Intelligent Intoxication

If you’re committed to personal development work and increasing your self-awareness and self-responsibility, it is very likely that you will outgrow some of your relationships.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling flat in a relationship? When have you outgrown a relationship and what did you make it mean about you or them? I invite you to click on the link below to...

There will be times when others want or need more from us than we are able or willing to give.  When we NEED something, we must have it in order to function. When we WANT something, we desire it in order to experience more enjoyment.  I invite you to consider these questions: How do you respond when others want or need more from you than you’re able or willing to give? When aren’t you willing to m...

Our past actions create our present circumstances. If you’re feeling punished BY your life, you might be in the habit of “playing the victim” to life circumstances.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling punished BY your life? Which past decisions created your current circumstances? How willing are you to learn from your past actions instead of shaming yourself for t...

In order to get the dopamine hit that comes from completing a task or project that is huge or undefined, focus on finishing blocks of work time instead.  Set your timer for 25 minutes and show up for your work period. When the timer goes off, set it for 5 minutes and get up and take a break. When the timer goes off, set it for another 5 minutes and do anything that feels fun. When the timer goes o...

When you lack motivation, focus on creating momentum instead by getting into motion by taking one next step. Eventually, you’ll naturally increase your motivation.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice not starting or finishing because you’re not motivated? How willing are you to focus on creating momentum instead?   I invite you to click on the link below to book a complim...

When we experience intentional FOMO, we prioritize one thing over everything else AND simultaneously feel the fear of missing what we haven’t chosen.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice intentionally missing out on things in order to prioritize something else? How willing are you to prioritize AND allow yourself to experience FOMO?   I invite you to click on the link belo...

When we resist, we argue with what is really true, and we simultaneously outsource our agency and empowerment.  When we accept, we tell the truth about where we currently are and what part we’ve played. In this empowered place, we have everything we need to shift our lives and make changes.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice resisting telling yourself the truth? What if...

When we experience “giving procrastination”, we wait to give, be of service, or offer help until we can do so perfectly. We fall into the habit of thinking that “What we can give now, isn’t enough.” I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice not helping until you can give or do more? When do you tell yourself that “What I can give isn’t enough”? I invite you to click on the link...

In order for a habit to become sustainably consistent, it must be anchored in your values and be genuinely enjoyable and satisfying.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which of your habits have been easily sustainable? How willing are you to celebrate your consistent habits? Which habits have been challenging to start or sustain? What might you change in order to make them more doable?   I...

Engaging in personal development work is all about making continuous progress. You begin the process exactly where you currently are and move forward from there.  I invite you to consider these questions: What’s your definition of personal development work? How willing are you to seek the help of a counselor or coach when you’ve stopped making progress?   I invite you to click on the link below to...

When we vacation, leave home, or take a break from our normal lives, we need to give ourselves the gift of a gentle re-entry when we’re ready to return.  I invite you to consider these questions: How can you make re-entry as doable and gradual as possible? When do you notice forcing yourself to return to normal too fast or too soon? I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary h...

When we practice “box breathing”, we: exhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 inhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 Each season of the year symbolically represents an/a exhale, empty pause, inhale, and full pause.  In the summer, we are abundantly full and intentionally allow, accept, and receive.  I invite you to consider these questions: What are you currently resisting? What might prevent you from allowing, accept...

When we practice “box breathing”, we: exhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 inhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 Each season of the year symbolically represents an/a exhale, empty pause, inhale, and full pause.  In the spring, we intentionally decide to start, begin, or bring in the new.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which new habits, routines, rituals, or systems are you willing to begin? What areas...

When we practice “box breathing”, we: exhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 inhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 Each season of the year symbolically represents an/a exhale, empty pause, inhale, and full pause.  In the winter, we intentionally decide to pause or take a break from something in order to create space.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which activities, commitments, relationships, or places d...

When we practice “box breathing”, we: exhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 inhale 4-3-2-1 pause 4-3-2-1 Each season of the year symbolically represents an exhale, empty pause, inhale, and full pause.  In the fall or autumn, we intentionally decide what to “exhale” or release from our lives.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which thoughts/beliefs are you ready to release? Which emotions are you r...

It is your responsibility to: clarify/identify what you want and need communicate those wants and needs to others when appropriate figure out how to get your wants/needs met ask others what they want/need decide if you’re willing or able to meet their expectations communicate to others whether or not you’re willing and capable of meeting their expectations I invite you to consider these questions:...

Our intention for being reliable is just as important as valuing reliability? I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice being reliable as part of a people-pleasing or approval-seeking habit? What are your intentions for appearing reliable to others? If someone referred to you as “unreliable”, what might you make that mean about you or them? I invite you to click on the link belo...

When we get triggered, it’s likely because someone else has said or done something and our nervous systems registers it as: too much too fast too soon You can’t control getting triggered, any more than you can prevent triggers 100% of the time. It’s not your fault that you get triggered, but it is always your responsibility to take care of your body when you’re triggered.  I invite you to consider...

“Frustration sometimes overlaps with anger. Both anger and frustration can result when a desired outcome is blocked. The main difference is that with frustration, we don’t think we can fix the situation, while with anger, we feel there is something we can do.” Brene Brown/Atlas of the Heart I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling frustrated? What are you trying to cont...

“Feeling discouraged and resigned is about effort rather than outcome. With discouragement, we’re losing the motivation and confidence to continue with our efforts. With resignation, we’ve lost the motivation to keep trying.” Brene Brown/Atlas of the Heart I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling discouraged? How do you take care of yourself when you are? When do you no...

When our life circumstances don’t unfold the way we want them to, it’s common for us to feel disappointed - especially when we believe that others are to blame for our disappointment.  Yet when we feel regret, it’s because we feel as if we made a past decision that we’re not proud of or that we’ve acted or failed to act in a manner that yielded the outcomes we really wanted.  I invite you to consi...

There have been many times in my own life when I was suffering from emotional pain secretly and resisted reaching out for help.  You don’t have to figure out how to feel better on your own or all by yourself. If you’ve been struggling, it might be time to reach out to me, or to a coach or counselor for assistance.    I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call w...

When our life circumstances don’t unfold the way we want them to, it’s common for us to feel disappointed. In Atlas of the Heart, author Brene Brown explains disappointment: “Disappointed: It didn’t work out how I wanted, and I believe the outcome was outside of my control.” We also feel disappointed when others aren’t willing or able to meet our expectations. When this happens, make sure that you...

When our life circumstances don’t unfold the way we want them to, it’s common for us to feel disappointed, regretful, discouraged, resigned, or frustrated.  In Atlas of the Heart, author Brene Brown explains each emotion: “Disappointed: It didn’t work out how I wanted, and I believe the outcome was outside of my control.” “Regretful: It didn’t work out how I wanted, and the outcome was caused by m...

When you get frustrated with the progress you’re making, instead of putting your focus on the finish line, decide in advance how often you’ll “show up” to work and keep showing up until you get there.  I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to “keep showing up” until you get there? What might prevent you from showing up consistently? If you have something you’d really love t...