Intelligent Intoxication

When we love the process of doing something, we are satisfied AS we create a result. When we only love the result of “having done” something, we are trying to live vicariously through the results of our actions.  For something to be sustainable, we must love the process AND the result.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice love the results but not the process? When do you n...

When we return things we’ve purchased, we want our money back because we don’t  want to invest it in the items we’ve purchased.  We must also ask for our “spirit” to be returned when we’ve invested our limited time and energy into a relationship, experience, or experience, and it’s time for it to be “over” or “closed” because: the relationship or job must end you no longer feel “animated” regardin...

“Empty nest syndrome refers to the distress and other complicated emotions that parents often experience when their children leave home… parents may feel lonely, sad, and have some degree of grief when their children leave the nest, whether it’s to live on their own, start a college career, or pursue their own relationships. Women normally suffer more than men do, and feelings of sadness may be mo...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “The more difficult it is for us to articulate our experiences of loss, longing, and feeling lost to the people around us, the more disconnected and alone we feel. Talking about grief is difficult in a world that wants us to ‘get over it’... “ Atlas of the Heart I invite you to consider these questions: When have you felt like you...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “In my research, three foundational elements of grief emerged from the data: loss, longing, and feeling lost.” “Grief requires us to reorient every part of our physical, emotional, and social worlds… when we imagine the need to do this, most of us picture the painful struggle to adjust to a tangible change… “ Atlas of the Heart I...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “In my research, three foundational elements of grief emerged from the data: loss, longing, and feeling lost.” “Longing is not conscious wanting; it’s an involuntary yearning for wholeness, for understanding, for meaning, for the opportunity to regain or even simply touch what we’ve lost… longing is a vital and important part of g...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “In my research, three foundational elements of grief emerged from the data: loss, longing, and feeling lost.” “While death and separation are tangible losses associated with grief… (some losses) are more difficult to identify or describe… the loss of normality, the loss of what could be, and the loss of what we thought we knew or...

"Each person's grief is as unique as their fingerprint. But what everyone has in common is that no matter how they grieve, they share a need for their grief to be witnessed. That doesn't mean needing someone to try to lessen it or reframe it for them. The need is for someone to be fully present to the magnitude of their loss without trying to point out the silver lining." David Kessler/Grief Exper...

It’s important to know who you are outside of the groups you belong to.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which of your groups define you? Which don’t? When do you feel inspired by a group identity? When don’t you?   If you have something you’d really love to hear on the podcast, I would be giddy and grateful to hear all about it: terribradwaylifecoaching@gmail.com   I invite you to click...

In order to tap into and rely on your intuition consistently, you must be willing to identify or manage your Inner Critic chatter in your mind. Your intuition is in your body whereas your fearful Inner Critic chatter is in your mind.  I invite you to consider these questions: How familiar are you with the flavor of Inner Critic you’re influenced by? How willing are you to identify and manage your...

When we feel deprived, we believe that we “lack” something or aren’t getting “enough” of something we want or need.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling deprived of certainty, variety, feeling special, love, connection, making progress, or contributing to others? When do you notice feeling deprived because you’re believing that you’re not enough?   If you have some...

When we feel dissatisfied, it’s because we’re not content. Frequently we’re dissatisfied when our expectations are unmet.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling dissatisfied when your expectations fail to meet your results? When do you notice feeling dissatisfied with your personal or professional life? When do you notice feeling dissatisfied because you’re stuck in...

When we feel defeated, there’s often a sense that we’ve lost something - a place, a purpose, or an identity.   I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling defeated because you’ve lost something? When do you notice blaming someone else for your loss or feelings of defeat? When do you notice blaming yourself for your loss or feelings of defeat?   If you have something you’d...

When we feel discouraged, it’s typically because we’ve lost confidence or enthusiasm. Confidence requires evidence, whereas self-confidence is the commitment to have your own back. Enthusiasm is a state of excitement, enjoyment, and empowerment.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling discouraged because you’ve lost confidence in your ability or in a circumstance? How...

When we feel desperate, we feel hopeless regarding the likelihood of getting what we want and need.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you feel desperate for consistency, comfort, and certainty? When do you feel desperate for change, variety, or something different? When do you feel desperate to feel loved and connected to others? When do you feel desperate to feel unique, special,...

When you feel SPECIAL, you’re likely feeling significant, unique, and empowered. When you feel LESS SPECIAL than others, you will feel inferior to them and tip into comparisonitis. When you feel MORE SPECIAL than others, you will feel superior to others and be in competition with others.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling SPECIAL because you’re utilizing your inh...

When you COLLECT things, you gather or keep similar items. Sometimes, our “collections” bring us joy and deep satisfaction. Other times, our “collections” of possessions, beliefs, or commitments may keep us cluttered and stuck.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which of your collections bring you joy? Which of your collections feel like clutter? Which thoughts, beliefs, and opinions feel...

There’s a difference between being PERSUADED and being MANIPULATED. When someone is trying to persuade you,  they will present you with a point of view/options for your consideration. They may also highlight the benefits of the option and allow you to decide whether it’s of value to you.  When someone is trying to manipulate you, they will likely try to control your decision-making or actions by m...

When you PRESSURE yourself to predict future outcomes, it may be because your brain is anxious because a circumstance feels uncertain or unpredictable. Or, your brain may be imagining worst case scenarios.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice staying stuck because of uncertainty? When do you notice imagining worst case scenarios?   If you have something you’d really love t...

When you PRESSURE yourself to take immediate action, it may be because you’re worried about missing out on something or getting impatient with your own decision-making process. When you PRESSURE yourself to do more work than you’re capable of, it may be because you’re trying to people-please or approval-seek.  I invite you to consider these questions: When does it benefit you to wait to take actio...

When we PRESSURE ourselves to offer others sympathy or empathy, we may be forcing ourselves to think over the top of our own emotions.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice forcing yourself to offer sympathy or empathy? When do you notice pressuring yourself to act before you feel your feelings all the way through?   If you have something you’d really love to hear on the po...

When we PRESSURE ourselves to know what we want, we’re forcing ourselves to make decisions before we’re ready.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice pressuring yourself to know what you want? What DON’T you want? What don’t you want to feel? What do you want to feel? When do you pretend not to want what you want? If you did know what you wanted, what might it be? If you cou...

When we PRESSURE ourselves to prove something to others, we are often trying to control what others think, feel, or say about us.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice trying to prove something to others? What is the worst thing someone else might think, feel, or say about you? What’s the opposite of this? When have you experienced being loved conditionally? What are you st...

When we PRESSURE ourselves to know exactly where we’re going, it’s likely because we’re confused and resisting taking the one next step.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you allow confusion to shut down your progress? When do you tell yourself that you have to know “all of the steps” before you start? When do you notice picturing the worst-case scenario in order to grasp for cert...

When we PRESSURE ourselves to speak up, we are forcing ourselves to communicate in the moment - even when we’re not ready or willing to do so.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice pressuring yourself to say the perfect thing at the perfect time? When do you notice waiting to speak up because you’re not ready to do so? When do you resist speaking up because you’re emotional...