the level of stress, overwhelm and frustration that I live with.  If you are feeling run down, over-worked and spread too thin, or you just want to feel even more calm and present in your life, this episode is for you. Listen in to today's episode to hear: the questions I started asking myself to be les...

Send us a text If someone important is missing from your holiday table this year, this episode is for you. Here's a few thoughts and ideas to take with you as we move through this incredibly difficult time of year. Learn more about the Love & Loss Project here: www.lovelossproject.com **FREE BOUNDARY SETTING WORKBOOK** **SET BETTER BOUNDARIES** Use these questions to figure out: * if you...

Send us a text Are you feeling a bit nervous about having guests possibly over staying their welcome or draining your social battery?  If so today's episode is for you. Listen in to today's episode to hear: how to protect your time & peace of mind how to set limits without causing hurt feelings the plan B you always need to have in your back pocket **FREE BOUNDARY SETTING WORKBOOK**...

Send us a text Do you have someone in their life who makes everything all about them?  Who seems to lack consideration or concern for how they're impacting others?  Who place themselves as the victim of every situation and take offence to everything? If so, you may be dealing with someone who is Emotionally Immature. Listen in to today's episode to hear: how to get out of the trap they&a...

Send us a text There's a few reasons we get stuck in over-drive, over-working and over-giving.  Once you know your pattern it becomes easier to break it.  **NEW GROUP STARTS NOV. 25 RESET YOUR MINDSET -  A 2 week healing experience for over-thinkers & over-doers Get the details here. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about? Message me and let me know. email april@lovelosspr...

Send us a text Learn to stop over-thinking and chill out. **NEW GROUP STARTS NOV. 25 RESET YOUR MINDSET -  A 2 week healing experience for over-thinkers & over-doers Get the details here. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about? Message me and let me know. email april@lovelossproject.com Instagram  @with.love.april https://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/ Sign up to get tips &...

Send us a text Want to get your partner to do more at home?  Today I'm sharing 3 ways to get your partner to lean in & participate more in the needs of the household.  **NEW GROUP STARTS NOV. 25 RESET YOUR MINDSET -  A 2 week healing experience for over-thinkers & over-doers Get the details here. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about? Message me and let me know. email...

Send us a text How confident have you been feeling lately?  In your body, your relationships, your life?  Many of us, especially women struggle to feel good enough, while simultaneously being afraid of seeming too cocky and full of ourselves. Listen in to today's episode to hear: the one question you need to start asking yourself to raise your confidence how other people's confidence use...

Send us a text You maybe saw that I was recently away at a couple's therapy training and man oh man it was so good.   I had been wanting to do a training with the Gottman Institute for a while, because they are such powerful forces in the world of couple's therapy.  The Gottman's have studied 3000 couples over the course of 40 years.  And they've been able to predict with 90% a...

Send us a text How well do you listen to the needs & wants of your body?  Do you follow your gut instincts, or strict rules from some external source?  Michelle Stevens from My Body My Queen joins us today to share about body compassion, energy management and living with chronic health issues and ditching diet culture. Listen in to hear about: the near death experience that caused her to ditch...

Send us a text When should you put other people's needs above your own?  When is it over-giving and do you just need to take one for the team? Listen in to hear about: the trick my partner & I use to avoid over-giving to each other strategies I've learned to help me cope with situations that tax me  the one question that keeps me chill and sane and uncomfortable situations **FREE WOR...