Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd

Send us a text Have you ever felt like a change as small as a new hat could throw your entire circle of friends into a tailspin?  In this episode I'm sharing how a questionable fashion choice revealed the unspoken rules that my friends and I were putting on each other without realizing it.    So today, we're peeling back the curtain of comfort provided by your closest relationships to re...

Send us a text I was working in a coffee shop the other day when I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between the two women sitting next to me.   Listening to this meeting between a boss and junior employee, I was struck by how hard to the younger woman was working to be the "okay maker," to remain pleasant, accepting and tolerant of the utter nonsense of this conversation sh...

Send us a text Ever felt like conversations with your friends are running on a loop, touching the surface but never getting into the stuff that actually matters?   If you're finding resistance when you try to go deeper, if you find yourself holding back parts of yourself, and staying quiet when you're tempted to share more about your thoughts, your creations or what you really want, beca...

Send us a text As I was at the movie theatre last night, I noticed a strange little habit that I was doing mentally, a habit that I've probably done a million times without realizing it. It got me thinking about beauty standards, competition among women and how much time and energy so many women spend hating on themselves. In this episode we're talking about beauty standards, self-critic...

Send us a text What would change if you started treating your own wellness, aliveness and vitality as if they were really important things to nurture and to care about?  Many of us go through our weeks and lives acting like our own needs don't really matter- that we don't really matter.  We focus more on just getting things done and just getting through, instead of actually enjoying our...

Send us a text Ever found yourself tongue-tied when an aunt passes judgment on your career choices or your mother in law shots a passive aggressive arrow your directions?   Many of us are moving through the holidays with a lot of anxiety and dread as we know we are going to be confronted by some of the people who most push our buttons, get under our skin and who may seem to even enjoy offending us...

Send us a text Are you finding it hard to keep up with the chaos of life, feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list? This time of year is especially crazy, particularly for women who do most of the behind the scenes to make the holidays magical for everyone else.  I'm April Boyd, and in this conversation, I promise to guide you on how to sort through the madness, prioritize tasks, and most impor...

Send us a text Ever just try harder when you get the vibe that someone doesn't like you?  I used to take someone not liking me as a sign that I just need to try harder, be nicer, clear up whatever misunderstanding had occurred.  Since then I've realized 3 things that helped me to stop caring too much about what other people think of me , stop wasting so much time and energy trying to fig...

Send us a text Ever feel like you're drowning in your to-do list? Let's change that. I’m April Boyd, and I’ll guide you to declutter your commitments and redefine what truly needs your attention.  When life becomes a relentless pursuit of "getting things done," it's time to reassess.  In today's episode, I'm sharing the 5 shifts I made that have helped me to feel...

Send us a text Have you ever noticed that the first question we often get asked as women when we're meeting someone new is "so do you have kids?"   Our identity as parents - or lack thereof- at times seems to function as a social filter of inclusion and measuring stick of our worth and goodness in a culture where motherhood appears to be held as the standard of healthy womanhood.  ...

Send us a text I recently canceled three commitments within ten days and it felt amazing.  Do you ever feel like you'd just love a night to slow down or an afternoon to yourself, but it doesn't feel like it's okay to cancel or rock the boat?    In this episode, I share my own journey of breaking free of people-pleasing and over-functioning.  the immense relief that came with it. Thi...

Send us a text We've all been there - stuck in an recurring argument with our partner, feeling unheard and misunderstood and never getting to the bottom of things.  Did you know that 69% of your fights with your partner are unresolvable? World renowned couple's therapists and researchers, the Gottmans, have identified that nearly 2/3 of our conflicts with our spouse are Gottman are what...

Send us a text Are you feeling weighed down by a friendship but can't seem to pinpoint why? Are you left drained after every interaction but can't decide if it's them or you?  Are you thinking it may be time to let this friend go?    Here's your chance to gain clarity. In this deep-dive episode of the 'Is it Me or Is it them?' Podcast, we go through 5 questions you ne...

Send us a text Ever feel like people are judging you or thinking negative things about you?  If you often find yourself feeling self-conscious about what others are thinking or saying about you, today's episode is for you. I'm sharing the one habit that you probably don't realize you're even doing- but that massively fuels your fear of judgement and causes a huge increase in so...

Send us a text  Is there a project, goal or change you just can't seem to find time for?  You are not alone.  For years I wanted to write my book and for years, it stayed at the very bottom of my to-do, making me feel guilty and stressed.   This year I got honest with myself about what was really getting in the way of getting this thing done and subsequently got untangled from the lies that w...

Send us a text You know those moments when everything just clicks? That was me during a recent breathwork session – a transformative, 30-minute experience that rocked my world.  We often talk about releasing trauma, but this time, I felt a powerful need to claim it, recognizing these experiences as part of my human journey. Yes, healing is challenging and, paradoxically, we often resist doing what...

Send us a text Do you ever find yourself trapped in a cycle of overthinking and second guessing yourself?  Like when you have an unpleasant interaction with someone and you just can't seem to let it go and instead obsess over it for days?  Or you lie awake at night weight out the pros and cons for a potential opportunity, without ever getting the peace and clarity you're trying so hard t...

Send us a text Does it feel like your time belongs more to other people than it does to you?  Do you ever feel like you're spending your days just trying to keep up with everything that needs done?   Do you never seem to have enough time to do the things that truly matter to you?   If that sounds all too familiar, join me as I share five powerful questions that will not only help you regain c...

Send us a text Do you feel anxious or stressed when someone doesn't like you? In today's episode, we unpacking the mistaken beliefs that cause us to care way too much about what other people think of us and exploring the freedom that comes with being true to ourselves, even when we face disapproval. Our brains are wired to care about others' opinions, but it's time to take back...

Send us a text Being disliked and misunderstood is a really unpleasant phenomenon for most of us.  As social  creatures, we're hard wired to care what other people think of us.  But when we let our fear of being disliked run the show and guide our decisions, we end up wasting a lot of precious time and energy trying to control what other people think of you. And often- the other person doesn&...

Send us a text Have you ever been in a situation where someone said or did something that wasn't okay but instead of speaking up and putting them in check, you went silent and submissive? This happens to all of us and in today's episode I'm sharing the 3 reasons why and how we can start to get quicker and more confident in defending ourselves and others, when someone is out of line....

Send us a text Ever find yourself apologizing, even though you weren't the one who did something wrong?  Listen in to today's episode to hear about: ** the conversation I just overheard that made me want to pull my hair out ** why we need to stop over-apologizing and claim a little more self-respect ** how to set better boundaries with someone who is being an inappropriate or abusive jer...

Send us a text Other people often have no idea whats best for you, but that doesn't always stop them from giving their opinion.  In today's episode, I'm sharing 3 things to consider when outside voices are making it hard to hear your own gut instincts. P.S. FREE MINI-COURSE: GET YOUR PARTNER TO HEAR YOU I've created a free new mini-course to help you help your partner to get ou...

Send us a text If you've been feeling like you've been doing more than your fair share of the work at home, you are not alone.   So today I'm sharing a few ideas to consider before you burn out- or blow up on your partner.  P.S. FREE MINI-COURSE: GET YOUR PARTNER TO HEAR YOU I've created a free new mini-course to help you help your partner to get out of defensiveness and be abl...

Send us a text Ever had your world turned upside down because of someone else's decision or bad behaviour?  In today's episode I'm sharing a few really powerful mindset shifts that one of my client's is using to navigate a really terrible and unfair situation. Listen in to hear:     **why trying to prove your goodness will make you miserable     ** what you can and can't c...