Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd

Send us a text Are you in a relationship someone who doesn't seem to carry their weight? Ever found yourself wondering if the trade-offs in your relationship are worth it? Today we're unpacking some of the difficult decisions and dynamics of life with an under-functioning partner.  Listen in to learn: how to tell the difference between your needs & wants. decision-making tips for kno...

Send us a text In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them? , therapist & coach April Boyd explores the tension and frustration that arise in relationships when someone doesn't get you- and doesn't seem to want to.  Whether you're navigating challenging dynamics with family, in-laws, or friends, this conversation sheds light on how to stop chasing external validation and reclaim y...

Send us a text If I had to pick the one question that has made the biggest difference in my life, my self-esteem and my social circle- this might be the one.   This episode invites you to reflect on your relationships, work and life with one really simple check in. Listen in to hear: •Why we stay stuck in unhealthy relationships & friendships • How accepting unacceptable behaviour can weigh us...

Send us a text Ever wonder why some individuals persistently disregard your boundaries, or don't seem to care if they are having a negative impact on you? Setting boundaries with difficult people can transform your relationships and preserve your emotional well-being and so today I'm sharing 5 important boundary reminders that are going to help you: ** feel less guilty for setting limits...

Send us a text Have you been feeling unmotivated, a bit burnt out or low energy lately?  Have you been feeling like you just don't want to do anything?  Sick of working so hard?  You're not the only one. Join me, April Boyd, as I share personal reflections on our latest episode about embracing the season of rest.  This episode is a heartfelt invitation to recognize that personal growth d...

Send us a text There seems to be so much advice that tells us to "talk it out," but what we seem to overlook is that talking it out comes with very real risks.  There's a reason so many of us try so hard to avoid conflict and keep the peace- and it's not because of a lack of communication skills or self-confidence.  While communication is great and necessary for healthy relatio...

Send us a text Ever find yourself holding back with your friends?   Like maybe you shy away of sharing your accomplishments, or you downplay your gifts, hide your true ambitions, or basically just feel like you have to dial parts of yourself down when you're with them? Listen into the episode as I share how confidence and competition sometimes impact our connections with other women and why w...

Send us a text Miscarriage and infant loss are heart-wrenching subjects that are often met with silence in our society.  Listen in to this episode to hear: what NOT to say practical ideas for support that are meaningful and useful what it means to hold space what kind of support people actually want to receive  Join me, April Boyd, as we navigate the challenging terrain of grief and loss, not just...

Send us a text Ever had that gut feeling that something just wasn't right, but you ignored it?  I recently ignored my intuition about someone, and doing so left me stranded at the side of the road- literally.  In this episode of "Is it Me or Is it Them," I share some important reminders: vibes never lie how to listen to your instincts why you should never lower your standards for ho...

Send us a text Does it weigh on you when someone just doesn't like you?  Do you catch yourself questioning your worth and actions?  Or trying harder to be liked? Before you start chasing the approval of someone who you know doesn't like you and is not-so-secretly judging you, try asking yourself this one question instead. This is going to help you to break the cycle of people pleasing an...

Send us a text I turned 45 this year! Yay!   It was so interesting to notice how frequently people asked me how I felt about getting older, like they were half expecting this to be some kind of crisis or problem. So in today's episode I'm sharing some reflections on getting older and unpacking some truths and myths about aging.   Spoiler alert:  the best is yet to come! But if you'r...

Send us a text How do you handle a friend or loved one who constantly unloads their problems on you, but never seems willing to make any changes?   Perhaps you've spent hours listening and trying to be supportive, while they reject every attempt you make to help them get unstuck and now you're starting to get frustrated and annoyed. If you have someone in your life who seems to be misera...

Send us a text Ever found yourself in a difficult situation with someone as you realize that you each had wildly different expectations of each other that just don't match up? Like... Finding out the hard way that not only are you not on the same page, but you're not even in the same book. Realizing that you assumed they saw things the same way you did, but it's become very clear th...

Send us a text In this episode, I share a piece of advice my sister gave me  about how to treat myself better, raise my standards and improve my quality of life one with one tiny upgrade. Have you ever considered how small upgrades in your daily environment can drastically boost your mood and momentum?  Today we're talking about how to make one tiny change that will reduce the frustration and...

Send us a text What do you do when someone refuses to acknowledge their wrongdoing? Often times, we can find ourselves trying to explain and justify why you're hurt or how they've harmed you, hoping that if you can just get them to understand and acknowledge what they did to you, that you'll be able to move on. However, when someone refuses to see your point of view, and won't...

Send us a text Ever felt like you need to change your body before you can feel free to enjoy your life?  Like you go to the beach but hide under a towel?  Or you get invited to a pool party but all you feel is dread?   Today we’re talking about the thinking traps that stop us from feeling more confident and free in our bodies and how we hold ourselves back from having fun and living fully.  I’m sh...

Send us a text Ever find yourself at a crossroads, paralyzed by what your future might hold if you choose one path over another?    Or worried that one day you'll look back on your life with regret and mourn your missed opportunities? Today we are unravelling the complex web of life's decisions and the daunting fear of regret that often lurks behind our choices.   We're diving deep...

Send us a text Have you ever found yourself hesitantly mumbling 'yes' when every fiber of your being was screaming 'no'? Welcome to the club. I'm April Boyd, and in our latest episode, we navigate the tricky waters of upholding our own boundaries without compromising the commitments and relationships we cherish.  I'm sharing how to distinguish between when you're...

Send us a text Today,  we pull back the layer of an over-scheduled life to see what is really going on with that part of us that can't slow down, can't relax and has somehow managed to turn even "self-care" into something to excel at.  Listen in to hear about: * why you turn even the things that are enjoyable into a chore * what it looks like when you are in the energy of anxie...

Send us a text Why are so many women downplaying their brilliance, their skills and procrastinating on their big dreams? Imposter syndrome is a word that gets thrown around a lot in the personal development world and while there are times when I'm speaking to to someone who is truly doubting and disconnecting from their capabilities, often what I see is a women who knowns deep down that she&a...

Send us a text Ever avoid doing something you really want to do because you're worried you're going to be judged or feel like you're not good enough? Like maybe you want to start going to the gym but you're afraid people will look at you like you don't belong there... Or maybe there's a dream you've always wanted to go after but you're embarrassed to tell yo...

Send us a text Ever catch yourself doubting your instincts or second guessing your decisions?   Ever feel like you've outgrown a relationship or situation but you stick around anyway? Ever feel like you know in your gut that something's not good for you but you keep toughening it out anyway? In today's episode I'm breaking down what the real issue is that makes it hard to trust...

Send us a text Today we have a special guest!  And I got to tell you, I have never laughed so much while talking about really hard topics.    Tuck Cornelius is a comedian, artist, poet, filmmaker and trans rights advocate who bends steel and breaks stereotypes.  He's joining us today for a conversation about defying social expectations, surviving traumatic things and having the audacity to be...

Send us a text Have you ever felt the world spinning a little too fast, leaving you gasping for a moment of peace? I certainly did, and that's why I took an unexpected step back from the show to move from juggling all the things to prioritizing on the necessary things.  We're talking about how to find some 'white space' in our routine and creating a life that isn't just ab...

Send us a text Have you ever noticed how there's a change that you want to make,  you make a declaration, you say now's the time I'm going to start to take this seriously, I really need to get my act together, and you go all in, but soon it all falls flat?  Often we find ourselves right back in the same place where we started, feeling totally defeated and frustrated. I want to tell...