Intelligent Intoxication

In their book ADHD 2.0, authors Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and John J. Raley, M.D. encourage readers to discern their “right difficult”: “What’s your outlet, stage…. or tool? What’s your right kind of difficult?” Your “difficult” is your superpower - what lights you up and challenges you to squirm just beyond your comfort zone.  There are questions we can answer to discern our right difficult - her...

The real goal of personal development is to increase your self-awareness regarding why you do what you do when you default to habits that don’t serve you long-term.  I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to be curious about why you do what you do after a “failure”? When do you notice guilting or shaming yourself when things don’t go as planned? I invite you to click on the...

“You’ll never be criticized by someone who is doing more than you. You’ll always be criticized by someone doing less. Remember that.” Denzel Washington We get criticized and criticize others from a place of inferiority (if we’re in comparison-itis) or superiority (if we’re in competition to others).  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice criticizing others because you feel i...

“Some of the best advice I’ve been given: ‘Don’t take criticism from people you would never go to for advice.” Morgan Freeman When we believe our Inner Critic’s fearful chatter, we are accepting criticism from the part of us that’s not reliable for wise advice.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you believe your Inner Critic’s criticism? How willing are you to trust your body for a...

We will need to make adjustments frequently in our lives any time something ceases to work for us.  I invite you to consider these questions: What in your life currently requires an adjustment? Where do you feel flat and uninspired? How committed are you to taking away what’s no longer working? How consistently are you: sleeping enough? staying hydrated? moving your body? eating healthy foods? Wha...

Tattle-tales will continue to tattle if they get the attention they seek from doing so, or if their complaints are taken seriously. Our intrusive thoughts will keep coming if we argue with them, react to them by trying to falsely comfort ourselves, or act on the information given in our thoughts.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice arguing with or trying to avoid your tho...

“We’re not living longer - we’re dying longer.” Shawn Stevenson I invite you to consider these questions: Do your actions suggest that you’re committed to living longer - or dying longer? What do you want to start doing to live longer? What do you want to stop doing to live longer? What do you want to keep doing to live longer? Over It And On With It Podcast with Christine Hassler To listen to thi...

When you want to make a sustainable, lasting change in your life, before you take action, you must become the version of you who can take the actions.  I invite you to consider these questions: What do you really want to change in your life? Who might you need to become in order to do so? What identity are you growing into? What are your intentions for changing? I invite you to click on the link b...

There’s a difference between feeling guilty and being guilted. If you’re feeling guilt, it’s likely because, according to you, your words and actions are incongruent to your values. When you’re being guilted, someone else is trying to make you feel guilty because they either don’t approve of your values, or they are determining whether or not you’re in integrity.  I invite you to consider these qu...

Every time you say YES to investing your valuable yet limited time, energy, and resources, it will cost you. Sometimes it costs you time. Other times energy or money. Every potential YES will cost - you must decide if the cost of the YES is worth it.  I invite you to consider these questions: What’s worth the investment of your time? What’s worth the investment of your energy? What’s worth the inv...

Any time we’re growing, expanding, or making progress, we can expect to feel really uncomfortable emotions. Our willingness to feel that as we move forward is how we’ll continue to create momentum.  I invite you to consider these questions: What uncomfortable emotions do you avoid feeling? Which emotions might you need to feel in order to make progress? I invite you to click on the link below to b...

You don’t have to earn your enjoyment by first being productive. Doing what you really enjoy will infuse you with the sustainable energy to be productive.    I invite you to consider these questions: What do you genuinely enjoy doing simply because it brings you joy? How might it be true that doing enjoyable things will make you more productive? I invite you to click on the link below to book a co...

The goals you want to achieve or the experiences you’re drawn to, reveals what you value.    I invite you to consider these questions: What do your personal goals reveal about your values? What do your professional goals reveal about your values? What do you want to experience? What values fuel your desires for those experiences? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happ...

What you’re drawn to learn about reveals what you value.    I invite you to consider these questions: What topics are you excited to learn more about? What topics do you find yourself scrolling for online? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might be looking for: Chat with Terri.....

What you dream about and fear regarding your future reveals what you value.  I invite you to consider these questions: What do you desire for your future? When you imagine your future, what fears arise? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might be looking for: Chat with Terri... ...

What you invest your money into because it’s worth the expense reveals what you value.  I invite you to consider these questions: What do you invest your money into? What isn’t worth the investment of your money? If you had more money, what might you use it to buy or get? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. I’d love to hear about you and offer y...

What you focus on reveals what you value.  I invite you to consider these questions: What do you find yourself thinking about or focusing on? What fearful Inner Critic thoughts point to your values? Which of your core values relate to what you focus on? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and sup...

What we effortlessly organize reveals what we really value.  I invite you to consider these questions: Where are you most organized: belongings? home? social life? health and wellness? relationships? fun/recreation? spirituality/faith? Where aren’t you organized? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. I’d love to hear about you and offer you the he...

What we invest our time and energy into doing reveals what we genuinely value.  I invite you to consider these questions: What do you spend your time doing? What wouldn’t you spend time doing? Which of your values fuel how you invest your time? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me. I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you...

When we’re reliable, we’re consistently trustworthy and dependable to ourselves or to others. When we’re willing to get curious about what/whom we’re reliable to, we will discern what we genuinely value.  I invite you to consider these questions: What are you reliable to? Who are you reliable to? Which of your values are related to reliability? I invite you to click on the link below to book a com...

“Scaffolding is a system, structure, or framework of SUPPORT.” Kristen Carder/I Have ADHD Podcast Episode #97: “Build Your ADHD Scaffold” It is our responsibility to intentionally build the scaffold we need in order to manage our mental, emotional, and physical health needs.  I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to get a diagnosis for what you might be currently experienci...

We’re either filling or draining other people’s buckets of joy. While it’s not our job to fill their buckets, we can intentionally bring joy to the relationship.   I invite you to consider these questions: Who do you feel more joyful after spending time with? Who do you feel less joyful after spending time with? How willing are you to tell yourself the truth about how you impact the joy of others?...

Frequent complaining drains your limited time and energy. If you’re in the habit of complaining, pay attention to what or whom you’re focusing your complaints toward.  I invite you to consider these questions: Who do you tend to complain about frequently? What are you believing that this person should start or stop doing? What else do you tend to complain about? What steps can you take to address...

When children grow up and leave home, it’s common for parents to try to stay “busy” and fill their days with pursuits like hobbies. But, in order to experience true fulfillment, you must do two things: identify, develop, and utilize your inherent gifts to make a meaningful contribution to others continue to challenge yourself in order to make continuous personal and professional progress If you’re...

When children grow up and leave home, it’s common for parents to feel as if they've gone from being a supervisor in their lives to being a spectator of their lives. If you want to be fulfilled in your life after your children leave home, you must be willing to create your own parallel path by utilizing your inherent gifts and passionate talents to make continuous progress while making a meaningful...