Intelligent Intoxication

When you feel “off”, it’s because you need to create some space in your life and schedule.  The first step to creating more space in your life is to STOP THE FLOW of anything new or extra coming in.  The second step is to TAKE OUT THE OLD by ditching anything that’s “leftover”, that you’ve had “enough of”, or that has “expired” because it no longer serves you.  The third step is to PREPARE by REST...

When you feel “off”, it’s because you need to create some space in your life and schedule.  The first step to creating more space in your life is to STOP THE FLOW of anything new or extra coming in.  The second step is to TAKE OUT THE OLD by ditching anything that’s “leftover”, that you’ve had “enough of”, or that has “expired” because it no longer serves you.  I invite you to consider these quest...

When you feel “off”, it’s because you need to create some space in your life and schedule.  The first step to creating more space in your life is to STOP THE FLOW of anything coming in.  We do this by saying NO to anything more, extra, or new. No more appointments or plans. No more purchases. No more YESSES for now.  I invite you to consider these questions: How can you STOP THE FLOW of anything n...

When you feel “off”, it may be because you need to create some SPACE in your life - space in your body, home, brain, and schedule.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling “off”? Is it when you’re: too busy? too committed? too full? overeating? overdrinking? over-spending? over-thinking? over-working? over-scheduling? How willing are you to create space in your life? I...

Some of our relationships are obligatory. You can tell if you’re in an obligatory relationship, you’re likely to feel drained, depleted, exhausted, or tired after engaging with them.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which of your relationships feel inspiring and fulfilling? Which of your relationships deplete and exhaust you? What are your reasons for your obligatory relationships? What...

When our actions or words align with our core values, we are in INTEGRITY. Other people do not determine whether or not you’re in integrity.  Integrity is what you WON’T do, be, or tolerate. Integrity is also what you MUST do, be, or expect.  I invite you to consider these questions: What WON’T you be? What WON’T you do? What WON’T you tolerate? What MUST you be? What MUST you do? What MUST you ex...

An OBLIGATION is something you said YES to that was really a NO; you said YES in order to people-please, seek approval, virtue-signal or avoid confrontation. We tend to need an audience for obligations. A COMMITMENT is a whole-hearted YES that really matters to you and lights you up.  One person’s commitment is another person’s obligations.  I invite you to consider these questions: What feels obl...

When you try to “balance” your life, you are saying that everything matters the same. When we “prioritize” we are intentionally committing to what matters the most to us.  When we’re trying to balance, we get stuck in believing that there’s never enough time. When we prioritize, we believe that we have plenty of time for matters most.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you attempt...

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. Devotion is a mix of love, loyalty and enthusiasm. You must LOVE the experience AS you live it, be loyal and consistent to doing it in a way that aligns to your truest self, and deeply excited and lit up by the experience.  Devotion is also having the sustainable energy for the things that light...

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. Devotion is a mix of love, loyalty and enthusiasm. You must LOVE the experience AS you live it, be loyal and consistent to doing it in a way that aligns to your truest self, and deeply excited and lit up by the experience.  Devotion is also having the sustainable energy for the things that light...

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. Devotion is a mix of love, loyalty and enthusiasm. You must LOVE the experience AS you live it, be loyal and consistent to doing it in a way that aligns to your truest self, and deeply excited and lit up by the experience.  Devotion is also having the sustainable energy for the things that light...

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. Devotion is a mix of love, loyalty and enthusiasm. You must LOVE the experience AS you live it, be loyal and consistent to doing it in a way that aligns to your truest self, and deeply excited and lit up by the experience.  Devotion is also having the sustainable energy for the things that light...

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. My brilliant podcast producer, Rubi, sent me this note: “... I’d LOVE to hear a mini series on your podcast about how you stay consistent and determined to the things you set your mind to - for example, the daily episodes.” Thank you, Rubi, for the terrific series suggestion! As I pondered, I re...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach When we are in the habit of “seeking more” we are typically doing so from a place of inferiority, inadequacy, or insufficiency. When we commit to creating something different, we are determined to make space for what we desire to create.  I invi...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach When we don’t do what we tell ourselves that we “should” do, we topple into shame. When we shame ourselves, we call ourselves names based on “black and white” labels like “good” or “bad”. Shoulds will also dilute your integrity.  I invite you to...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach An OBLIGATION is anything that you say YES to that was a NO or a NOT YET.  Obligations dilute your joy by: cluttering your life deplete your limited time and energy fill the space that must stay open for YESSES I invite you to consider these que...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach “Busy” work dilutes your joy by: wasting your time and energy with unimportant tasks and activities failing to challenge you not requiring you to use your gifts and talents cluttering up your schedule I invite you to consider these questions: Wh...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to protect your joyful mindset? How willing are you to eliminate or reduce habits that dilute your joy? If you have something you’d really love to hear on the podcast, I would be gidd...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  Both joy and happiness matter deeply.  I invite you to consider these questions: What is deeply joyful in your life? When do you notice fe...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re hustling to “feel” happy, it’s much like: a filmmaker over-relying on special effects at the expense of a solid story and wonder...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re hustling to “feel” happy, you’re likely cluttering your life, schedule, body, and mind.  When you’re experiencing joy, you’re li...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re hustling to “feel” happy, you’re likely: stuck in comparison-itis to other or competition with others hustling for more  seeking...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re striving to “feel” happy, you are likely doing so from a place of: insufficiency inadequacy restlessness perfectionism guilt Whe...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  What we think or believe will influence whether or not to strive to feel happy or are adopting a joyful mindset. I invite you to consider...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is dependent on your circumstances.  Joy, on the other hand, is a consistent mindset that you intentionally choose to practice. Joy is independent OF your circumstances.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling happy? When don’t you? When do you notice being...