In the Moment with Mamoon

There is one insight that I've been blessed to discover and that I've introduced thousands of people to, that has perhaps made the biggest impact on my personal life.  I call it, "The Psychological Switch", and when you discover it for yourself, you'll find yourself experiencing much, much more:  Inner freedom, presence, peace, joy, happiness, courage, attractiveness and confidence.

The goal for the believing Muslim is to purify our hearts.  The way to do that is by clearing from our minds any thoughts of anything but Allah, the Transcendent.  In other words, we want to be in a constant state of mindfulness of Allah - aka. "Zikr Allah".

After over 15 years of full-time coaching with people from all walks of life to overcome all kinds of challenges that the nafs presents - in their professional, personal and spiritual lives - I can safely say, the answer is a resounding... "YES!" Clients who had life-long patterns of self-sabotage, or seemingly irreconcilable marital issues - completely dissolved them. Forever. All thanks to spont...

Today marks the 21st anniversary of 56 totally innocent Londoners being killed for absolutely no logical reason, by 4 misguided and frankly, really, really bad Muslims, who detonated bombs in 3 underground tubes and one double decker bus.  I say 'really bad' Muslims, because you don't need to be a genius or a saint to read the Quran and realise that killing innocent people will lead you into Hell…...

Most of us are walking around all day long, tuned in to Radio Station NST (Non-Stop Thinking). We're constantly playing a soundtrack and watching mind-movies in our heads. Some of these mind-movies and day-dreams seem innocent enough… but they often turn dark and soon become nightmares that fill us with anxiety, worry, sadness, anger, guilt and other forms of negativity. Trying to out-work, out-pr...

Question:  I've been practicing the presence techniques you teach, but I'm only able to stay in that state for a few seconds. Maybe for a minute if I try really hard. How can I stay present for longer? The so-called "techniques" I teach to become present are simply doorways or portals into a profoundly deep spiritual state.  There are two main reasons that explain why our minds are so noisy that i...

There are a lot of mindset techniques that you can learn that are designed to help you feel better when you're feeling bad. What they all have in common is that they involve changing your thinking when you feel bad. Obviously, a negative feeling comes directly from negative thinking, and if you change the way you think, you'll automatically change the way you feel.  

As someone who became obsessed with personal development in my late teens and early twenties, I came across a lot of techniques on how to clear up or change negative thinking and feeling. I learned about: neuro-linguistic programming neuro-associative conditioning Gestalt therapy family systems therapy Logo-therapy Cognitive behavioral therapy and many, many more modalities

One of the most powerful methods I've ever learnt (and now teach all of my coaching clients), which makes the biggest difference for everyone is… "The Inner Salam Method".  The Inner Salam Method is a way of channeling your presence and awareness into a negative feeling, no matter how intense it is, as it arises. Within a few minutes, the feeling has literally completely disappeared.

As soon as clients start getting good at becoming instantly present at will and at using the "Inner Salam Method", some variation of the following question almost always comes up: "I can't seem to stay present when [insert mean relative's name] is in the room and starts saying things like [insert mean comment]..." And that should come as no surprise. Now, the simplest solution to this is obviously...

Have you ever lashed out at someone when you're angry?  Or shouted at the kids or other people when you're really upset?  Here's a way you can deal with these situations more elegantly in future…  Let me start by saying not all emotional outbursts are "bad" or "wrong" or need to be eliminated. Sometimes the most heart-felt truths come out in moments of intense emotion.  Plus, there's nothing intri...

There's a classic scene from one of the best movies of all time. In "The Terminator" (the original one), Kyle Reese, who was sent back in time to protect Sarah Connor, has a little dialogue with her where he's trying to explain the gravity of the threat and danger she's in.  Kyle Reese: "Listen, and understand! That Terminator is out there! It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It...

There are a few different ways you can define and compare the different types and levels of the Nafs. I prefer to keep things super simple and relatable. Here is how I break down the three levels of the nafs as inspired and defined by Quranic terminology.

Waswasa has to be one of my all-time favourite Arabic words. Because it sounds exactly like what it is. It's a demonic, satanic "whisper". We are taught in the Islamic tradition that not all of your thoughts are your own. In fact, there are four sources of thoughts: Rabbani (Divine) - those thoughts that Allah blesses you with - where you feel suddenly compelled to do something good Malakani (Ange...

Tomorrow, I'm going to be teaching the first Nafs Mastery Session.  But it's okay, please relax... You don't need to panic! There's still plenty of time for you to sign up if you want to attend the session live ;O) The theme of tomorrow's session is "The 7 Portals into Presence".

One of the biggest problems with the spiritual path, and with self-improvement in general is that it's really hard to measure your level of progress.  How do you know if you're actually any closer to Allah than you were yesterday?  We usually try to judge it by our behaviour… and then pretty soon end up either beating ourselves up or feeling superior to others (...aaaand the nafs wins again!)  Tha...

A couple of weeks ago, to Piers Morgan's delight, a clip of him interviewing Russel Brand went viral.  Because it was hilarious.  The poor guy seems to be experiencing the 'new convert energy' syndrome, where he's super enthusiastic about his new found (Christian) faith, but also a little insecure and eagerly wanting to share the word of God with the people.  He brought his copy of the Bible with...

After over 15 years of coaching, I'm going to let you in on a secret.  There is something that happens in almost every single coaching session, at the moment the client has a breakthrough:  They drop their nafs.  For real. "Insight is when the ego collapses over a particular subject", as mentioned in the book, 'Inside the Soul of Islam'.    What does that look like in real-life?

Therapy and coaching can be useful tools for self-improvement. However, the biggest challenge with them is the fact that most people - especially the ones who need it the most - will never do it.  And this is not entirely without reason.  There is a lot of distrust of psycho-therapists, particularly those trained only in western Freudian models of the mind, devoid of religion, spirituality and som...

There are 2 types of people in this world:  Spiritual Warriors and "Normies".  "Normies" are normal people.  There's nothing wrong with being a "normie". Most people are. They do fine. They go through mental and emotional suffering - much of it needless. They get freaked out when 'big things' happen in their lives and in the world. They're plagued with anxiety and bouts of depression, completely v...

Here's a question that recently came up in a coaching session: Client: I've been trying to be present and I've let go of a lot of thinking about the past… but now I'm constantly thinking about the future. Me: If you want to gain any insight or clarity into deepening your level of presence, it has to start with presence. So, right now, are you fully present, with me, in this moment? Bring your full...

Q: "How do I get rid of guilt and stop beating myself up after I sin?" After you mess up and realise you've done something wrong, the temptation is to become Judgy-Mc-Mufti Pants and start beating yourself up and drowning in guilt. I say 'temptation', deliberately. It is, indeed, your nafs (ego) that leads you down this dark, self-denigrating path of self-sabotage. Most people never become aware o...

I recently had a question from a client:  "The other day I was out with my family and I saw the mother of my ex-fiance. I gave her the nicest smile and she gave me the meanest, most horrible look like she wanted something really bad to happen to me."  At this point the client was on the verge of tears just recounting the event.  My response:  "Awwh, it must be really hard to live in your head." Sh...

Here are a few reasons why I got so excited when I saw that 'MY People' (email subscribers like your good self) voted for the name of my next coaching program to be, "Nafs Mastery"... All of our relationship, mindset and spiritual 'problems' are manifestations of the nafs (ego) playing its games on us, without us being aware of it The essence of all spiritual growth comes down to the extent to whi...

A question came up on a group coaching call recently: "How do you parent when you have no example? The way we grew up, with Pakistani parents who were really strict and didn't really connect with us or do any of the things that we now know we're supposed to do… things that are better for the kids in the long run… and more Islamic - like, how do we not just flip out when we see our kids doing somet...