In the Moment with Mamoon

I once had a female client who was quite frustrated, because after going through the "Meet Him and Marry Him" program, she would end up meeting great guys… but sometimes the guys just didn't know how to interact in any kind of attractive way.  There was one guy she was telling me about who - the first time they met in person - was dressed in a hoodie and really ugly, torn, dirty shoes...

The other day, Rachida and I were having a chat about our goals for 2025. We were talking about our intentions, the kind of energy and experiences we want to share together. By the grace of God, we're in a wonderful phase of life where we're living in Marrakesh… and it turns out this is our dream. It feels like we're on vacation the whole time, even though we're both still working and fully engagi...

Want to know one of the main reasons why I love doing Jiu Jitsu and how I have the discipline to train daily? It's not because of the mind-body connection. It's not because it's the "gentle art". It's not because I have some kind of super-human discipline.

Exactly one week ago was "Blue Monday".  This is statistically supposed to be the most depressing day of the year, for a number of reasons...  

We've all heard about the importance of willpower and discipline when it comes to achieving our goals.  But what very few people talk about is the importance of "Allah will" power.  One of the biggest mistakes people make is they set big, audacious, hairy, scary goals, and then they try to force themselves to be really disciplined and achieve the goal all by themselves. Then, they get stressed, fr...

Back when I was a single, lonely, divorced bloke I went through a phase of not seeing anyone or considering anyone, which lasted about 9 months.  Then I had a life-altering insight that I wrote about in the book, "Inside the Soul of Islam".  And after that, I was basically a magnet.

Back in 2010, I had just started my coaching business and was taking every coach training course I could get my hands on.  One of them was to become a certified relationship coach. Which, I'll admit, was a little ironic given how my marriage was constantly filled with conflicts that I didn't know how to resolve. But I figured this course might help me - I wasn't planning on helping others in an ar...

During the last year of my first marriage, right before it crashed and burned in divorce, I was online searching for answers to the marriage problems I was having.  I started with trying to learn the Islamic laws of marriage. It turns out that improves your relationship about as much as the Islamic laws of sacrificing an animal improves your cooking.  

True story:  Once upon a time a couple goes to a very wise marriage therapist and starts spilling the beans on how terrible their marriage is. It starts with the husband. The more he talks about his wife and everything she's doing wrong, the more upset and heated he becomes. Pretty soon, he starts ranting...

"Always be skeptical of anyone who claims to be an 'expert' on relationships. Chances are, someone in their family strongly disagrees." – Anon Even the best advice from the best so-called 'experts' on relationships will likely backfire when you try and apply it.

A few days into Ramadan in 2017, I sat in the Sheikh's living room after bringing him home from the airport. He had just returned from Umrah, which he had to cut short due to a death in the family.  In the taxi home, he had just read the first few pages of my soon-to-be-released book, "Inside the Soul of Islam" which was the purpose of our meeting...

The quality of your marriage, and your life, is directly proportional to the depth of your spiritual presence. There's no mystery behind the fact that the Prophet (peace & blessings upon him) was the most spiritually elevated human being and was, as a result, the "best to his family". The secret hiding in plain sight, is the deep level of...

Let's be honest: Santa Claus has a pretty tough gig. He's running a global operation, managing elves, navigating tight deadlines, and let's not forget the intense pressure of being judged by millions of kids every single year. Naughty or nice? That's a lot of responsibility for one man. So how does his marriage survive all this stress?

When it comes to relationships, if there's one thing I hate to see people suffer with… it's LIMBO. Where things don't seem too bad to change, but you're nowhere near the dream of where you want to be.  So instead of staying stuck in Limbo, because it's the day before X-Mas, that special time of year where Muslims all around the world… watch movies! Let's do a quick Thought Experiment...  

Let's be honest: every marriage faces challenges. But sometimes, we can get so caught up in the day-to-day drama of misunderstandings, arguments, or unmet expectations, that we end up missing the bigger picture. The question is: Is your marriage passing the "bare minimum" test?

The last couple of weeks I've been going around Marrakech with a pair of orange tinted glasses that Rachida gave me. And as I walked around seeing palm trees and beautiful scenery with these tinted glasses, it reminded me of the great Tony Stark.  It got me thinking that in some ways, I used to be a bit like Iron Man....

There's a major downside to all the spiritual insights & relationship strategies I teach: they KILL drama. And let's face it: sometimes people get a real kick out of drama. The highs when you win a point and the lows when you're mad or upset - it can all get kind of… addictive. Sometimes the whole marriage feels like it started as a Rom-Com but they changed screenwriters half way through and it en...

Sarah was on her way to one of my live events, mentally rehearsing how she'd tell her husband she wanted a divorce.   Years of resentment had piled up. Every argument left her feeling more defeated. Even small conflicts spiralled into days of tension and silence.   She'd tried everything - therapy, advice from family elders, and even seeking help from an imam. But nothing brought her peace.   As s...

One of the most common mistakes I see in marriages is trying to fix your partner's (seemingly countless) flaws. And one of the most common objections to me pointing this out is that the person I'm coaching will say: "Oh no, but you don't understand, they even [insert typical human flaws]".    It often sounds something like this:   "If only they'd be more affectionate, then I'd be happy."   "Why ca...

What I'm about to share with you is not the be-all and end-all of marriage challenges and conflicts… but it does work fast and remarkably well.  If you want to have a long-term, successful marriage where you and your partner both get what you want, then use this "quick-fix" as you learn some of the more important, long-term insights and skills I share with you in my in-depth coaching programs. (An...

I recently came across an interesting definition of the word 'love', in the context of a loving relationship: "The capacity to feel the full spectrum of human emotion in service of being present in this current moment (the only place you can actually be with another)."  I don't know how technically accurate of a definition that is, but it's an excellent description of what it means to be loving to...

There is a perfectly rational reason to acknolwedge the existence of God. Unfortunately it is largely unknown in the West and was certainly never taught to me (or your kids) in school.  It's the argument of the categories of existence and it's explianed comprehensively in this video.

I recently received this 'classic' philosophical question from the son of a close friend and figured I'd answer it in a video for everyone.  There's a remarkably simple, comprehensive, logical answer, which (weirdly enough) I was never taught in school.

Is it possible to use the 'gift of gab' to get yourself into eternal Paradise? It sure is. But I don't recommend you wait until you're face-to-face with the Almighty. Over the weekend I hosted a gathering of zikr in my home, and I shared 5 specific ways you can, quite literally 'talk' your way into Heaven, starting today, including... Why the power of your word has so much spiritual importance and...

A couple of weeks ago, at the monthly Zikr Gathering in our home, I shared some reflections on the verse: "So indeed, with difficulty, there is ease. Indeed, with difficulty there is ease." [Quran 94: 5-6] Allah always speaks truth, even though it takes some reflection to see the truth of this verse. I give 5 insights into how any of us can instantly find ease and relief, even in the midst of real...