In Therapy with Alex Howard

In this bonus episode of In Therapy, we explore how Belle's obsession with looking "perfect" is backfiring. She opens up about how her focus on flawless appearance is attracting shallow relationships, leaving her unfulfilled. I explain a profound truth: to find a deep, meaningful connection, you must first transform your relationship with yourself. Discover why balancing self-pride and authenticit...

It's been 5 months since Belle finished her therapy journey, and we're checking in to see how things are going! In this final vlog, Belle gets real about life post-therapy—the wins, the struggles, and everything in between. She shares how she's using the tools she learned, what's been challenging, and how she's continuing to grow. If you've ever wondered what life really looks like after therapy,...

It's Belle's final episode, marking the culmination of her incredible journey. Since our last session, she's embraced major life changes, moving back in with her parents and continuing to work hard to integrate the tools and insights she's gained along the way. Therapeutic work isn't about erasing the past but healing from it so we can open up to new possibilities in the present and the future. Be...

Belle has made incredible progress on her journey of self-discovery—becoming more emotionally honest, silencing her inner critic, and nurturing a stronger sense of self-worth. Today, we're diving even deeper into her healing process by addressing a lingering wound: the trauma from her last relationship. In this powerful session, Belle learns that true self-love means honouring her emotions, expres...

In this episode of In Therapy, we delve into Belle's struggles with her body image, which we soon learn began with her father's criticisms during her childhood. Over time, these judgments became ingrained, transforming into a harmful internal narrative that controls her sense of self-worth. When we shine a light on our inner critic, we often realise it's pushing us to meet unattainable ideals, dra...

In this episode, learn how to get rid of your inner critic (for good)! Watch as I teach Belle a powerful technique to help her stand up to her inner critic—something you can learn and apply yourself. Our most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves, and self-worth is built through ongoing actions. How we choose to engage with ourselves either strengthens or undermines our self-est...

This episode of In Therapy explores Belle's childhood and the lack of emotional support that shaped her struggles with self-criticism and anxiety. We discuss how unmet emotional needs in childhood lead to unresolved wounds that affect self-love, relationships, and mental health as adults. Learn how early experiences shape your worldview and discover ways to heal and meet your emotional needs.

This episode of In Therapy explores how rejecting your true self can be a form of self-harm. When you constantly pretend to be someone you're not, it becomes impossible to truly feel love or connection because others are relating to a false version of you. By embracing authenticity and living from a more genuine place, you allow yourself to experience deeper connections, greater happiness, and a l...

In this episode of In Therapy, Belle opens up about the key events she calls the 'troughs'—the moments she believes are at the root of her struggles. As we explore further, it becomes clear that these events are just symptoms of deeper issues from her past. Join us as we uncover the layers of Belle's trauma and the profound impact it has had on her life. In Therapy is a series that follows real pe...

In this first episode of In Therapy, we dive into toxic self-talk— what is toxic self-talk, why it happens, and how to overcome toxic self-talk. Gain practical tools and insights to help you break free from negative thinking patterns and transform your mindset. In Therapy is a series that follows real people on their therapeutic journeys. In this season, we tackle common struggles like toxic self-...

NEW SERIES OF IN THERAPY OUT NOW. Each series of In Therapy follows one person's therapeutic journey, told in weekly episodes. Join us as Belle, this season's courageous client, opens up about her experiences with vulnerability, self-worth, and her relationships with men. We'll also dive into powerful themes like toxic self-talk, body dysmorphia, low self-esteem, relationship trauma, and childhood...

Join Alex and Paul for an insightful Q&A session as they delve deep into Paul's remarkable therapy journey and the transformative impact it has had on his life. In this candid conversation, they address questions from you, the audience, shedding light on Paul's personal experiences, offering valuable advice for those who've encountered life-changing events, and exploring the profound moments that...

In Part 4, witness the culmination of Paul's extraordinary inner transformation. After weeks of intensive healing work, he has now reached a place of emotional depth where he is able to listen to and hold his inner child, allowing him to process his childhood trauma. In the second half of this emotional closing episode, Paul writes and reads heartfelt letters at Zoey's memorial. Through this profo...

Part 3 represents the most pivotal moment in Paul's journey yet, as he confronts the darkest depths of his trauma head on. In the first part of the episode, Paul struggles to let himself feel the uncomfortable emotions he has towards his late daughter – feelings of anger, hate and rage. To get him out of his head and more into his body, in the second half of the episode I take Paul out of the ther...

In Part 2, Paul embarks on the path of addressing deeply buried emotions that have haunted him since childhood, all from a place of vulnerability and self-compassion. Together, we explore the concept of listening to and connecting with your inner child, peeling away the layers of trauma, and learning to give voice to suppressed feelings. We also discuss the significance of creating distance from y...

In Part 1, we meet Paul, a 60-year-old father who lost his daughter to suicide just six months ago. Paul has locked all of his emotions in a box since he lost his mum at age three, and that this recent deeply traumatic event has caused the box to explode open, leaving him in a state of complete emotional overwhelm. In his first session with Alex, we learn that Paul is ready to confront the dark pl...

Life After Loss takes you on an emotional and transformative journey alongside Paul, a father bravely confronting his unimaginable grief following the loss of his daughter to suicide. Throughout this season, we delve into ways to navigate grief, liberate yourself from childhood trauma, and unlock your full potential in life. We also explore a fundamental question: Is it possible to heal after the...

Last week, we sent out an email asking those who signed up to the bonus materials to ask questions relating to Pierre's journey (thank you so much to those of you who did). This week, I try my best to answer them. If you'd like to receive the bonus materials, and have a chance to ask me a question when we next do a Q&A video, please go to intherapy.alexhoward.com and follow the instructions.

This week, we deep-dive into four of the stand-out themes from Pierre's journey over the last eight weeks, and I provide some ways in which you can work with them more directly too.

What's the best way to achieve your goals? We are led to believe that by fixating on what we want, it will come true; however, the opposite is often true. Instead, by focusing on WHO we are becoming, and what we can influence in our lives now, we are growing regardless of whether we achieve our goals or not.

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." – Dalai Lama Pierre has learnt that when things become uncomfortable, procrastination is the safest response. The problem is, this only delays the inevitable pain and causes more suffering. Changing patterns we have been practising for decades is not easy, but it is absolutely possible with diligence and patience.

Feeling enough doesn't come from achieving goals or having success; it comes from a place of unconditional self-love. But it isn't enough just to understand this; we have to really feel it deep inside of ourselves. Once we do that, we can begin to meet the world from a place of true strength.

Many of us feel like imposters in our lives. We either feel like we don't deserve the success we have now or that which we dream of creating in the future. If we want to change our lives for the better, we have to let go of the old stories we tell ourselves...

When we weren't given the love and holding we needed as children, what can happen in adulthood is that we experience a sense of insatiable deficiency. To solve this, people often look to outside sources such as relationships, achievements, drugs or alcohol. However, the only true way to fill the void is from within...

People often think anger, hatred and rage are bad emotions, and should be avoided. But the more we process and move through these emotions, the more power and control we have in our lives.